We all want to give our best while making love. For many, especially men, not being able to fully satisfy their partner for a long time is a source of worry and stress. However, avoiding premature ejaculation in men and lack of sexual stamina in both genders can be easy by combining effective bedroom techniques with a lifestyle change. Here are some steps to help you improve under the covers and ensure a satisfying experience for both you and your partner.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: In the Bedroom
Step 1. Go slow
Sex doesn't have to turn into a racing car rally. Make slow and constant movements and let the excitement gradually build up. Instead of entering vigorously, tease and urge your partner by varying the angle, speed and depth of penetration. When you are both ready, you can accelerate to finish with the fireworks.
A variant of this method is called the "seven and nine" technique and is aimed at maintaining sexual arousal, both yours and your partner, avoiding reaching orgasm. The technique consists of alternating seven fast shots with nine slow shots
Step 2. Try to vary
One of the best ways to conserve your energy, prevent cramps, and avoid premature ejaculation is to change positions, speeds, and actions more frequently. When you feel that you are about to have an orgasm, switch to a new position or stop to stimulate your partner orally or manually. In addition to helping you last longer, this will allow you to live the sexual experience in a more interesting and complete way.
Step 3. Take a break
If you feel like you're going to orgasm, or just running out of strength, stop for a few minutes. During the break, you can indulge in foreplay, say "filth" or stimulate your partner orally or manually. After you have "calmed down", you can pick up where you left off.
Step 4. Focus on foreplay
Penetration isn't everything in sex. You can give your partner a more lasting experience by taking the time to dedicate to foreplay. Kissing, touching, talking rubbish, using erotic toys or accessories that prevent movement can turn sexual intercourse into an unforgettable experience. Repeatedly stimulate your partner orally and manually to get in tune with her or even make her reach orgasm one or more times before penetration. If you can make the most of some or all of the tools you have available in your sex toolbox, a few minutes of sex will be all your partner will need - or desire - to feel completely satisfied.
Step 5. Use thicker protection
While some argue that there is little difference between different types of condoms, many men and women are convinced that using thicker condoms reduces sensitivity and allows them to keep orgasm at bay for longer. Using lube in conjunction with a condom has been shown to help men last longer.
Step 6. Try a desensitizing cream
Many sex shops and pharmacies sell creams that can be applied to the penis to numb it during sexual intercourse, allowing a man to delay his orgasm for longer. Of course, stopping to put a drug on yourself isn't the sexiest thing you could do in bed, so this method should only be used if you are in a stable relationship and feel comfortable with your partner.
Find a product that absorbs immediately into the skin to avoid desensitizing your partner as well
Method 2 of 3: In your Life
Step 1. Eat healthy
Lack of sexual stamina, in both men and women, can be a symptom of more serious health problems and a poor diet. To have a good sex life, eat healthy foods and try to stay fit.
Avoid foods that are high in saturated fat and cholesterol, as these can clog arteries and reduce blood flow. Good blood flow is essential for having the best possible sexual experience
Step 2. Exercise
Having sex can be an exhausting activity! Like any physical activity, you can improve your stamina in the bedroom by getting in shape. Try doing thirty minutes of cardiovascular exercise for at least five days a week, plus some exercise to build muscle twice a week. Regular exercise, especially cardiovascular exercise, will keep you healthy, help your blood flow, and give you the energy to perform well between the sheets. In addition, physical exercise will help you have a more toned and attractive body, making you a more self-confident lover.
Step 3. Try not to stress yourself out
Stress can make it difficult for you to stay focused, excited, and happy during intercourse - and it can negatively affect the blood flow needed for good performance in a relationship. To improve their stamina and ability to enjoy, both men and women should reduce the stress in their life or at least learn to leave it out of the bedroom.
Step 4. Practice
As with any business, practice makes perfect. Have sex with your partner using the techniques described in this article more often and you will soon learn to have more stamina and control over your orgasm naturally.
- Masturbation is also a great way to train yourself to control orgasm. Practice going close to orgasm and stop soon before. Repeat several times before finishing. This will help you learn right away when you are about to peak in pleasure and control yourself once you are at that point. There is no need to do it every time you masturbate, but challenging yourself a few times to see how long you can resist can be fun and useful.
- Masturbating too often in the same way, however, can cause the body to react only to certain types of stimuli, which can be counterproductive when you want to reach orgasm during intercourse. Make sure you vary your routine: use one hand rather than the other, put on lubricant, use sex toys and discover different types of mental and visual stimulation.
Method 3 of 3: In your Head
Step 1. Don't worry
One of the most common causes of premature ejaculation in men is nervousness and anxiety about the quality of sexual performance. The best thing you can do is to relax and focus on your partner to enjoy the time you spend together. Remember that sex is based as much on intimacy as it is on pleasure, and having great sex depends on the affinity you have with your partner rather than on stamina or skill. If you start feeling stressed or too "worried", take a deep breath and take a few minutes to try and reconnect with your partner.
Step 2. Think of something else
The most common way many men and some women manage to delay their orgasm is by focusing on some random topic while making love. Put aside the pleasure you feel in the corner of your head and try to do some math until you're finally ready to orgasm.
- Avoid thinking of topics or images that stress you out or take away your excitement. These could cause you to completely lose the stimulus during intercourse, instead of simply delaying orgasm. Try to think of something abstract like some geometric shapes or remember the words of a song.
- Don't improve your stamina at the expense of being present with your partner. A long relationship can get boring for both of you if you stay with your head in the clouds all the time. Use this technique occasionally and rather be concerned about involving your partner and being active.
