Every man is different, but those born under the sign of Cancer often share similar characteristics and fall in love the same way. If you want to get a Cancer man, you have to become the kind of woman he wants. Pamper him and get in touch with his sensitive side.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Trying to Improve Yourself
Step 1. Maintain a stable lifestyle
Generally, Cancer men have their heads on their shoulders and expect the same from you. You don't necessarily need to have achieved similar results, but you should demonstrate some degree of stability.
Show him that you can take care of yourself without him. You should give your life direction and be able to take care of your basic needs
Step 2. Resist the temptation to materially depend on him
While many Cancer men are able to support you, it is best to avoid these kinds of situations. If your partner has reason to suspect that you are only interested in his money, he could break the emotional bond with you.
- If he doesn't offer to pay for you on every appointment, settle the bill alternately or split it.
- Don't ask for gifts and don't ask him to buy you things. If your partner appreciates pampering you with many material gifts, you should return the favor. You don't need to spend a lot, but you should make sure you express your affection with objects.
Step 3. Get respected
You may be afraid of making your Cancer mate angry by arguing with him, but conversely, a healthy discussion can increase his esteem for you.
The important thing is to make sure your arguments are reasonable and healthy. Do not yell, do not resort to low blows and do not accuse him unfairly. When it comes time to make peace, don't resist
Step 4. Look after your appearance
Generally speaking, Cancer men are quite superficial when it comes to beauty. You don't have to be a supermodel, but dressing up for him from time to time can certainly help.
- You don't have to go to extremes, but try to maintain good hygiene, put on some makeup and wear clothes that flatter your shape.
- Perfumes can be powerful tools. Look for feminine and floral fragrances for deodorant, body wash and shampoo. Find your personal perfume and get your partner used to associating it with you.
Step 5. Behave gracefully
Since Cancer men are sensitive, they value inner beauty as much as outer beauty. Try to lead your life in a sober and polite way.
Losing your temper from time to time is completely natural and normal, but it should be the exception to the rule and not an everyday occurrence
Part 2 of 3: Creating an Emotional Bond
Step 1. Show your empathy
Become an expert on his mood and emotions. Cancer men have a tendency to be among the most emotional in the zodiac. If you can master the ability to decipher his thoughts and react accordingly, you will be able to conquer him in a short time.
- When he feels upset, ask him what's wrong. If he avoids answering you, let him decide for himself when it's time to open up, but let him clearly understand that you are ready and willing to listen to him.
- When he's not unhappy, keep making him laugh. The classic Cancer man loves to laugh, so he really appreciates women who put him in a good mood.
Step 2. Rely on him for emotional support
Let your guard down and be vulnerable in his company. Most Cancer men are quite capable of offering you emotional support and appreciate the opportunity to do so.
Tell him your secrets. After a bad day, talk to him first. Your partner craves the empathy of the people he cares about and can't wait to give it back
Step 3. Appreciate her caring side
You must show appreciation for the nice gestures he makes towards you and learn to accept and encourage this behavior towards others as well. While almost all Cancer men are loyal, in some cases they will prefer to help another person over spending time with you.
Don't be surprised if he runs to the aid of a sick friend or offers to help a neighbor with a difficult task, even if it forces him to give up on a date with you. His sense of duty can show itself at the worst times and you have to learn to tolerate it
Step 4. Measure your words
Healthy discussions can be helpful, but ranting or hateful offenses are not. If you attack his weak points with your words, you could lead him to create a barrier between you and his heart.
Your partner may be more sensitive to criticism than other people, so comments that belittle him can pull him away from you. If necessary, you can give constructive criticism or express your concerns, but avoid phrases that are simply offensive
Step 5. Make loving gestures
If a Cancer man is able to sense how much you love him, he is more likely to fall in love with you as well. Do something nice for him for no reason. A small gesture of kindness at the right time can be very important.
- When you say "I love you", do it in a heartfelt, passionate and sincere way, not so much to say.
- Gifts that remind him of your relationship can be especially effective. Think of a photo album, love poems or travel to places that have marked your history, such as the place where you first met.
- The gestures that make him feel pampered are also highly valued, so try making him a homemade meal or a hand-embroidered scarf.
Step 6. Don't try to make him jealous
You may be tempted to arouse jealousy in your Cancer partner by flirting with other men, but that would be counterproductive. Most people born under this sign are quite possessive, so they get jealous very easily and don't handle this emotion well.
Step 7. Resolve Emotional Problems Immediately
Regardless of who feels hurt, you or him, you need to sit down and talk about emotional difficulties as soon as possible. His negative feelings will not go away on their own and he may think that even you are not able to get over the situation without a dialogue.
- When he feels hurt, he may walk away from you until he receives your sincere apology.
- On the other hand, if you walk away emotionally, he may become clingy and addicted to you. The only way to appease this attitude is to open your heart and make peace.
Step 8. Look for signs of affection
Since Cancer men have a tendency to be very sentimental, you may find that they are in love with you before they even confess it to you. Notice the changes in your partner's behavior. If he becomes significantly more affectionate towards you, you may have broken into his heart.
- The increase in the level of affection and consideration is a good sign. If he hugs you often, asks you how your day went, and tries to figure out what your mood is, he is probably falling in love with you.
- Likewise, if he walks away and seems particularly hurt when you make him angry, he has probably developed an emotional bond towards you.
Part 3 of 3: Pamper it
Step 1. Give it some time
Cancer men are aware that they are very sensitive, so they know they can be hurt by having a relationship with the wrong person. It can take a while for them to decide to open up to you, but if you show your affection consistently, you will eventually be able to let their guard down.
His need for emotional security can be very severe, so he will need to feel that your feelings for him are quite intense before he can let go and feel the same for you. However, once he feels confident in your love, he will be able to be more sincere and free
Step 2. Talk about family
The average Cancer man has a tendency to place a lot of importance on family. Talk about your relatives and encourage them to do the same. If she feels that you share her preferences too, her affection for you may increase.
- Her idea of family may be broader than yours and may include aunts, uncles, cousins, and other distant relatives.
- Some Cancer men carry this trait to excess and are too attached to their family. However, if he develops a good relationship with your relatives, he may learn to appreciate them as much as his own.
Step 3. Create a welcoming environment
Also because of their love for family, Cancer men find themselves best in warm and welcoming environments, which refresh their spirits and open their hearts. By creating similar conditions for your partner, you can encourage them to express their love for you.
Welcome him into your home and show interest in his family. Spend time together at home and spend many moments alone
Step 4. Spend time in the outdoors
An interest shared by many Cancer men is the love of nature. When you have the opportunity to spend a day or an evening together, consider taking it to a place that allows both of you to enjoy nature to the fullest. Getting him to go to a place he loves shows him that you care a lot about him.
- A camping trip is probably more welcome for him than a weekend in a big city.
- Parks and other locations with stunning views are great dating ideas.
Step 5. Make plans for the future
Don't be afraid to think about the future with him. Cancer men are successful due to their ability to prepare ahead of time, so they often greatly appreciate women who can do the same.
- Talk about your dreams and goals.
- Since most Cancer men have no problem making a commitment, they often enjoy discussions about your future together.
Step 6. Be 100% committed to the relationship
When a Cancer man gives his heart to you, he does it completely. You must be prepared to do the same. Before you try to win him over, make sure you're ready to fall in love with him and stay him for a long time.
Step 7. Consider your partner's personal characteristics
Remember that every man is different and that the ideas suggested in this article are just guidelines.
