A woman cannot "force" a man to fall in love with her, but she can push him to feel something towards her thanks to some seduction techniques. If you've lost your mind over a man and would like to be paid back, there are ways to increase his interest. However, to achieve your goal you must be sure that the other person has at least noticed you.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Get Noticed
Step 1. Show that you care about both your physical appearance and your well-being
The time and energy spent on caring for your body will be proof, in the eyes of the man you want to conquer, of how important it is for you to be fit and healthy. Staying healthy and in good physical shape also strengthens self-esteem: a real weapon of seduction.
- Keep active by going to the gym regularly. Don't allow yourself to miss a training session just to go out with the man you want to impress. Instead, offer him to join you, or postpone his invitation.
- You must always have clean and tidy hair, as well as being impeccable in the care of personal hygiene.
- Apply a touch of perfume in the morning or before going out; alternatively, sprinkle your body with a lotion of your favorite fragrance.
- If you apply makeup, aim for an effect that enhances you, but is sober; try not to overdo it.
- Twice a day, brush your teeth, floss, and rinse your mouth with mouthwash. During the day, freshen your breath with mint candies or chewing gum.
- Do your laundry regularly. Instead of buying brand new clothes, make clothes that are already in your closet look their best. Regularity in doing laundry will allow you to always have blouses, trousers, skirts, undergarments and socks in excellent condition. Don't let anyone notice stains or neglect marks on your clothes!
Step 2. Smile often, but at the right time
The best weapon, always available, is your splendid smile: it costs nothing and is never enough! Show off dazzling and authentic smiles whenever you can, no matter if they are aimed at the man of your dreams or someone else. In this way, you will give the impression of being an affable person and, perhaps, you will feel even happier.
- Think of something that makes you smile. If you feel a little depressed, remember moments of joy or a funny story to smile. What is your favorite animal? The memory you care about the most? Regardless of the answer, you need to think about what makes you happy when you're down in the dumps.
- Try to bring out your smile slowly. If you've made eye contact with your loved one, slowly show off your smile so that he or she can light up your face gradually. If, in these circumstances, you happen to blush and look away, let it happen only after smiling: the other person will not be able to resist you.
Step 3. Constantly try to meet his gaze
Looking into each other's eyes is a very important aspect of courtship and can help strengthen the attraction between two people. Don't be afraid to look him straight in the eye both when he addresses you and when you are both silent.
If looking him straight in the eye upsets you excessively or you think it's not time yet, give him some quick glances to increase your chances of catching his eye. If you want to show your interest and see if it's mutual, just look at him for a moment and then immediately look away
Step 4. Choose clothes with a soft fabric that will arouse in him the desire to touch them
Studies have shown that soft, pleasant-to-the-touch fabrics have a gratifying and calming effect. Look for garments made from microfibre, silk, faux fur, and other types of fabrics that can attract her attention. In this way, the man you want to conquer will learn to associate a feeling of well-being with your closeness.
Dress in red if you want to catch her eye. It is scientifically proven that the red color is able to exert a strong attraction, both on men and on women. To get her attention, try wearing a red dress, red shirt, or lipstick of the same shade
Method 2 of 3: Harnessing Your Personality
Step 1. Emphasize the characteristics you have in common
Part of the reason people are attracted to each other is the feeling of having a connection. If you have common interests, emphasize this in your conversations. For example, if you're both passionate about a certain type of music or listen to the same bands, bring it up when you talk to him. However, avoid overemphasizing the things you have in common or lying about it: such behavior could be interpreted as pathetic or devious.
Step 2. Introduce yourself as an independent person
Dependence on someone or being obsessive towards another person are not aspects that drive men crazy. Instead, try to present yourself as a determined and independent woman. By showing that you have a fulfilling life and that you are happy even alone, you will surely be able to pique her interest. Avoid canceling dates with friends and family because of him, and sometimes turn down his invitations to go out to show him you have a life of your own.
Step 3. Show that you are polite and attentive
A rude attitude towards him or towards other people would most likely drive him away. Be courteous and polite to the guy you have your eye on and, at the same time, to others. If you present yourself as a kind person, the affection he feels for you will grow.
Step 4. Explain what makes you such an amazing person
Showing a guy what makes you so attractive is another very effective way to increase his interest. He will feel curious and eager to get to know you better. If you know how to play a musical instrument well, you might try to create the right situation to play it in front of him. Alternatively, if you're a skilled pastry chef, bake some cookies and eat them with her.
Step 5. Bring positive energy into your daily life
People who tend to be pessimistic are attracted to those who are always looking for the positive side of things. Instead of focusing attention on the negative aspects of your existence or talking about the people you don't get along with, try to emphasize the positive aspects. Also, be friendly when addressing him and don't speak ill of others. Try to be a positive presence when you are together and aspire to be in every area of your life.
This is not to say that you should never express disapproval when you are with him. You are a human being. However, listening to a person who is constantly grumbling is not particularly pleasant. Try to keep this trend in check and make your encounters pleasant and intoxicating rather than sad and exhausting
Method 3 of 3: Woo the Boy of Your Dreams
Step 1. Find the right compromise
At the beginning of a romantic relationship, it is essential to be together. This is the period in which a couple deepens their knowledge of each other and enjoys sharing experiences. At first, do not reject the desire to spend most of your time with him, but try to understand when to loosen the rope. According to the "scarcity principle", people tend to want and value what they cannot easily achieve. This doesn't have to push you to use psychological tricks, but you don't have to rush into the first snap of your fingers either. Try to balance the time you spend alone and what you spend with him.
- To spend time in his absence, schedule meetings with friends and family, spend time on your own, or dive further into work commitments.
- As bizarre as this may seem to you, you will both benefit. You will have time to reflect on each one's feelings. Spending moments apart from each other will prevent you from getting tired or taking your relationship for granted.
Step 2. Make him feel indispensable
If the guy you like senses that you need him, his affection for you will intensify. Just ask for his help to perform a task or ask him for advice: in any case you will be able to communicate that you need him and that you consider him important. For example, you could ask him to help you change the arrangement of the furniture in your bedroom, or to give you advice on the choices to make for car insurance.
Step 3. Don't force events
Always keep in mind: you can't force him to fall in love with you. He is free to make his own choices. Moreover, it is not always possible to choose the person to fall in love with. If that's not what he wants, try not to make him pay for it. Resign yourself and remember that, if fate wants it, one day you will be together; if not, an even brighter future awaits you.
Try not to call yourself "his girlfriend" before he does. With such an expression you risk making him run away. Above all, don't talk about marriage or children: you would terrify him for sure
Advice
- Let him feel free to express himself in your company.
- Don't choke him. Allow him to hang out with his friends and, from time to time, avoid accompanying him. This way you will find out if he actually wants you to be there or not.
- Don't pretend to be what you are not: it's not worth it for a guy.
- If you don't know much about this person, try to get to know them better. There is nothing wrong with having a good chat.
Warnings
- Don't flirt with his close friends. All you will do is pit them against each other and in the end no one will be interested in you.
- Don't involve him in embarrassing situations. A man, even if not romantically interested in you, still cares about your inner world. Don't make him give you an answer if he doesn't seem comfortable with you.
- Don't devalue it by constantly reciting your past stories. If you start listing the downsides of your ex boyfriends, he may lose confidence in himself.
- Don't be annoying or oppressive; if he thinks he just wants to be your friend, don't insist and just renew your interest in case he changes his mind.
