It can be difficult to show a guy that you like him. It's hard to find a balance between being too direct and doing it so discreetly that he'll never know you like him. You will therefore need to be able to commit to getting to know him better and then send out signals to let him know that you see him in a romantic light. If you want to know how to do it without looking desperate or without sending mixed signals, follow the steps in this article.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Throwing Signals
Step 1. Look after your appearance
Let him know you like him by making yourself more beautiful when you are together. Always stay yourself but take care of your hair, makeup and clothes to get him noticed. You don't have to wear a mini skirt and heels if you go to a game together, but let him know that you pay particular attention to your look when you are with him.
- Don't be afraid to show yourself a little sexy - if you look good on your body, show it.
- If you're not comfortable with a lot of makeup, don't try to be someone else just to impress him.
- Try putting some lip gloss in front of him; this will bring his attention to your lips.
Step 2. Show your feelings through body language; can help you let him know that he is more than a friend
When you speak, turn your body towards him and maintain eye contact. Don't get distracted by looking away or checking your cell phone.
Using your Body Language
Play with your hair. Twist a strand of hair or touch it with your hands slowly and subtly to show your interest.
Bring his attention to your mouth. Smile to show him that you enjoy being with him, or flirt more boldly by touching or biting your lip.
Look him straight in the eye. Turn towards him or cross your legs facing him to show him that he has your full attention. Watch him talk - looking away will make him think you're not interested.
Give him a fleeting glance. Make eye contact, smile veiled, then look away. This sneaky flirting technique is a playful way to let him know you're shy, but interested.
Step 3. Flirt with him
The more you do it, the more sure you'll like it. You can start with a subtle flirtation and then gradually become more blatant. There are several ways to flirt with a guy:
Simple Ways to Flirt
Speak softly when conversing. Speaking in a low voice will force him to bow to you to listen to you, making you approach naturally.
Laugh. When he makes a joke, smile and laugh, but don't overdo it. Guys love challenges and will try twice as much to make you laugh even more.
Tease him in a playful way. Use light sarcasm and smile thinly as you do so, so that he knows you are joking. Tell him things like:
"I heard the test is difficult, but I'm sure you have been up all night studying, haven't you?"
"Your food smells delicious. I know you want to share it with me …"
"I saw you playing basketball yesterday. It sounded funny, but shouldn't you make the ball go into the basket?"
Step 4. Shorten the distances
Don't be afraid to touch his arm when you laugh together; you can also hug him when you meet. This way he will understand that you want to get close to him.
- However, make sure that he also wants physical contact and not make him uncomfortable.
- If you've been running or exercising together, offer him a massage; if he likes you he will accept and begin to notice how good you make him feel.
Step 5. Compliment him
It can be difficult to compliment a guy without making it too obvious that you like him. Don't say things like "Wow, you're very sexy", use a subtle way of letting him know you're interested. If he has had his hair cut or is wearing a new shirt, tell him it looks great. If he's very good at something, whether it's math or making a sandwich, point it out.
Nice compliments
Give compliments that are sweet and nice. A few sarcastic compliments will keep him on edge, but soften them with a few sweet and sincere comments.
Examples of sweet compliments:
"You are hilarious, do you know?"
"I love how you are always able to make me feel better"
"You did a great job yesterday with your presentation"
Joking compliments:
"I like your shirt. It almost makes you look tough … almost"
"Your sense of humor is fantastic. If I ever need a trivial joke, I know I can count on you."
"I can't believe you got the highest grade on the exam. Was everyone asleep or what?"
Step 6. Ask him if he is interested in any
It's not the most discreet way to let him know you like him, but it's always a trick; casually ask him if he likes someone or let him tell you what he is looking for in a girl; have him open with you to find out if you can interest him. But let him know that you are asking for a specific reason and not just because you want to be a friend or mind his own business.
Step 7. Let him know that you are willing to have a boyfriend
Casually tell him that you would like to have a date and that you are looking for a boyfriend; be careful, however, not to seem so desperate that you want to go out with the first one that happens. You can also tell him about the qualities you look for in a guy and list the very things that make him unique.
Step 8. Have him ask you out
It's another way to let him know you like him; casually talk about what you would like to do next and see if he asks you to do something together. You might say, "I don't have plans for tonight yet, but I want to do something fun." and see what he replies to you.
Send Signals to Ask You to Go Out for an Appointment
Let them know that you are bored and have no plans. You might say something like "I'm not sure what I'm going to do tomorrow night, but I want to have fun", or "Ugh, that's boring. All my friends have plans for this weekend."
You can also use common interests to your advantage: tell him there will be a sporting event or concert of your favorite band and wait for him to ask you to go together.
Part 2 of 3: Tell him you like it
Step 1. Make sure they like you
While there is no practical way to tell if she reciprocates your feelings, you can see certain signs. You need to be sure you have at least one chance before you confess everything to him. Here are some ways to tell if he's interested in you:
How to know if he likes you
Try to notice notes of interest in the things he tells you. See if he is always trying to strike up a conversation with you, teasing you a little or paying you a compliment. Remember that if he's a shy guy, he may tend to talk to you less or get nervous when you're around, which is also a sign of his interest in you.
See if he's looking for physical contact. If a guy likes you, he might try to touch your arm to get your attention or look for other excuses to touch you like a hug. If he behaves this way with you, more than with other people, it could be a sign of his interest.
Notice how often he wants to be around you. Does he invite you to group activities? Does he join the group as soon as you arrive? Does he always ask you what plans do you have? The fact that he wants to date you is a clear sign of his interest.
Also note his appearance: if he takes care of the look and is always taken care of when you are around, it means that he likes you.
Step 2. Tell him you like him
If he hasn't figured out on his own that you like him yet, now is the time to tell him directly. Choose a place and a time where you can be alone and without stress; take a breath and tell him. Don't put pressure on him and wait for a response.
How to tell him the truth
Relax and don't force things. Speak as you normally do and take a few deep breaths if you feel it is necessary. Think about the things you want to say and keep calm while talking.
Be prepared for her reaction. This may catch him off guard, so give him some time to recover from the surprise. He may be happy, flattered, or he may not know what to say to answer you. Be patient and let him know that you will respect any answer, no matter what it is.
An example to start the conversation:
"I keep thinking about how much I enjoy spending time with you. You are a very special person and lately I have realized that I like you more than just a friend. I don't want to pressure you, but I care about our friendship and I wanted to be honest with you. you."
Step 3. React appropriately
If he reciprocates, you can hug him or just let him know how happy you are by starting to talk about dating and taking your relationship to the next level. If he doesn't reciprocate, that's okay anyway; show that you are mature and do not get angry.
- If it goes well, you can also laugh together thinking about all the times you tried to make him understand.
- If it goes wrong, don't despair; be proud of yourself for finding the courage to confess your feelings and then move on.
Part 3 of 3: Get to know him better
Step 1. Try the friend approach
If you want your friend to go out with you, you will already have a solid foundation for your relationship. If, on the other hand, you are not yet friends, try to become one; you will be able to show him that you like him. If you don't know him at all and he barely knows who you are, it becomes harder to confess your feelings to him. Plus, getting to know him as a friend will let you know if you're really compatible, and will give you the chance to show him how awesome you are without too much stress.
- Start in a friendly way. Don't ask him out right away and don't confess your feelings. Start building a relationship with him first.
- Become friends first, don't pester him by always being around him. Find ways to spend more time with him gradually and naturally.
- Beware of the "friend zone". It's okay to be friends, but be careful that it doesn't turn into a friendship that is so deep that it makes it embarrassing to go further.
Step 2. Use common interests as a starting point
If you want to get to know him, you can start by talking about the things you have in common; from families to their favorite sport. If you don't have that much in common, you can always learn from each other and you may find yourself interested in some of her hobbies or sports. And if you want to pretend you're a little more interested than you really are in hearing him talk about his favorite sports, that's okay.
- Most kids love to talk about sports; if both of you are passionate about the same sport you can talk about it, otherwise you could do some research on what he prefers and use the information as "bait".
- You can use music too. Find out if you like the same bands or you could ask them if they have any to recommend. If you already know each other a little, you could make him a CD to get his attention.
- Talk about your family. Tell him about your siblings, about the pets you have or have had.
- Find out if you like the same type of food - if you both love sushi, he'll be more likely to ask you out for dinner.
Step 3. Laugh at the same things
Find something to laugh about together; it can be a mutual friend who's always making trouble or the creepy poster at the back of the math classroom. Whatever the reason, you'll have a way to develop a deeper bond with him and show him how funny you can be.
- If you find something you can joke about together, it will allow you to bond even more.
- Maybe the same things bother you. If you have a hateful teacher that you can't stand or hate the pop singer herself, it can be a topic to laugh at together.
Step 4. Get to know his friends
The way to get to a man's heart is through respecting his friends; if you can make them love you, they too will most likely look at you with a different eye. Going out and having fun with his friends will make him realize that you look good around anyone and that you really care about him: if not, you wouldn't even consider his friends.
But be careful not to be around all the time, especially at times when they might prefer to have some space
Step 5. Do him favors
Once more confident, you could offer him a ride or lunch if he needs it. In addition to being a friendly gesture, you will let him know that you care about him. Just be careful that it doesn't become a one-way friendship, where you go all out for him and never get anything in return.
- If he can't come to school, offer to take notes for him or drop by and bring them to him.
- If you have a coffee just before you see him, ask him if he wants something too.
- However, remember not to overdo it. You're not his girlfriend yet, so don't offer to do the shopping or laundry for him.
Step 6. Ask him for the number
If you are already friends, it will be easier. Don't let him know you're asking him why you want to go out with him, tell him you need to text him when others meet at the bar, or maybe you need to contact him about the details of a party you're hosting. If he's a cool guy, he won't say no and he won't think it's weird.
- Having his number will allow you to have more contact with him: now you can chat via text message and thus take the relationship to a new level.
- Make sure you're not the only person calling and writing to him; give it space.
Advice
- Be yourself, because a guy loves you for who you are. If you behave differently and he falls in love with you for this attitude, at some point you will inevitably go back to being the person you have always been and he will think that you have changed. Always be yourself and behave as you would with your friends.
- Don't worry about saying or doing a stupid thing, because if he likes you, he'll understand.
- Try to increase the esteem you have of yourself, before talking to him: you will see that he will help you!
- Flirt with him. If you are talking or have dated and have to leave at some point, you can always say something like "I like you" or "You're cute" and walk away. Being mysterious helps, but if he doesn't like you, he probably won't show up again.
- Remember that guys often just look for a good friendship.
- You don't need to have the same interests or hobbies as him. Guys like things that you might find weird. However, give him support if these things make him happy (for example if you have different musical tastes).
- Don't pretend to be someone you are not.
- Just because you told him you like him doesn't mean he can make advances faster than you would like. Never allow any guy to use this excuse.
- Being rude is a horrible way to let him know you're interested. This may seem like a way to get attention to you, but he'll think you hate it.
- Don't give him too much attention.
