Sometimes, at school, you just want to be left alone. By pretending to be a little shy, you can avoid over-interacting with others without being rude. If you change your behavior, dress more soberly, and use your body language properly, you will succeed.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Pretending to be Shy
Step 1. Show a mild and reserved font
In other words, you need to be calm or show a calm attitude. Even if this peculiarity is typical of shy people, it can be an advantage. Mildness also suits those with an open and helpful temperament and, therefore, can make you more stimulating in some situations, such as when you have to hold a job interview. Try to be on your own, especially if you see some unfortunate scene. Be humble and kind, and don't show a huge ego.
Even if your goal is to keep people at a distance and not interact too much with others, you should always be on hand when it's worth it
Step 2. Avoid talking too much
In class, try to be more isolated by taking a seat in the back row of the desks. Don't raise your hand too often and don't volunteer for questions. If your mates are together and talking in the corridors, don't join them. The less you socialize, the more shy you will seem.
However, don't let shyness make you look rude. Do not be unfriendly to anyone who speaks to you, especially if it is a teacher or a school official
Step 3. Don't take part in extracurricular events or activities
Shy people tend to avoid moments of aggregation. Generally, they feel awkward when they have to socialize and get anxious during group meetings. Don't get involved in these occasions, but if you decide to go, stay on the sidelines. Sit quietly alone. You may want to bring a book to read or play on your cell phone so as not to seem too expansive.
Usually parties, student events and sporting events are occasions that bring together a lot of boisterous and unpredictable guys, so if you want to be shy, you have to behave differently
Step 4. Get others to strike up a conversation
Shy people find it difficult to strike up a conversation. If you want to appear more reserved, don't take the initiative. Whether it's one person or a group, let others speak first.
Introverted people also have a hard time keeping the conversation going. So, try to be concise and get to the point
Step 5. Don't cultivate too many friendships
Since shy people have a hard time making relationships with others, try to have a small party to hang out with regularly. If you are part of a large group of friends, you may appear to be an extroverted or much loved guy, but that's not what you're trying to show.
Feel free to be yourself when in the company of your closest friends. Just because you want to look shy at school doesn't mean you have to deprive yourself of the ability to build meaningful relationships
Step 6. Keep a book with you when you are in school
You will certainly be more shy if you always have your nose among books when you are among people. Also, you will give the impression that you are a studious boy. If, on the other hand, you sit quietly and do nothing, you may seem awkward and uncomfortable. For example, try to be on your own reading a novel during intermission.
Step 7. Be reserved in class
As already mentioned, avoid participating in class discussions and only answer if the teacher questions you. If the class is split up to complete group work, sit in a corner and do your homework. Since you have to contribute, calmly do the work assigned to you and look down at the paper.
Answer the teacher if he calls you. Don't be scolded and don't get in trouble just because you want to give the impression that you are not very expansive
Part 2 of 3: Dress Soberly
Step 1. Choose soft or neutral colors
Instead of opting for bright or rather flamboyant shades, go for lighter and more neutral ones, such as black, white, shades of brown or gray. This way, it is very likely that you will go unnoticed. Shy people prefer to blend in rather than stand out, and neutral colors are perfect.
The advantage of having a wardrobe full of these shades is that you can combine them without too much difficulty. On days when you want to get noticed a little more or don't go to school, neutral colors go perfectly with the brighter ones
Step 2. Avoid flashy motifs
Again, your goal is to get confused rather than stand out. Flashy or flashy designs will not help you in your intent. So, opt for blocks of color or simpler prints, like horizontal lines. Forget the t-shirts with logos, names of bands or any other writing. They could act as an icebreaker or trick strangers to approach you to ask what the meaning is.
Step 3. Wear simple clothes
Don't wear short skirts and try not to show too much skin. Try comfortable cardigans, plain jeans, and flat shoes. Avoid accessories like costume jewelry. If you like wearing makeup, don't overdo it. Limit yourself to neutral and natural colors.
Fashion allows you to attract attention. If you don't want to be conspicuous, you should stick to something subtle, from choosing colors and patterns to hairstyles
Step 4. Comb the easy way
If you're trying to blend in with people, you don't want to dye your hair pink or go for a mohawk. Go for a more classic hairstyle, like a bob and you're a girl or a crew cut if you're a boy. Any hairstyle that doesn't catch people's attention will do.
You have to be comfortable and comfortable, so choose a hairstyle you like
Step 5. Be sober
If you are looking to look shy without giving up a pinch of elegance, you need to choose understated clothing. A shy and interesting person would never wear skimpy clothes, otherwise they would end up attracting attention rather than directing attention elsewhere. Those who are shy have all the credentials to look interesting, helpful and simple without being excessive in the choice of clothes to wear.
Part 3 of 3: Using Body Language
Step 1. Don't look too much in the eye
When you walk into the corridors of the school and catch the eyes of others, someone may strike up a conversation, especially if they know you. A shy person is careful not to take this risk. So, avoid eye contact so you don't attract attention. People around will understand that you are not interested in talking or interacting.
If you want to be on your own during the break, read a book or start doing homework. That way, you won't look around and you won't end up engaging in unwanted conversations
Step 2. Maintain some physical distance with others
Try to be on your own even when the hallways are crowded with kids. Sometimes, shy people get anxious in confined spaces. By keeping some distance with others, you will make it clear that you don't want to interact with them.
If you are talking to someone, don't be near them. Keep half a meter away. That way, he'll sense that you might be leaving at any moment and will likely end the conversation right away
Step 3. Cross your arms
In non-verbal communication it is a defense signal, a kind of protection from the outside world typical of shy people. Typically, folded arms indicate detachment or closure.
Remember that you are trying to be shy and reserved, not cheeky or annoyed. Softly cross your arms, as if you want to hug yourself, instead of squeezing them assertively. It would also be helpful to keep your shoulders slightly hunched and your head down
Advice
- When interacting with others, avoid that your shyness is perceived as a form of rudeness.
- Try speaking in a low voice.
