When someone starts copying you, it can be annoying, especially if it's one of your friends. It is not easy to solve this problem, but with a little help you will be able to stop it and keep a friendship.
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Understanding Why She Copies You
Step 1. Think about why your friend is copying you
Is it because of something you did? Is it because of the way you act or think? Understand his intentions.
Step 2. Politely ask him why he is copying
It will help reinforce what you initially thought, but don't say anything rude. For example “_, why are you copying my homework? They are mine, not yours”. Don't be too blunt, or you could hurt his feelings.
Part 2 of 2: Get him to break the habit of copying
Step 1. If it says something like “I like the way you walk / talk”, try changing it for a few days
See if hers changes. This means that it is really copying you.
Step 2. Tell him he is imitating you
Suggest that they develop more self-confidence instead of trying to be someone they are not.
Step 3. If he persists, tell him that by continuing to copy you, he is putting your friendship at risk
It should be a clear warning that if he doesn't stop, he may lose you as a friend.
Step 4. If he still hasn't stopped, then it means he hasn't taken into account what you are feeling and that he is not a good friend
Step 5. If it doesn't work, scold him in front of everyone so he can understand how things are
Step 6. See if any of his other friends have the same problem so we can discuss it together
Step 7. See if anyone else can talk to him for you
Ask him "Did he do it to you too?".
Step 8. Remind him that your life is your business while he has to think about his
Tell him that if he copies you one more time, he will hurt you. Two more and you will die. Three more and you will tell the professors. Four more and you will tell your mother, avoiding inviting him to your house.
Step 9. If he continues, tell your friends that he is copying you and that, if he does not stop, he will have the reputation he deserves
Step 10. Go further
You could try to tell him that you love a particularly famous person and stitch it on (for example, put it as your profile picture, post something you can easily get rid of, etc.). If he starts doing the same, then rest assured that this friendship isn't working. It's not worth it.
Step 11. Share your negative experiences with this friend, so that he can see that you are not as perfect as he thinks
However, if it's your sister or brother, tell your parents.
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If you haven't solved it, then give it a good lesson in indifference. He might tell yours in order to bribe them.
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Step 12. If it still doesn't work, try to get him to make the first move
Example: you went to eat at your favorite fast food restaurant; after you read the menu, you tell him you want to order a cheeseburger and, coincidentally, he wants one too. Therefore, always tell them to order first.
Step 13. Experience a destabilizing change
Go shopping with him. Choose clothing items that you think might embarrass you and make people laugh at. On the way home, tell him that everyone will be envious seeing you in those clothes the next day. Once you're sure he won't get a chance to see you, go back to the shop and swap them for the trendy ones. When you show up at school, try to observe her expression as she looks at you. If it has had the desired effect, your friend will understand that he has been made fun of and that, by continuing to copy you, he risks more embarrassing situations than this!
Advice
- Throw away your old copies properly so that it can't retrieve them from the trash.
- If it's something minor, like buying a pair of pants that match yours, they may just like the model. Don't go on a rampage without knowing all the facts.
- Chat politely with him and ask him if he can take the work he copied from you and destroy it or, alternatively, if you can take it and destroy it yourself.
- Imitating someone is the best way to flatter them. When it stops copying you, you may even miss this a little bit. It's almost like having a fan! He doesn't necessarily have to become your best friend, but you can still have a good relationship with him.
- Use wit and keep calm when you get close to him. Don't blurt out phrases like: "Why are you copying me?".
- You can get mad at him, but be careful what you say.
Warnings
- Physical violence is never permissible.
- Don't be rude or insulting.
- Be absolutely certain that he is copying you and only then do you act, otherwise you could worry him.
- Do not attempt an approach if you are not 100% sure that it is copying you.
