Unfortunately, it is not that easy to recognize a dangerous man: you will have to learn to listen to your instincts every time you find yourself in front of someone who gives you a negative feeling, especially if inside you feel at risk. Dangerous individuals often engage in behaviors to justify their actions; such a person may not even want to hurt you physically, but rather emotionally or sexually.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Take Note of all Dangerous Attitudes
Step 1. A dangerous individual may appear perfectly normal until he begins to harm others by affecting their emotions, sexuality or financial resources
Control is a warning sign. If the individual tries to control you mentally, economically or emotionally, they are signs of the risk you are running. Also beware of all the lies he makes up to establish dominion over you
Step 2. Remove the man from you, if you understand that his actions and words could be a potential danger
Even if social rules require you to be kind, whenever you feel put at risk the only thing to do is to show indignation and refuse to approach that person.
Step 3. Maintain your safety every time you go out at night
If you walk into a parking lot or garage, always keep your car keys in your hand. Squeeze them if you are approached by someone you don't know. If someone is following you, you spot a shop that is still open and seek help. If you carry a tear gas canister with you, look for a brand that doesn't freeze when temperatures drop.
A spray for wasps is recommended. This is a much better deterrent, as it has a much more elongated shape and more precise spray. It can also be extremely harmful to the recipient
Step 4. Change your selection criteria
If for various reasons you have had a friendship, or a relationship, with a dangerous person, learn to recognize what are the things that attracted you in the past, try to understand why you have accepted to share a bond of this type.
Method 2 of 2: Take Note of the Information an Analyst Would Look for
Step 1. Learn to recognize the signs that identify a potentially dangerous man before creating a new bond with someone
Suggestions of this type could illustrate some characteristics related to the history, the past relationship, the way in which dangerous individuals choose their partners and how they usually behave.
- Avoid speeding up your relationship too much. Dangerous men generally try to rush things until they reach sexual intimacy; at that point they will have a better chance of victimizing their partner.
- Research his past. Find out if you have a criminal record, psychological problems or if you have a history of domestic violence.
- Ask his friends what his stories have been in the past. When he tells you about his ex girlfriends, listen carefully. There are people who never manage to be alone and therefore continually seek relationships so as not to feel emptiness.
- Identify anomalies or constant attitudes in his behavior. If he has a medical condition he will behave with a new partner exactly as he did with his exes.
- Look for information about his previous partners. If you've had relationships with mentally ill women, listen to your gut and walk away.
Step 2. Study the types of dangerous men
The emotional aggressor, the man obsessed with his parents, the one with a secret life, the one impervious to feelings, the violent, the drug addict or the one who depends only on the partner. These types of men may be suffering from different types of pathologies, which can be assessed by an analyst.
- Observe the man closely, especially if he is able to distinguish your needs early. The emotional aggressor generally treads on this aspect, linked to the points where you are most vulnerable.
- Pay attention to your instincts if you have sensed that you are dealing with a man who wants you to take care of all his needs. She wants a replacement for her mother and is using you to get care and attention.
- Check out his story. Take note of any problems he may have had in the past, his criminal record, children he hid from you, illness or alarming habits, addictions or strange pastimes.
- Turn away from a relationship with a man who is always very busy with you but who is "about to leave" his current partner. This type of men is looking for women without taking responsibility.
- Be careful that he is not the classic case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. The moment his downside starts to surface, he could beat you up, treat you badly, hurt you, blame you, and destroy your things.
- Be aware of his addictions, of any kind. Not just drugs and alcohol, but pornography, pleasure in danger, sex, or an emotional addiction to someone.
- Analyze your feelings. For example, if you find yourself living in a story where you are putting all your effort into giving up everything else, you probably have a manipulative person by your side.
Advice
- If your friends, family, and co-workers suggest that your partner is potentially dangerous, consider their words.
- If you have a nervous breakdown, be very careful. It is a very clear signal to recognize a potentially dangerous person.
- If he makes you believe he is with you to do you a huge favor, wake up, it can't be.
- People who shy away from all commitments are not potentially dangerous but they could hurt you. When you know you've had enough, make the right decision for you.
Warnings
- Getting angry about small things, overreacting, getting angry easily…: these are all signs of a potentially violent and unstable personality.
- If you have already suffered violence, do not waste any more time, resolve the situation but ask for help. The moment in which a relationship ends is always the most delicate and risky one.
