Have you met someone you care about but don't know how to find out if they are already in a relationship? When you think you are attracted to someone, one of the most important things to do is to understand if they are already engaged or if they are dating another person. Fortunately, you can try some strategies to get the information you are looking for.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Interpret the Signs
Step 1. Take advantage of the internet
Check his profiles on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Myspace or other social networks he uses. If you're not sure if they have an account, search for the person you're interested in by name, region, school, or using other identifying information you have. Check if his status is "In a relationship".
- Note that some people have a private profile, so you'll need to send a friend request to view it. This way you could reveal your interest.
- In addition to checking her profile, check out her most recent photos. Are there couple shots or other clues that someone is dating?
Step 2. Use people's search engines
There are many sites on the internet, such as Pipl, dedicated to finding information on specific people. Be sure to verify everything you find with other sources, because the results are not always accurate.
Gathering information about other people via the internet can be helpful if you have a compelling reason to do so, but make sure you don't fall into the dangerous world of online stalking
Step 3. Ask your friends
They may find out what interests you without revealing how you feel to your loved one or to others. Try asking, "Hey, do you know if [Name] is engaged?"
If you and the person you like have mutual friends, you can try asking them. However, if you do, the news of your curiosity could reach her. In this case, it will no longer be a secret. Also, asking a similar question to mutual friends can lead to awkward or uncomfortable situations. Consider carefully if you need to take this risk
Step 4. Consider the items
While they're not the best sources, they can be useful for finding out some information about people.
As with online information, compare the rumors with other sources. Have you heard a news spread by just one person or is it a common opinion? Don't believe everything right away and without confirmation
Method 2 of 2: Talk to her
Step 1. Notice if he mentions anyone
When chatting with the person you like, it may happen that they tell you if they are busy. It might even make a name!
- Ask her what she's been up to recently. Try to get answers like "I went there with my boyfriend". You can usually do this by asking what he did over the weekend.
- An unequivocal clue is whether he uses the "we" when talking about past or future plans and events.
- You can also look for non-verbal signs that a person is busy. Are you always checking your phone, writing and smiling? Is she always busy or does she have to run away to meet other people?
- Talking to the person concerned is also useful for you. In this way you will get to know her better, you will understand if you really like her and if you want to deepen your relationship.
Step 2. Ask indirect questions and insinuations
If the person you like says something funny, ask them "What does your boyfriend think?" or "I bet your boyfriend doesn't laugh at these jokes." Otherwise, if you're talking about something she likes to do or a place she likes to visit, tell her "Do you often go with your boyfriend?".
- You can also try asking "Where did you leave your boyfriend?", Especially if you have only recently known the person. If he's dating someone, they'll answer the question. If not, she might feel confused, laugh and say "Oh, but I don't have a boyfriend." This gives you the perfect opportunity to flirt by saying, "Well, I thought a person (insert an adjective) like you already had a boyfriend." This approach allows you to show your charisma by paying a compliment to the person you like.
- Try acting like you're ending some sort of argument. For example, you can say, "Do you like it when your boyfriend calls you all the time? My friend doesn't want to have to call her boyfriend every day. What do you think?". Use this tactic until you discover the truth.
- While these types of questions help you figure out if the person you're interested in isn't in a relationship, remember that this doesn't mean they like you. However, at least you will have made yourself known!
Step 3. Spend time with the person you care about
Her boyfriend may suddenly arrive.
You may also be able to find out if she cares about someone else based on how she behaves with YOU. If someone likes you, they will try to spend time with you. This is the strongest signal. If she doesn't find a way to see you, it may mean that she already has a boyfriend, that she doesn't care enough, or that she doesn't want a relationship right now
Step 4. Just ask her how things are
The easiest solution is the direct one: ask the person you are interested in if they are currently in a relationship. Be careful, because she will almost certainly understand that you have a romantic interest in her and you will have no way to retract. Nonetheless, this is the quickest and safest way to get a definitive answer.
If you're feeling brave, ask her directly to go out with you. In the face of your proposal, he should tell you if he's in a relationship. Of course, there's a chance she'll accept your invitation AND be engaged, but that's a whole other issue
Advice
- Remember that often if a relationship is destined to develop, it happens naturally. In those cases, you should put aside the games, the chases, the strategies and leave room for a healthy exchange of affection.
- If the person you like is already busy or isn't interested in you for other reasons, don't waste your time. Many feel that when things don't go well with someone, it is because they are bound to get better with another person in the future.
