It is possible to be shy in many different ways, whether in love life or in everyday life. A little reluctance could help you attract a man, but also help you find meaningful friendships. In love, being shy is a respectable method of attracting members of the other sex. Some women are naturally shy, while others have to work a little on it. Whether you are trying to seduce a particular man, or you want to keep your boyfriend in suspense by changing your daily behavior, behaving with a little reluctance will be very simple if you follow these tips.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Attract a Boy
Step 1. Smile at him shyly
If a cute guy you don't know approaches, smile sweetly at him. Try not to sound too eager to talk to him or too enthusiastic. You might scare him. Give him a little smile and blink a couple of times. He will understand that you are somewhat interested, but that you are not overly eager to have his company. You will look approachable, without appearing desperate.
It also works when you meet an interesting guy who is on the other side of a room. If you see a guy who seems to be willing to come and talk to you, smile at him from the distance, making eye contact. In this way you will make him understand that you have seen him and that you are willing to talk to him
Step 2. Flirt with your eyes
Using your eyes is a great way to attract a boy's attention. When you meet someone interesting, don't stare too long and don't seem too eager to get to know them. Blink your lashes a couple of times, looking away and then giving him another furtive glance. Doing so will let him know that you are interested, but not desperate. Give him a burning look when he says something nice to you. You want to make him understand that you like what you see when you look at him.
If you're on the train or in a store and you see a guy you like, try making eye contact. When he looks at you, hold his gaze for a second, then look elsewhere. Look at him again and wait for him to look at you too. When you've made eye contact again, smile shyly at him and look away again. Try to let him know that you are interested without sounding desperate. Sooner or later he will understand that you find him cute and will come to talk to you
Step 3. Use body language
Looking shy is an attitude strongly linked to body language. When interacting with him, you will need to let him know that you are interested without telling him. Stay close to him or sit next to him when you talk to him. When you want to tell him something, lean over and tell him in his ear. Find a way to touch him, for example, lean on him for support while you adjust your shoes or try to recover your balance. When you're thinking about the answer to a question, bite your lip or put a finger near your mouth. This will make you look more intriguing.
Paying attention to your movements around him doesn't mean you have to stick to him. Make discreet advances in his personal space, but make sure he understands your signals. Try not to appear needy or too determined
Step 4. Change your wardrobe
You don't need to wear flashy clothes to attract the guy you're aiming for. When you go out with your friends, wear something feminine, which reveals just enough to attract a man's interest. Wear a short skirt with a high-necked blouse, or show a little cleavage with a dress of the right length. This will make you look attractive, but not vulgar. Remember, once again, not to seem overdone, easy, or in need of her attention, even if you still have to try to catch her eye.
Combine the outfit of your choice with a pair of high heels and a shy and innocent smile. High heels will make you look slimmer and grab her attention. Doing so will make you look confident but sweet, which will help catalyze her looks
Step 5. Play with your hair
A great way to look shy is to play with your hair. When she talks to you, roll a lock between your fingers, or run your hand gently over your hair, with an inviting smile painted on her lips. This will make you seem slightly nervous, which will lead him to think that you are interested in him.
Do not overdo it. Behave in a slightly nervous and uncertain way, making him think that his presence has some effect on you. Don't make him think you're bored or not interested
Method 2 of 3: Keep Your Boyfriend in Doubt
Step 1. Don't be too helpful
Even if you are together, don't make him think you don't have a life outside of the relationship. When he asks you out, don't always accept his proposals. Every now and then he refuses the hour or day he proposes to you, telling him that you are already busy with your friends or that you are busy. Try rescheduling your outing for another occasion that suits both of you. This way he will understand that you have a life outside of your couple, but that you are still interested in him.
This principle can also be applied to electronic means of communication. In today's era of social networks and electronics, it's easier to keep in touch. Don't reply to him on the fly every time he texts, calls, or tweets you. Let him work a little to get your attention: doing so will make you look more fascinating and interesting
Step 2. Avoid sharing too many personal details
When you're dating someone, it's important to get to know them first. However, try to avoid sharing too many aspects of your life at the beginning of a relationship. Do not lie and do not avoid direct questions, but be shy when answering, leaving him with the desire to find out everything there is to know about you. Keep some mystery for the later stages of the relationship. You want to keep his attention alert by chasing you, not bore him because you talk too much.
If you are telling him about your past, don't describe all the details of your life. He doesn't have to know every detail of that awkward moment you spent dancing or all the information he can get about your exes. Also save family stories for when you have been together longer. You want me to get to know you, not write your bio
Step 3. Play around
With a little humor, you can flirt with your boyfriend while maintaining a hint of shyness. Even when you've been together for a while, flirting with him will help make your relationship always seem fresh and exciting. Laugh quietly when he makes a joke. When you are talking, give him a playful nudge if he says something exaggerated. Also try to play with the way you talk to him. Give him some subtle, sexy compliments when you're out in public, like, “You look beautiful tonight. I wish we weren't in a room full of people so I could let you know how much I like you. It is a sentence discreet enough to make you seem a little shy anyway, but explicit enough to make him understand what you think.
Step 4. Leave him a little dissatisfied
Even if you have been dating for some time, it is important that your boyfriend has an incentive to always want to see you again. Flirt with him all the way out, but leave as soon as dinner is over. During the appointment, draw his attention to your body. Run your hand gently along your neck as you speak, or bite your lip while looking at the menu. As you eat, tap his foot lightly with yours under the table, but pretend you don't notice. At the end of the appointment, hug him tightly, running your hands along his back. When he comes over to kiss you, whisper "I had a great time" in his ears, then turn around and walk away. In this way you will drive him crazy and he will not wait to see you again.
Method 3 of 3: Make Close Friends
Step 1. Try to stay on your own
When in a group, don't jump right into the conversation. Wait to be introduced, then try to insert yourself into the conversation a little at a time. It's best not to be too exuberant, but just talk to one or two people at a time. But make sure your body language doesn't seem closed to others. Try to appear open to an intimate conversation, but not too interested in every detail.
It applies to all the activities that you will find yourself doing. Avoid crowded parties or nightclubs. Being shy means staying on the sidelines, trying not to get noticed. Try to prefer close and intimate encounters
Step 2. Be confidential
Whether you are at work with colleagues or with people you don't know, stay on your own. Don't give out personal information among the people you work with and don't tell them about your private problems. If you are with your closest friends, feel free to talk about how your boyfriend left you or the problems you face at home training your new puppy. If you've just met someone, however, keep your distance and don't reveal your thoughts and feelings. It is better to understand what people are and how they behave before trying to start a friendship.
Avoid sharing too much information about yourself when asked questions. It is best not to divulge too many details of your life to the first one who passes by. When you really get to know someone, you can start telling them even the most intimate details
Step 3. Avoid being the center of attention
If you want to be really private, you should avoid showing off. This applies both to your attitude and to your clothes. It is best not to wear clothes that attract the attention of those around you or that make you look flashy. It is difficult to form an intimate friendship with someone if you are always surrounded by a lot of people. If you stay on the sidelines, people who notice you are more likely to be interested in knowing you for who you are.
Step 4. Listen
If you are used to being on the sidelines, listen to those around you. Take in the information that others are sharing. Try to gently work your way into your new relationships, listening to what others are saying to get to know them better. When they have become more than just acquaintances, you will be able to open up to them and contain the more shy and reserved sides of your character when you are in their company.
Advice
- Try not to overdo it with confidentiality. You want him to be fascinated by you, not that you think you are no longer interested or that you want to leave him.
- If you find that a guy isn't responding as well as you would like to your privacy, change tactics. Not all men react the same to this type of behavior.
