After meeting someone for the first time, did you ever instinctively think they were a quirky dude, or a loser? Are you afraid that someone thinks the same about you, or that they can't really grasp who you are? Thankfully, you can now dismiss your fears by reading this article and learning some tricks to make a good first impression. Start with Step One.
Steps
Step 1. Be outgoing and confident
Having these qualities will allow you to appear more sociable and friendly in the eyes of people. If you are still in middle school, obviously you don't need to say goodbye with a handshake. For older people, however, it is highly recommended. In Europe shaking hands is a common practice, if in some cultures, however, physical contact, especially between people of the opposite sex, is not welcomed, then refrain from doing it.
- Don't be afraid to greet new people.
- Smile and wave.
Step 2. Get into proper posture
Body language can reveal many details of your personality and mood. Avoid a sloppy and listless posture because it will communicate insecurity and lack of energy. Stand straight with your back, you can place a hand on your hip if you want, to show that you are a confident, active and energetic individual.
Step 3. Don't move around all the time
Check your hand movements, or place them on your legs. Never bite your nails, don't fiddle with your hair, and don't hold a handkerchief in your hands. Don't try to overdo it and don't show yourself spoiled and braggart.
Step 4. Relax
Posture is very important, but you don't have to look like a robot either. Sit down and keep your back straight, but don't be too stiff as to seem all one piece. Animals are thought to be able to feel our fear, the same is true for people, they will immediately notice if you are nervous. Just be yourself. Don't try to impress at all costs, let your naturalness make a good impression.
Step 5. Smile
Especially when you meet someone for the first time. You don't necessarily have to show your teeth, even a slightly smiling expression can suffice. But don't go too quickly from a smiling expression to a serious one, or people might think you're fake or don't like them. Make sure you leave room for the other person to talk too, there is nothing more hateful than being in front of someone talking non-stop.
Step 6. Look in the eye
Focus on the person in front of you as you speak to them, don't look away or they won't feel appreciated. If your conversation partner has eye problems, such as squinting, you can try to focus on their nose or mouth.
Step 7. Dress appropriately
Be spontaneous and show your uniqueness, even in following fashion. If you want to make a good impression, you have to be yourself. If you are a woman try to be careful not to overdo it with necklines or miniskirts. Try to always wear clean clothes. Look after accessories, they can reveal a lot about your personality.
Step 8. Show your sense of humor
When someone tries to be nice, they are NEVER nice. The people who really are are those who show off a natural sense of humor. Don't use jokes or stupid quotes.
Step 9. Be interesting
Speak smart and use common sense. Women generally don't find a man who talks about brawls in the bar the night before attractive. And it's not even important to know how many beers you can drink in a row. Likewise, men aren't too interested in learning about all the funny moves your pet makes, and not even every detail of your shoes. If you want to attract your interlocutor you have to try to capture his attention, keep his interest high, make him curious. Here are some things to talk about:
- Interesting facts or advice
- Music or movies.
- Requests.
- Never show hostility towards the ideas, religion or ethnicity of the person in front of you.
Step 10. Let the person in front of you talk about themselves
Ask him what he does in his spare time, think of a compliment he might like, for example, if you have a woman in front of you you could tell her that the color she wears looks great on her. If you can't think of anything, then don't say anything! It is very easy to understand when you say things just to do it, in that case rather than praising someone you risk offending them.
Step 11. Look for connections
If you are at a party you could ask whoever is in front of you how they met the person who organized the reception, and from there you can start a speech.
Step 12. If you go to a job interview, have a good understanding of the company
Try to find out as much as possible about the company you would like to work for. Cover up any tattoos, they are often not well seen by employers, or even by potential clients. But at the same time, don't pose and don't appear pedantic.
Step 13. If you have any cosmetic problems with your teeth, consider fixing them
Really bad teeth are not a pleasant thing to look at. Although it may be expensive, try to find the financial resources to improve your smile.
Put the appliance on if you think you have crooked teeth and remember in any case to brush them at least twice a day. Avoid having bad breath
Step 14. Do not overdo the perfume or cologne
Remember that "virtue is somewhere in between," so try not to think that overdoing it will make it more enjoyable. Even if you love the perfume you wear very much, limit the quantity, it could annoy, or even cause allergies to the people you meet. Rather than spraying yourself rivers of perfume, it is better to avoid it altogether at this point. Use it in moderation and don't spray it too close to the skin.
Step 15. Take care of personal hygiene
It is extremely important, especially for teenagers. While it may seem like redundant advice, don't forget to shower every day and wear clean clothes. Brush your teeth twice a day, put on a deodorant or deodorant cream in situations where you think you are particularly nervous.
If you are a girl, you can use a concealer veil. It is not necessary to have a complete make-up, unless it is a special occasion, at which point you also add lipstick, or lip gloss, mascara, and if you want a touch of eyeliner and eyeshadow
Step 16. Close on a positive note
Make your interlocutor want to see you again. Let him know that the conversation was pleasant and you enjoyed his company. If you want to send him a message once you are home. If you're out on a date it's important not only to make a good first impression but to reassure the person you like, so let them know that you enjoyed meeting them and would like to see them again. But don't be too clingy!
Step 17. Be yourself
Do not pretend something you are not, or that label will stick to you. Be spontaneous, maybe that's what everyone says, but there is no better advice. Don't tell lies and speak honestly. If someone recognizes that you lied, they will hardly overlook or forgive you.
Step 18. Remember the names of the people you meet
When meeting new people try to pronounce the name of the person they introduce to you, answer with a "pleasure to meet you (name)". If it's an unusual name, ask him to spell it out.
Step 19. Talk about a topic appropriate to the situation
At a job interview, ask your potential colleague how long they've been there. At the bus stop you can talk about the weather. Keep in mind the answers you receive and ask questions related to the topic (for example: "Have you been working here for a year? What did you do before? Or" where did you live before? ")
Step 20. Don't be a bully
And don't brag about your knowledge.
Step 21. Talk about your interests and hobbies
Ask your interlocutor what his hobbies are, it's a good way to start a conversation. Ask about a specific band or singer. The more things you have in common, the more pleasant it will be to talk.
Step 22. Be positive
If you talk about how you dumped someone, the person in front of you might be frightened at the thought of being the next name on the list. Never talk about your past relationships or dating badly. It is too personal a topic. If someone asks you, change the subject and answer with a “I'm more interested in knowing something about you, what you like to do, what your interests are”.
Advice
- Pay attention to the body language of your interlocutor. He can tell you a lot about his personality.
- Try to improve yourself without changing your nature.
- Be yourself, if you think you failed to make a good impression, share how you feel in that moment and don't hide your personality.
- Speak correctly, pay attention to the terms you choose and the grammar rules. Don't say bad words or offensive words.
- Don't look wrong, don't slouch, and don't roll your eyes, even if you're talking to a friend in your room.
- Always act as if the person you are trying to impress is watching you. Maybe she is doing it even if she seems to be engaged in something else.
Warnings
- Be sincere and authentic. Just try to improve the way you present yourself.
- Be spontaneous or people will label you a hypocrite, or someone who just wants to appear. Be interested even though you may not be at times.
- Take care of your personal hygiene. You will never be able to make a good first impression if you smell of sweat or have bad breath.
- Wear a dress that you feel comfortable in and that makes you feel confident. Wear neat and clean shoes, which is a detail that people often notice.
- Don't start a monologue about your Ex. If you are on a date, the person you dated may think that you are still in love with someone else.
- If you don't like the company of the person you met, behave yourself, say hello, and leave the conversation. Intuition is often not wrong.
