Sometimes we remember great people we knew or dated and want to get back in touch with them. However, reconnecting with someone after a long silence can be complicated and even embarrassing. Fortunately, there are many ways you can rekindle a friendship: choose how you want to reconnect, determine how to start a conversation and meet the person in question; by doing so, you may be able to renew the friendship and even put it on track to become something more.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Contact her
Step 1. Approach her in person
If you happen to meet her in a public place, you can simply choose to approach her and start talking to her. This is by far the most straightforward approach and may require some courage on your part. However, you can definitely make it, with a little luck. When you get close to her:
- Stand up straight and adopt good posture;
- Don't be nervous or uncomfortable;
- You smile;
- Make sure your clothes are in order;
- Relax - as if you have plenty of time on your hands.
Step 2. Send her a message
Texting is great because it's nothing too direct. Eventually, she will see the message and then she can reply (if she wishes) when she likes. However, when texting her, remember to be concise. Also, don't ask her to go out with you right away. Instead, make a joke, joke with her and ask her how she is.
- You might start by sending her a simple message, like, “Hey! We haven't talked a lot.” She might say she doesn't know who you are, so you can pick up the conversation from there. If she knows who you are, ask her how she's doing.
- Consider texting her about something you find interesting. For example, if she is genuinely interested in politics, tell her you were looking at the latest election results and thought about her.
Step 3. Contact her on social media
There are tons of ways to reach out to her on social media. You can send a (short) message, like one of his posts (on Facebook) or just comment on something he posts or says. Plus, you could also tag her in a photograph, reminding her of the good times you had together.
- Tag it in a photo and write "Good times!".
- If you text her on social media, make it something short, like, “Too long without talking to each other. How is it going?".
Step 4. Call her
Calling her is a very direct action and may seem a bit strange, however it could also be the easiest way to reconnect with her. Ultimately, you need to decide whether you want to contact her directly (such as by phone) or more indirectly (for example, via text messages or on social media).
- If you decide to call her, you could start by honestly explaining your intentions. Introduce yourself, then say: "I was reminded of that good time we spent together last fall and I was wondering what I was doing".
- If you call her and she doesn't answer, don't call back. Leave a message or missed call. If he wants to contact you, he will.
Part 2 of 3: Starting the Conversation
Step 1. Introduce yourself again
If you are calling or approaching her in person, you need to introduce yourself. Even though he may remember you, there's a good chance he doesn't remember your name. Take the opportunity to introduce yourself briefly. Also, remind her how you know each other.
- Say something like, “Hey, Anna! I'm Marco, we met through Andrea”.
- Don't be offended if he doesn't remember your name or forgets it.
Step 2. Use humor
However you decide to contact her, don't forget to use humor. Humor will make a potentially awkward situation fun and remind her of your qualities. There are many ways to do this:
- Start with a light joke about something you might find funny. For example, if you remember that she really likes Oreo cookies, you can joke about those.
- Make a joke about fashion, for example: "I was just a while ago at the mall and I saw someone who looked a lot like you but was wearing crocs."
- Make a little self-irony. For example, you can say, "Hey, do you remember me? The guy who wears those crazy cowboy boots."
Step 3. Ask her how she is
Contact her and start a conversation about how her life is going. If you are interested in a romantic relationship with her, this is also a good way to find out if she is available. Also, this is a very sincere and straightforward way to reconnect.
- You can say something like: "It's been a long time since we last spoke. How is it going?".
- If you met her in the office and one of you has changed jobs, ask her: "So, how are you going to work?".
- In case you got to know each other through a mutual friend, you could simply ask her if she has talked to that person recently.
Step 4. Pretend you contacted her by mistake
While it may seem dishonest, text her pretend you're talking to someone else, like a friend or girl you like. Make sure the text is simple, but rather intriguing. He may respond by telling you that you are writing to the wrong person or he may pretend to be the person he thinks you are writing to. Whatever happens, use it as an opportunity to talk to her.
Eventually, you should reveal to her that you knew you wrote to her (or called her). However, it is likely that he already knows
Part 3 of 3: Meet her
Step 1. Invite her to an event
Whichever way you contact her, invite her to an event you need to go to or are organizing. This will make it seem like you're interested in her, but it won't be too direct an approach. Inviting her to an event will give her the opportunity to meet you in a situation where the stakes aren't too high.
- If you're throwing a party with your friends or roommates, this is probably a good time to reconnect with a girl you might be interested in.
- If you are going to an event or party somewhere with a group of friends, contact her and invite her to join you.
Step 2. Ask her if she wants to join you for something simple
The easiest way to meet her is to offer her something that looks fun and informal. This is important, as you are likely to get flat rejection if she thinks you are asking her for a formal appointment. Instead, consider inviting her to join you:
- For a coffee with friends;
- For an aperitif in a bar you both frequent;
- For any event you are both interested in. For example, ask her if she'd like to meet you after a concert or if she'll go to a certain student council meeting.
Step 3. Leave her alone if she doesn't give you any feedback
If she ignores your messages, phone calls, social media messages, or some other way makes it clear that she isn't interested in you, leave her alone. Back off completely. Give her the opportunity to contact you - if she doesn't, it means she's not interested.
