Are you afraid of falling in love with the same person again, or do you easily get crushed every time a potential "love of your life" crosses your path? It is really difficult to control love, it is a factor that could conflict with other aspects of your life, such as career, economic stability, or your family. There is no universal rule to be able to stop falling in love, however, these steps can give you ideas on how to avoid losing control.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: With a Specific Person
Step 1. Avoid flirting
If you do this, the person will understand your intentions, and you will begin to see them as a potential partner.
Step 2. Start thinking that you are just friends
Out loud, without hesitation, talk to everyone and declare that you are just friends. You will train yourself to think about it and to fully convince yourself of it.
Step 3. Try to understand why you can't stop falling in love with that person
- What does it do, or what does it say, to make you lose your mind? Once you understand this, try to protect yourself from its influence, or try to overcome it.
- Do you need a presence in your life? Do you feel lonely? Maybe you just need new friends who can be around you, maybe just to fill that void you became so obsessed with that person.
Step 4. Try not to go out together
If you try to forget your feelings for that person, you must avoid any potential romantic encounters between you.
Step 5. Take your distance
Don't spend time with that person and limit your interaction in every way. If you are forced to contact her then try to maintain a detached or professional conversation.
Step 6. Find reasons not to love that person
Is he too clingy a guy? Do you treat your friends badly? Are your attitudes not clear at all?
Step 7. Get that person out of your head
It may not seem like it, but if it dominates your thoughts it means that you are still in love. Try to engage in numerous activities, keep your mind busy. Play sports or join a club. Do some hobbies you are passionate about. You will see that sooner or later your interests will become your only passion.
Method 2 of 2: General
Step 1. Establish your priorities
Make a list of the things that are most valuable in your life. If a "special person" occupies one of the first places on the list, look at the other names on the list. Take care of the other activities on the list with passion. The less you think about falling in love with someone, the better.
Step 2. Find a hobby that suits you
Simply put, keep busy. Join a club or start your own. If your days are full of things to do you will have less time to think about love.
Step 3. Go out with a group of friends
Try to go out with a large group of friends, or with family. It is easier to fall in love if you go out alone or with only a friend.
Step 4. Don't put anyone at the top of your priorities
Now that you need it, love yourself more than any other person, pamper yourself a little if necessary. Go out with your best friend or take one of your grandchildren to the amusement park.
Advice
- Remember who you are, and make it clear what you want.
- Learn to control yourself. Don't close yourself on the defensive, and don't feel stuck, just keep your heart in check. If you don't get crushed, you will be able to control your feelings.
- Spend time with friends of the opposite sex who you consider only friends.
Warnings
- If you are already in love with someone, and that person reciprocates, the moment you walk away you could hurt your feelings. Try to assess the situation and not hurt anyone.
- Don't go too fast with anyone, let love grow without haste.
- If your problem is not being able to find the right person, you may be looking for them in the wrong place.
- Love is true. Love is a spontaneous mechanism. Don't force yourself, but don't try to choke him at the same time. Anything could happen, so leave the door open.
