Falling in love can be wonderful, but it can also cause a lot of stressful emotions. In those moments, you may need to change your routine to deal with your feelings. You can take better care of your physical appearance, improve self-esteem with positive affirmations, and ask questions to the person you love to deepen their knowledge.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Coping with Your Emotions
Step 1. Remember that your feelings are normal
When you fall in love, your hormones go crazy and can cause you to experience many emotions that seem abnormal. You can feel happy as hell, anxious, stressed, or even slightly obsessed with the one you love. Just remember that the feelings you have are completely normal and it will be easier to bear them over time.
Make sure you don't let feelings take over your life. Keep making time for yourself and sticking to your normal routine
Step 2. Express your feelings
To deal with the surge of emotions that come with falling in love, it can be helpful to find a way to express what you are feeling. Consider talking to a trusted friend about your reaction or write your emotions in a journal. Having a journal offers the added benefit of reducing stress and helping you cope with problems, so it can be helpful in processing your feelings.
Writing your emotions in a journal can be a great way to deal with them. Try writing how you feel for about 15-20 minutes a day. The new love may also make you feel more creative; in this case, you can try your hand at poetry
Step 3. Take care of your physical health
Even if your feelings are strong enough to make you think about the person you love all day, make sure you don't neglect yourself by taking care of nutrition, physical activity and sleep. To keep feeling good and looking good, you can talk to a dietician, join a gym, or take yoga classes.
- Eat healthy. Look for ways to improve your eating habits, for example by limiting fats, sugars, eating more fruits and vegetables.
- Work out for 30 minutes a day. You should try to integrate at least 30 minutes of medium-intensity physical activity into your daily routine.
- Give yourself time to relax and rest every day. Try to get about 8 hours of sleep each night and reserve a good portion of your days for relaxation. Try meditation, yoga, and deep breathing exercises.
Step 4. Spoil yourself
Finding the time to indulge and pamper yourself can help you deal with the love you feel and will also help you take care of your physical appearance. Make sure you follow an effective hygiene routine; keep your hair neat and styled, as well as revamp your wardrobe from time to time.
- Spend some time looking after your appearance. Wash every day. Put on your makeup, use deodorant, hair products, and other cosmetics that help you look good.
- Go to the barber or hairdresser. Get your hair styled or cut to change your look. If you go to a beauty salon, you can also consider other treatments, such as manicures, waxes, or massages.
- Buy new clothes. If you haven't updated your wardrobe for a long time, consider buying new clothes. Find clothes that fit you well and that make you feel sexy.
Step 5. Find ways to distract yourself
It is important to find time for yourself in all relationships, especially in the beginning. However, succeeding may not be easy when all you do is think about the person you love. Make sure you do activities you enjoy so that you can get distracted. Also, maintaining an active social life shows the person you love that others value you and this may encourage them to feel attraction to you.
- Take up a new hobby.
- Go out and have fun with friends.
- Make yourself a rich dinner and watch your favorite movie.
Step 6. Use positive affirmations to deal with anxiety and other negative emotions
Falling in love can cause a lot of anxiety and insecurity, so you may need to improve your self-esteem from time to time. Positive affirmations can help you overcome the negative thoughts and feelings you have.
For example, if you feel anxious because you don't know how the other person feels about you, try repeating yourself: "If it's fate, he'll tell me what he feels. If not, there are a lot of people who would love to be with me."
Step 7. Consider talking to a counselor if your obsession seems unhealthy to you
If you reach the point where your mood is having repercussions in your daily life, you may need the help of a professional. If you feel like you're developing an unhealthy obsession with your loved one, consider talking to a mental health professional.
Method 2 of 2: Interact with the Person You Love
Step 1. Pretend nothing
If you don't yet date the person you love, try not to let them know that you are interested in a relationship that goes beyond friendship. Treat her like a friend and don't flirt with her too much when you get to know each other. If you were too direct in the early stages, you could put too much pressure on her, which would lead her to avoid you.
Step 2. Leave room for the other person
It may be tempting to spend all the time you have with the one you love, but avoid doing it. You both need space and to continue living your lives. If you neglect your commitments to be with the person you love, they may find your behavior unattractive and you may damage relationships with other people.
Step 3. Ask the other person questions to get to know them better
Studies have shown that when people talk about themselves, they feel the same pleasure as when they eat or receive money. To get to know a person better and at the same time make them feel good, ask them questions about their life and interests.
Try starting with regular questions, like "Where did you grow up?", Then move on to more interesting ones, like "If you could become famous for one trait, which one would you like it to be?"
Step 4. Flirt a little
Flirting with the other person will show them that you care. Plus, it can be a good way to keep a relationship going. Make sure you continue flirting even after you have started a relationship together. To do this, just touch her arm, wink or say something nice. Here are other seductive behaviors you can try:
- Look her in the eye. A long look can let a person know that you care and also lead them to feel more attraction to you.
- Turn to her. By orienting your body towards her and imitating her body position, you show her that you care.
- You smile. By smiling, you show one person that you care, while to everyone else you will simply seem friendly.
Step 5. Turn the page if the other person doesn't reciprocate your feelings
In some cases, a love is not destined to blossom. If you've been chasing someone for a long time but they don't react to your advances, avoid wasting more time with them. She may not be interested or just not ready for a relationship. Dedicate your time and energy to someone who reciprocates your feelings.
Advice
- Don't let past romantic experiences stop you from loving another person.
- Remember that some people won't love you back, but that doesn't mean you can't find someone who loves and appreciates you.
