While being rejected in love is quite common, it can be difficult and painful to overcome this experience. Whether you have a crush on someone who doesn't love you back, or your boyfriend doesn't love you the way you thought, it can take time to heal from a broken heart. Read these tips on how to forget a guy so you can change your perspective and leave the past behind.
Steps
Method 1 of 11: Distance yourself from the guy
Step 1. Avoid remembering what he put you through
To make your heart heal faster, it's a good idea to keep contact with him to a minimum. There is no need to avoid it at all costs, and it may not be realistic to think about eliminating it completely from your life, but you should do what it takes to feel better.
This can mean spending time in new places or with different friends, if you and the guy you're trying to avoid were in the same company. You could also block him on social networks and delete his contact from your phone
Method 2 of 11: Erase old photos that bring up memories
Step 1. This may sound painful, but it's a great way to move on
Of course, it is not necessary to throw everything away (some memories can be pleasant). However, if your smartphone's camera roll is full of photos you're with him, it may be a good time to empty it. If you'd rather not delete those images, consider saving them to USB media to keep in a drawer.
The same goes for any photos you have around the house. If you'd rather not eliminate them entirely, group them and store them in a box or closet drawer
Method 3 of 11: Accept your feelings
Step 1. This is the first step to feeling better
Try to let off steam by confiding in a good friend or writing your feelings down in a journal. Regardless of how serious the relationship with the boy you are trying to forget was, this step is very important in the grieving process.
Avoid pretending that nothing has happened or that what has happened does not affect you. According to psychologists, to really get over a person's memory, you need to acknowledge and admit the problem
Method 4 of 11: Avoid blaming yourself
Step 1. You would only feel worse
It is easy to look within and see one's faults; however, try to remember that there is nothing wrong with you. If the guy you can't forget doesn't care about you, it just means you weren't meant to be together.
It can be helpful to use positive affirmations to remind yourself that it's not your fault. You can repeat phrases like "I deserve to be loved" or "It wasn't my fault."
Method 5 of 11: Accept your independence
Step 1. Doing fun activities on your own will make you feel better
Go out for an ice cream, drive around the city or spend some time in nature. Being alone can be a lot of fun and remember: you don't need anyone to enjoy life!
Take note of all the things you do on your own and all the ways you affirm your independence. For example, can you support yourself? What are the ways you try to make your happiness come true?
Method 6 of 11: Write a list of your positive qualities
Step 1. Remember how wonderful you are
Sit down for a moment and write down 10 things you love about yourself, even if they are small. You can choose the characteristics you prefer: sobriety, a sense of fashion, kindness towards others, friendships or your skill in the kitchen. When you feel down, take heart by reading the list.
- Feeling rejected can lower your self-esteem, and this exercise is designed to help you remember your worth.
- In some cases, it can be helpful to ask a good friend for advice. From time to time, it can be difficult to recognize one's positives.
Method 7 of 11: Give yourself time
Step 1. It really is the best medicine
While you may feel frustrated because it takes a long time to forget a person, avoid being hard on yourself. If you try to force yourself to move on too quickly, you may feel even worse.
Even if you weren't in an official relationship, you just lost someone you thought was important to you. As a result, you need to give yourself time to recover, without thinking you need to make more progress
Method 8 of 11: Train
Step 1. Find your smile by releasing endorphins
While exercise may be the last thing you want to do when you're feeling sad, some studies show that exercising can help you feel less depressed and more confident. Try running, swimming, biking, or yoga.
Exercising will also give you the feeling that you are in control of your situation. Imagine taking control of your life, just like you are in control of your body during training
Method 9 of 11: Hang out with friends
Step 1. Spend time with the people you love the most
If you don't feel like doing big things, invite a few friends over to see a movie. Alternatively, meet at a bar for a couple of drinks. Isolating yourself will make you feel worse, so it's important to rely on your support network.
Your relatives can also help you. Ask for the support of your parents, your siblings and all the people with whom you have an intimate relationship, who know how to give you advice and console you
Method 10 of 11: Plan fun activities and outings
Step 1. Forget the trouble by trying new things
Go out for dinner, watch a movie, plan a trip or spend a day at a spa. Try a new hobby that has always attracted you, with friends or alone.
If you can't stop thinking about a guy, bring a couple of friends with you who can help distract you so you can have fun
Method 11 of 11: Talk to a therapist
Step 1. It can help you deal with your feelings in a healthy way
Professionals in this field are trained to guide people through grieving, to help them move on and prepare for future relationships.
If you are depressed and have a hard time forgetting a guy who doesn't care about you, a psychologist can advise you whether to try therapy, attend a support group meeting, or refer you to a psychiatrist who prescribes medicines to make you feel better
Warnings
- Avoid self-destructive behaviors such as drug use, drinking alcohol, and casual sex. These are not effective ways to forget a person and can cause further problems.
- If you are depressed and think you are hurting yourself, get help right away so that you feel better. You can call the friendly phone at 02 2327 2327 or the emergency service at 112.
