Many people tend to take a cautious attitude towards others, some are afraid to interrupt a conversation and appear rude, others are afraid of choosing the wrong group to relate to and are not well prepared to befriend anyone.
Steps
Step 1. Show yourself available to others
Don't keep your arms crossed, it is body language that shows a certain closure to the outside world, at which point it will be difficult for someone to approach to talk to you. Instead, give the impression of being available and smile spontaneously.
Step 2. Mix with the other guests and talk to everyone who comes to the party
Ask someone to introduce you, or take the initiative!
Step 3. Have fun and show it to others too
Smile, and if you notice that someone comes to the party, but they don't know anyone, approach them and introduce them to the group of people you are talking to.
Step 4. Involve others
If you are talking to some people and you notice that someone would like to join the group, look at them and smile at them, turn to them and try to involve them in the conversation.
Step 5. Explain to the newcomer what the subject of the conversation is
Avoid any negative judgments or topics related to the world of work, find something that is enjoyable for everyone, for example sports, music, events and parties, etc. Ask those around you to recommend a restaurant, movie, or museum they particularly liked. Keep the conversation soft and pleasant.
Step 6. Invite others to help you
If you've noticed that there are guests who haven't settled into the party, try to break the ice by asking them to help you do something.
Step 7. Bring some friends with you to the party, if you have the right company you will surely not stay on the sidelines
Step 8. Always be guided by a positive attitude
Advice
- Be nice and lively (this will make you a good company) and don't try to care too much about others. Give yourself breaks between conversations and seek a balance between lighter and more challenging topics. If you try hard to be sociable, your self-esteem and skills will increase. It's all about knowing how to have fun.
- Ask questions, don't put yourself center stage. You have only one mouth to speak but two ears to listen. If you understand the meaning of this phrase, you will surely be able to quickly improve your ability to socialize.
- Invite people you know well so you can feel comfortable talking to them.
- When you are introduced to someone, make direct eye contact and shake hands with a firm grip to show the other person that you recognize the importance of the meeting.
- Move often and try to talk to everyone.
- If you like being alone, there is nothing wrong with that. Life is really too short to do things you don't like and make you uncomfortable. After all, the best rule is to always be spontaneous and authentic. You could let others know what loneliness means to you, or what you usually do to overcome it. People may get to know you better or take cues from your words.
- In conversation, avoid asking questions that are answered only with a "yes" or a "no". Rather than saying "Do you live in Rome?" ask your interlocutor "Why did you settle in Rome?" or you can start a conversation with “could you tell me about…” These kinds of approaches will give you more opportunities to develop a good conversation.
- Be yourself, don't try to be a different person and trust your abilities. And of course presented clean and fragrant.
- A party attended by different types of people is not the right occasion to remember some episodes that bind you together with your friends because newcomers will surely feel cut off from the conversation. This is a gesture that denotes rudeness. If you meet an old friend at a party and memories suddenly come to the surface, suggest that they drop by for a dinner in the name of the old days. For the moment, however, try to focus only on the present.
- Look for something that you have in common with someone else. Often it is not possible to understand how many things you can have in common even with people you don't know.
- Be genuine and let others see how much you enjoy being around people.
- Be presentable. It will help you gain the trust of others.
- Introduce yourself to people you don't know and try to memorize their names. When someone joins the group, or comes to the party, you might say something like “Luca, did you meet Maria? She is a literature teacher and has just moved to our city"
Warnings
- Don't sit still on the sofa waiting for others to strike up a conversation with you. Get up and start talking.
- Don't be shy and make an effort to always look others in the eye.
- Don't be fake! Lies have short legs.
