You went out with your partner and you are cuddling, when suddenly he gets up and walks away. You don't know why, but you feel like he's gone because of something you did. But when you ask him about it, he says it has nothing to do with you. How to behave then when he ignores you?
Steps
Step 1. Ask him what's wrong
This should always be the first thing to do. If he wants to talk to you about it, it means that he is open to dialogue and is willing to get help from you whatever the problem that ails him. If he prefers not to talk about it and says it doesn't have anything to do with you, try not to take it. Creating even more tension won't help him get over the situation. Step aside and give him his space for a while.
Step 2. Remember that very often people don't realize what the problem is that is bothering them
In these cases, of course, a person has difficulty explaining something they do not understand.
Step 3. Give your partner their space for as long as they need it
Sometimes it can take hours, sometimes after a few days it can resolve itself.
Step 4. If it gets too heavy for you, let him know
Try to approach her attitude more firmly if you see that there are no changes despite your attempts to get to the bottom of the situation. Tell him that you care about him, but that all this confuses and demoralizes you, so you are about to exhaust your willingness to deal with his problems with him.
Step 5. Break the silence by hugging him and holding him tightly
Tell him that you love him even if he doesn't feel like talking to you and that you will continue to love him and that you will be available to listen to him when he changes his mind and feels the need to talk.
Step 6. Seek the help of a specialist
If the problem becomes constant, your partner may be suffering from a clinical mood disorder. If you choose to go to a specialist, a possible disorder will be diagnosed and you can count on valid help.
Step 7. Close the relationship
If things don't improve, you may need to break up with your partner. Don't condemn yourself to an unhappy life in which you never know what your partner is thinking to the point where it may no longer depend on him whether or not he is around you to support you. A relationship must be balanced, it cannot always be all about one partner.
Advice
- Don't take it personally if he continues to ignore you. It could really be a problem that has nothing to do with you. Try to stay calm and when your eyes meet try to smile at him so that he understands that despite everything you care about him. Remember this is your partner's problem, not yours. You are close to him to offer him your help in solving any problem that is making him suffer, but you don't have to take on his problem and you cannot help him if he does not allow it.
- If you can both stay calm when one of the two is in a bad mood, you will be able more easily to get out of situations of malaise and get back to being good together. Try to compensate for each other's moods.
- If he hurts your feelings by walking away, don't take it personally and don't explode it when you talk to friends about it by painting him like a monster, because you may regret it later.
- Don't allow yourself to get too stressed out by this situation. If you can keep your cool, stay calm and in control of yourself during this difficult time, the situation will not backfire later in your relationship, but you can more easily leave it behind.
- As much as he can take out his negativity on you even aggressively, try to stay calm. Having two screaming in an argument doesn't help anyone.
- Remember that sometimes love hurts, it's up to you to decide if you want a relationship to work the way you want. You cannot force anyone to behave the way you want towards you.
- Don't put a lot of pressure on his friends to see if they know what's going on. He might find out and think he doesn't respect his privacy.
- If things go really wrong, see a specialistA. Your partner may be suffering from an easily treatable ailment.
Warnings
- If he beats you or any form of physical violence occurs, you must abandon ship.
- If you always find yourself in the situation of constantly having to rush to your partner's aid, to save him, to protect him, then it's time to stop seeing him. This is a typical attitude of those who want to take control and domination of the partner. Remember that dating doesn't mean that you immediately play married. Appointments are opportunities to get to know each other better. If you don't like the way you have to behave when you are with someone, it means that they are not the one and maybe you should go out with someone else. This does not mean that they are a bad person, just that you are too different and that you don't have to stick together. Know when to leave.
