Doesn't answer your calls or doesn't call you as often as before; she is always busy texting when she is with you and then refuses to tell you who she is texting to; cancel appointments and always find unlikely excuses; suddenly she starts going out much more often with her "friends", when she doesn't even like them; she starts wearing clothes that are more flirty and sexy every time she goes out without you; you call her at home but find out she went to a sleepover she never even mentioned before… is she cheating on you?
Steps
Step 1. Ask him
Don't beat around the bush. When a girl shows so much disinterest that you wonder if she's cheating on you, she's probably tired of you and doesn't want to be bothered, so much so that if you ask her about it, she might even leave you. If you suspect that things with her aren't that clear, you can ask her about it, but in a calm way. Don't use an accusatory tone, but you can definitely keep a sad and frightened tone; because women usually have soft hearts, and if she isn't completely cold to you, she might really want to save the relationship, her heart might melt, and maybe she'd like to be honest with you and try to make the relationship work.
Step 2. Hire a private investigator
This may not be a good solution if you are on a tight budget, and if you don't want to spend some money on a girl who might even cheat on you. But if you want to confirm your suspicions, do it. Contact any private investigator and ask them to do the work for you. Simple.
Step 3. Surprise her and catch her in the act
If your girlfriend lives with you and usually stays at home when you go to work or on the road, you can try to surprise her and "control" her. Come back suddenly during lunchtime, when you usually grab a sandwich on the fly near your office. Or, if you normally come home for lunch and dinner, tell her that this time you will not come home, and instead arrive suddenly. This is useful if she isn't actually doing anything wrong, and you can make it seem like you really wanted to surprise her. If she works and you suspect she's having a dinner date with someone, get out of work before she leaves hers, show up with some flowers and wait for her secretly. If she's not going to dinner with anyone, you can pretend you're there to take her out, like it's a surprise. Women love romantic surprises, so this action can work both ways, both to catch your girlfriend in the act, and to make her fall even more in love if she's not cheating on you.
Step 4. Put hidden cameras in places where you think it might betray you
Always remember to hide them very well.
Step 5. Try to probe the situation with her friends
Sometimes girls confide in their friends about relationships. One way is to have her friends tell you. If they have a soft spot for you and they like you, you're lucky, because they'll be more willing to tell you things. But be careful, because they may even tell you lies if they want you two to break up. You could also ask a friend of yours to date one of them and investigate for you.
Step 6. Set up a fake account on a dating site where she is also present
Today it is quite easy to set up an account from Facebook to dating sites. You simply need a different email address. Then just contact your girlfriend on Facebook or on that dating site that she continues to hang out with even if you've been together for quite a while. Make sure you add pictures of "yourself" depicting all the features you find attractive: blue eyes, blonde hair, big muscles? If she responds to your attentions, then you can confront her.
Advice
- If your girlfriend is cheating on you, you should also ask yourself why? Most of the time, people don't cheat without good reason. Something may be missing in your relationship, or something may have changed between you and her, and she may be looking around. Remember that it takes two hands to clap.
- Sometimes you have to take a step back and ask yourself if you are not a little too suspicious. The fact that your girlfriend may suddenly be engaged in something else does not necessarily mean that she is cheating on you. Believing that she is cheating on you can also make your fears come true, as the stress you put on her could lead her to change her mind about your relationship and find an outside solution.
- WAIT. Stop and have a quiet moment, think seriously about your feelings … if you are so suspicious to the point of thinking about hiring a private investigator, then you should ask yourself: "Is this person really for me?" and maybe you should make the decision to end the relationship… AND THEN proceed, if you still want to hire a private investigator or try the other methods to "catch her in the act", but make sure the relationship between you is already "over". IF, and it's a big IF (because when you really suspect, you're probably right …), but IF you are wrong, you can try to "recover" what you can … Also, IF she really loves you, and you love her, then the suspicion is an expression of your love for her and reflects her inability to make you feel safe, and perhaps reflects your inability to MOTIVE her to make you feel safe. You can work on those (maybe) mutual mistakes if you want … BUT, if you already feel that the relationship is "over" before trying to "find out", it's because you probably want it …
