Is there a guy who you think may be interested in you but you are not sure? Or maybe you can't tell if your new boyfriend is really into you? Whatever your problem, wikiHow is here to help! Thanks to a little emotional detective work, you can find out if your man is really yours or is just on loan … Start with Step 1.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Starting with the Basics
Step 1. See how he behaves towards you and compare it to the way he behaves towards others
Does he pay more attention to you than to other girls (or even his friends)? Is he kinder or does he try to touch you more? These could be signs that he is interested in you.
Step 2. Watch your body language
Notice how, when and how often it touches you. A touch on the cheek or neck is a very clear signal, but one on the hand, arm, or lower back can indicate that it wants to get closer to you. You should also pay attention to stroking with the thumb. If he gently strokes you with his thumb while touching you, that's a good sign.
Step 3. Notice if he cares about your life
Does he ask you about your hobbies? Does he ask you for updates on things you told him you had to do? Do you make an effort to get to know your friends? Do you want to know about your family or where you grew up? These are all signs that he is interested in you.
Step 4. Check the gifts he gives you
If a guy gives you small gifts, especially things he's done himself, it's a sign that he's interested in you. Whether the gift is tailor-made for you or something you did together is a very clear clue.
Step 5. Test the terrain
When in doubt, the best thing to do is to remove the ambiguity and test the ground a little. Ask him to take you somewhere or invite him to spend time alone with you, like on a date. If he says no, that's not a good sign. If he likes you, he will do anything to spend time with you.
Part 2 of 3: Analyzing his Actions
Step 1. Notice if and when he calls you
If he doesn't call you even though he said he would or if he doesn't call you a few days after your appointment, he's not interested. There are two options: a) he is not interested enough and therefore does not call, b) he plays emotional games and wants you to call first. Both options say nothing good about him. Even a shy guy, after a date or after he got your number, spent a few days hoping you break the ice will call or text you because at least he'll know if he has any hope with you.
Step 2. Think about how he talks to you
When he talks to you, does he respect you or make offensive comments? Not simple comments to tease you, but really rude, which he says are just jokes. A man who doesn't respect you probably isn't interested in you or, even if he thinks he is, he certainly doesn't deserve you. Look for a man who talks to you as an equal, who would never say anything offensive to you if he can avoid it, and is more interested in helping you than hurting you.
Step 3. Think about how he talks about you
You should also pay attention to how he talks about you, and how he describes you when introducing you to other people. Introducing yourself to others is a good sign anyway, because if they didn't care about you they wouldn't even think about it. However, if you are dating and he has a hard time calling you his girlfriend you should worry. If you are friends, listen carefully to the tone of her voice when she says you are her friend. Does it emphasize the word? Not a good sign.
A guy who is genuinely interested in you and who really likes you will introduce you in terms that denote as much familiarity as possible, because he's proud and happy that you like him enough to spend time with him
Step 4. Pay attention to time with you
Think about how much time he spends with you. Does he only do it when he has nothing else to do? Or does he look for reasons to be with you whenever he can? If he invites you to all kinds of events and generally tries to be with you, that's a good sign.
Step 5. Look at the sacrifices he makes for you
Another clue is whether or not he makes sacrifices for you. If he sets aside his friends to spend time with you, that's a good sign. If you miss a Call of Duty night to help you study for an exam, that's a good sign. We usually make sacrifices for the people we love, so if he makes sacrifices for you he probably likes you.
Step 6. Compare what he talks about you with what he talks about his ex
If you're dating or nearing that stage and he talks more about his ex than about you, that's not a good sign. If he has feelings for you, she should be a long way from his thoughts. Either way, if you compare something you do with something she did, she's probably using you to feel better. Be careful, it may not last.
Step 7. Don't expect quick changes
If the situation moves with geological times, he is not interested in you, but changes that are too fast are also not a good sign. If he's really into it, he'll want everything to be perfect, so it's normal for things to go slowly. Don't panic if he doesn't rip your clothes off, but don't let him take advantage of you either.
Step 8. Ask yourself if it has changed for you
Another clear sign that a guy is very busy is if he makes changes in his personality or habits just to please you. If he started working out, went back to school, dresses more carefully, cares more, is nicer, quit smoking, or whatever, then he likes you. He wants to be the man you believe you deserve. It is very tender.
Step 9. Notice what they want or don't want to share with you
A guy who likes you a lot will want to share his life with you. He will look forward to introducing you to his friends and maybe even his family. He'll want to show you the things he likes and the places where he goes to have fun. Instead, someone who is not interested and is taking advantage of you will hide things from you. If he doesn't want you to look at his phone, be careful. If he goes to great lengths not to let you know his friends, even if you've been dating for 6 months, run away. If he refuses to tell you where he goes every Thursday night, forget it. These are all signs that he doesn't trust you.
Step 10. Check how much you drink
If he is drunk every time he calls you or if he insists on drinking every time you are together, that's a bad sign. If you know him more drunk than sober, that's a bad sign. Not because it's a character flaw (though it might be), but because it only shows he likes you when his brain isn't clear.
Step 11. Ask yourself the most important question
Did he ask you out? This is the most important question in determining if a guy is interested in you. A seriously interested guy, as we've already mentioned, will go out of his way to be with you. Timid ones will struggle to ask, so beware of false starts (when they say they want to talk to you alone but then get embarrassed and talk about something silly), but if a guy has serious intentions, he'll find a way to be with you.
Part 3 of 3: Extra Help
Step 1. Seek help finding the Right Person
If you are with someone but things are not going anywhere or if you want to find out if it's worth it, think if they really are the Right Person for you. You deserve the Right Person and you don't have to settle for anything else.
Step 2. Start attracting nice guys
If he turns out to be a loser, you should pay attention to the kind of guy you attract and are interested in. It's easy to send wrong messages that only lead to heartache, but it's just as easy to avoid them.
Step 3. Learn to understand what love looks like
When you are evaluating a relationship, make sure you know what love should be like. It's all too easy to convince yourself to accept unpleasant behavior from someone we really like, but you don't have to become a victim. Your happiness is important.
Step 4. Get him to ask you out
If this guy is passing all of your Nice Guy tests and he seems to really like you, you may be able to get him to finally ask you out. Sometimes kids - especially shy ones - need a little persuasion.
Step 5. Ask him to hang out yourself
If he doesn't move, but you believe his feelings are sincere, take the initiative and ask him out yourself. There is nothing wrong with that, just realize that it could end up with an answer you don't like. On the other hand, however, things could go very well!
Suggestions
- Don't try to kiss him until you're both comfortable.
- It may not last, so expect nothing more than a beautiful friendship until he says he loves you.
Warnings
- Don't go out with anyone who might want you for your money. It's not safe.
- It is not a good idea to get pregnant before marriage. You could be separated and you would have no one to help you with the children.
