You have never dated a rich man before today, and you are nervous because you don't know if you will fit his lifestyle. How can you build a solid relationship without feeling out of place, and show your man that you love him for who he is faster than you can say "foie gras"? Read this article to find out!
Steps
Step 1. Reflect on your motives
Ask yourself if you are in love with a man who later turned out to be rich, or if you are dating "because" he is rich. If the diamond earrings she gave you are more important than her tender kisses, then you are probably in this relationship for the wrong reasons and it won't last. Here are some questions that can help you understand your true intentions:
- Would he still be a nice guy without the nice house and the fast car? If you're not sure you'd still love him if he lived in a studio apartment and drove a car older than you, then you're in love with what he has, not what he is.
- Are you twenty and he is approaching retirement? Even if age is just a number, "Sugar Daddy" is not just a word.
- Is "he rich" the first thing that comes to your mind when someone asks you what you love about him? If her wealth haunts you, then you probably don't respect her other qualities - or maybe they don't exist.
- Do you only go out with rich men? If he is the tenth rich man you date, then this may be the only trait that interests you, and it may even be time to understand what you are really looking for in a relationship.
Step 2. Enjoy her wealth, sure, but reciprocate as you can
Of course, champagne and oysters are a luxury, but if you start demanding them every night without giving anything in return, your man may suspect that you are falling in love with his bank account, not with his intelligence or his sense of humor. Find a balance between expensive activities and those that everyone can afford.
- Put your hand in your wallet every now and then. Even if you don't have a lot of availability, it's important to show him that you care, even if it's just about paying for the movie after he pays for dinner, or offering a couple of drinks at the bar. You can also look for offers (for example on Groupon) in expensive restaurants, or look for a place that does free live music, so you can afford good food and a beautiful environment.
- Indulge him with a no-cost meal. You can invite him over and cook a delicious, no-cost dinner washed down with a bottle of wine at a reasonable price, or organize a tasty picnic, showing him that you have invested time and energy in planning your outing.
- Invite him to a zero-cost activity. Ask him to do something outdoors, such as walking, hiking, or simply sunbathing on the beach. If it's too cold to be outdoors, take a trip to a museum or bookstore in your area. This will show that his presence is more important than his gifts.
Step 3. Don't insist on his wealth
If that's right, he won't like being told over and over how rich he is or how much you love dating a rich man. It could make him lose confidence in himself - and in your story.
- When introducing him to your new friends, warn them to be discreet. If one of them says, "Oh, so you're the rich guy I've heard so much about", it might seem like it's the only thing you care about him.
- If he wants to offer you something expensive, let him do it. If he insists on taking you to the opera or on a luxurious vacation, you don't have to ruin his gesture by repeating "It will cost a fortune …" It will ruin the romantic atmosphere and you will not appreciate his gesture.
Step 4. Try to adapt to his lifestyle
Even if you don't have to reciprocate every gift from her, especially if you can't afford it, it's a good thing to have common interests, and to understand her world better. The more things you have in common, the stronger your love will grow.
- Enter the role. Get as high as you can, even if it means buying clothes at the mall that make you "look" rich. You can replace diamonds with cubic zirconia, buy counterfeit bags identical to the originals, or wait for that expensive dress to be on super sale before choosing the perfect accessory. You can also occasionally show off some "really" luxurious items - it's the quantity, not the quality that matters, so if you have luxurious outerwear, the rest of your outfit will create itself.
- Learn the hobbies of the "rich". Try sports that are synonymous with well-being, such as sailing, polo or tennis. You will learn something new, you will make new friends, and all while having fun!
Step 5. Money talks; learn to answer
If you get serious about your rich man, you will soon meet his wealthy family and friends. You will need to make a good impression and show how much you love your handsome - not his new yacht.
- If you're nervous about meeting his friends, you can keep a low profile the first time you see them to understand group dynamics, and then throw yourself into a friendly conversation that shows that their wealth doesn't intimidate you.
- If you're meeting his family for the first time, try not to talk about his money, or all the kinky things you've done together. She has probably dated a few social climbers before, and her family may be on the lookout for whether your intentions are serious.
- Be yourself. Even if you have to change your approach at the beginning, remember to always be yourself. If your man loves you for who you are, so will his friends and family.
Step 6. Whether he is rich or poor, you will still have to do your best to make the relationship work
Remember that the rich are no different from us in the end - they just have more money. Treat this relationship like any relationship.
- Try to keep communication open and honest. It is important to tell him what you think, and if his wealth has made you uncomfortable.
- Tell him a new thing you love about him every day. This will reassure him that you are in love with what is in his heart, not in his wallet.
- If you love your story, don't feel guilty about enjoying the benefits of dating a rich man. And if you happen to be in Venice in the meantime, even better!
Warnings
- Rich people are very busy and often (not always) immersed in their work.
- Man could be good, but money could corrupt him over time.
- Many rich men are aggressive. Put that into account if you want to date a rich man.
