Some people may feel a little intimidated by the idea of having a romantic conversation, although this shouldn't be intimidating, but should be experienced as a quiet and pleasant, even slightly provocative, experience. There are several ways to improve the ability to converse with the person you like. Keep in mind that this is an opportunity that can strengthen the bond with your partner and above all rekindle the spark of passion.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Speak and Answer
Step 1. Ask open-ended questions
As in any kind of conversation, the best way to spice up the conversation is to ask open-ended questions. In practice, it is not enough to ask for something that can be answered with a simple "yes" or "no", but you need to encourage the other person to work out their answers. In this way, it will be possible to keep the dialogue alive. There are also some questions that allow both interlocutors to get closer. Here are some great examples you can draw from:
- "What should your perfect day be like?"
- "What are the three things that, in your opinion, we have in common?"
- "Do you have a dream that you haven't had the chance to fulfill yet? If so, what is it?"
Step 2. Confess something nice to your partner
Once you have started the conversation with a few questions, another way to encourage dialogue with the person you like is to increase the intimacy between you. To do this, try to graciously confess something to her that makes her really understand how you feel about her. It's a subtle way to be romantic without going overboard. Just make sure that what you intend to "confess" is light and communicates your feelings. Eg:
- "I have to admit: I've wanted to hold your hand like this since we met"
- "I always wanted to know how you got that scar on your knee"
- "I wanted to tell you that I love the perfume you wear"
Step 3. Make the conversation flow positively
As you chat, try to use light and constructive arguments. Speaking of money, work, or any problems in your relationship, you will ruin the romantic atmosphere. Instead, try to stay on happier issues, such as your future, your favorite sides of your partner, and the intimate aspects of your relationship.
- Talk about your goals and dreams, asking your interlocutor to share theirs.
- Also make an effort to show your strengths during the conversation. Are you extroverted? Receptive? Honest? Labour intensive? Whatever your qualities are, find an opportunity to highlight them.
Step 4. Use first-person sentences as you speak
This type of approach has been shown to help move the conversation when it begins to wear out. Try telling your partner something about you that will surprise them in order to keep your dialogue going.
For example, if the conversation starts to fade, try saying, "I always wanted to go to Antarctica."
Step 5. Tell some anecdotes
It can help you connect with the other person, so choose something interesting to tell the other person. The best anecdotes are those that reveal something about your life: for example, why you moved to the city you live in now, how you chose the faculty you go to or how you met your best friend.
Step 6. Interrupt the other person to express your agreement or approve what they say
While it's not okay to interrupt her all the time, it's okay if you do it briefly to express agreement or approval of what she just said.
For example, if your partner talks about a band he likes, then you could interrupt him by saying, for example, "Oh yeah! I love that group." Then stay silent and let him finish what he was saying
Step 7. Show your appreciation
By showing appreciation for the other person's experiences and opinions, you can also elevate the romantic tone of a conversation. Therefore, try to value the other person's interests and accomplishments as you speak.
For example, if she mentions something she likes or talks about a goal she has recently achieved, you might say, "This is great!" or "I find it really interesting!"
Step 8. Try to identify with your interlocutor
Sometimes, he may hint at something bad that happened to him or confide in you some difficulty he has faced in the past. When this happens, be sure to take into consideration your partner's utterances, trying to empathize with him.
For example, if he talks to you about a problem or obstacle he has encountered, try saying, "I feel like it was really complicated" or "It's terrible that you went through all this."
Part 2 of 3: Using Body Language
Step 1. Try to show your confidence
To have a romantic conversation in person, you need to have confidence in yourself and in your relationship with the other person. Therefore, it is best to communicate your feelings to your partner and give him the opportunity to do the same. When you start talking to someone you care about, you need to be open and confident. In fact, if you hold back too much, the other party will sense your discomfort and may shut down.
- Avoid showing aggression with body language, crossing your arms, or gesticulating excessively.
- Try to move in a casual and hospitable way, keeping your arms at your sides and staying in front of your interlocutor.
- Smile to show that you are enjoying yourself.
Step 2. Give your partner your full attention
When interacting in a romantic atmosphere, you need to be sure that you convey your intentions through body language and words. You can resort to the most romantic phrases in the world, but the other person won't feel courted if you say them while looking at the restaurant menu.
Make sure you give your partner your full attention during the conversation. Don't look around or fiddle with the first item you find on hand, otherwise you will look uncomfortable or disinterested
Step 3. Look in the eyes
Eye contact with your partner is one of the best ways to increase intimacy and connect with each other without saying a word. Try to make eye contact every time he talks to you, but also when you are talking to him.
Step 4. Occasionally hold the other person's hand or touch them
The physical approach is also important to enhance the idyllic atmosphere between two people. Therefore, try to make contact with the body during the conversation.
For example, you could hold your partner's hand or lightly massage the back of his arm while he is talking
Part 3 of 3: Giving a Romantic Tone to the Conversation
Step 1. Try to look your best
It has been found that it is crucial to take care of yourself if you want to be considered attractive. This means that if you are a highly groomed person, your partner will be more likely to be attracted to you. Therefore, before engaging in a romantic conversation, take time to:
- train yourself
- eat healthily
- have a shower
- comb your hair
- brush your teeth
- dress well
Step 2. Light a few candles or use flameless candles
Soft lighting is excellent for creating a romantic atmosphere in which to chat. If you go out, choose a restaurant that has a room set up with soft lighting and candles. If you stay at home, light a few candles or use flameless ones so you can add a romantic touch to the situation.
Step 3. Play some soft music
Music is also useful for creating the right romantic mood, as long as it doesn't distract from the conversation. Opt for instrumental pieces and don't turn the volume up too much. Here are some great choices:
- classic music
- smooth jazz
- new age
- noises of nature
Step 4. Offer your partner some chocolates
Chocolate has always been considered the food of passion, known for its ability to enhance desire. Especially the dark one can give a feeling of euphoria. Therefore, buy a small box of high-quality chocolates and keep them close during the conversation.
Advice
- Be yourself. The other person better not fall in love with you if you don't reciprocate their feelings!
- Don't be afraid of moments of silence when there is nothing to say! They are preferable to speaking just to open your mouth. Try saying, "I feel so good in your company that I don't need to say anything."
