Don't know what to do with your hands while your lips are glued to your beloved's? Read this article for tips on how to increase the intimacy of a kiss using your hands, but without exceeding certain limits.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Standing Kisses
Step 1. Place your hands on the other person
If you leave your hands at your sides during a standing kiss, you will feel weird and unnatural. Usually girls put their hands on his shoulders or around his neck and he puts his hands around his waist or kidney.
If the girl is much shorter than the boy, these rules can be reversed to avoid the girl having to push herself too high
Step 2. Gently take her face in your hands
Try to put your hand on her cheek, chin, or neck as you kiss for more intimacy. This can also help you stabilize the kiss for more control.
Step 3. Take his hands
If you've been dating this person for a while, it may be appropriate to hold hands and interlace your fingers during the kiss.
Step 4. Draw the person towards you
If you want to raise the level of the kiss, use your hands to grab your partner by the waist and gently push him towards you until your bodies are against each other.
Step 5. Run your fingers through her hair
Hair follicles have many nerve endings, stimulating them can be very pleasant for the other person. You can also gently pull his hair to give the kiss more passion and intensity.
Part 2 of 3: Sitting Kisses
Step 1. Put your hands on her thighs
If you are sitting next to each other and looking in the same direction (during a movie for example), you may have a hard time finding a place to put your hands. Gently resting yours on his knee or thigh is generally appropriate in these circumstances and you don't have to stretch a lot.
Step 2. Touch his face
If your bodies are facing each other while you are sitting, place your hands on his neck or cheek to give more intimacy to the kiss.
Step 3. Take the kiss to the next level
If you are in a private place, you feel comfortable with this person and both of you are in the mood for more than a kiss, you can use your hands to explore the rest of his body. Start by slipping your hand under his shirt or lightly grabbing his butt. If you get a positive reaction, continue; otherwise keep your hands where you can see them both.
If this is your first time alone with this person, you might as well ask them explicitly if they would like to move beyond the first stage. This way you will avoid a potentially embarrassing situation
Part 3 of 3: Ending a Kiss
Step 1. Use your hands to communicate that the kiss is over
If you are ready to end the kiss, remove your hands from the other person and slowly move away. If the other person is overly aggressive, you may need both never to push them away from you, politely but forcefully.
Advice
- Consider your surroundings (e.g. public or private) to determine what kind of kissing and touching are appropriate.
- Only do what feels natural during a kiss. If you feel weird or uncomfortable, it will understand. Sometimes the best thing to do is not overthink it and follow your instincts.
- Use your common sense to determine what is appropriate to do and where it is appropriate to put your hands during the kiss. Consider your relationship with this person and how long you have been romantically involved. Make sure she too is comfortable with what's going on for as long as you are together.
- Don't let others push you to do things you don't want to do, especially when it comes to sex.
