It can be comforting to have someone close to you in moments of intense nervousness or even in everyday life. The awareness that there is someone who loves you has a decisive weight and the manifestations of affection are gestures that make those who make them and those who receive them feel good. Some people are more prone to being attentive and thoughtful, while others need some help or advice. This is, at least in part, because everyone has their own idea of affection and how or when to give it.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Show Affection to the One You Love
Step 1. Seek physical contact with your partner often
Kissing your partner is one of the most obvious signs of affection. You should also consider gentler approaches, especially in public places. Compared to kissing, holding hands and hugging are more socially accepted gestures when you are around people.
- If your partner has had a particularly stressful day and needs some extra pampering, a back massage can also be a great way to show your love.
- Even small gestures, like sitting next to him while watching TV, let him know that you love him.
Step 2. Use kind words to connect with him
Communication is an extremely important element in building a healthy relationship. Show your affection by praising your partner when he succeeds in something and telling him that you care. Also, it wouldn't be a bad idea to write him a note or text him just to show him you're thinking about him, even when he's not around you. If he has a problem in his personal or work life, using kind words will let him know that you support him.
For example, you could tell him how much you missed him as soon as he gets home from a trip
Step 3. Give him a gift
You can buy him a thought during the Christmas holidays, but don't feel obligated. If he needs something to cheer him up, you can do it whenever you want! Think carefully about what to buy and make sure they like it. If you want to personalize your gift, try to accompany even a simple object of your liking, such as a CD, with a letter or a photo.
A gift is a great way to show your affection. You will let him know that not only do you know him so well that you choose a beautiful thought, but also that you have dedicated your time to create something that will enchant him
Step 4. Invest the time you spend with him well
In other words, you need to put away your cell phone and eliminate other distractions so that you give your partner your full attention for a while. Try to meet him regularly, but if you notice that he is having a hard time (for example, if he has moved to another place), you should see him more often. Just give him your time and energy to show that you love him and make your bond stronger.
You could go out into town for one night, but if you need some quiet time, you can always stay indoors and watch a movie together
Step 5. Try to interact effectively
In the era where communication is dominated by high speed in sending text messages and e-mails, we are perpetually "connected". The problem is that we often forget to personalize the way we connect with people. When your partner needs to feel your closeness, you should realize this and make sure you give him what he needs. Instead of sending short, concise sentences, such as "I'm coming," you could say, for example, "I'm looking forward to seeing you. I'm about to arrive." Even if you are basically saying the same thing, the first sentence is much more telegraphic and impersonal, while the second shows that you are actually no longer in the mood to meet your significant other.
- Thank him when he does something thoughtful or for his daily gestures that, in his opinion, go unnoticed (like taking out the trash).
- In order for your compliments to be more incisive, try to adapt them to his personality and his way of being. Instead of saying, "You look beautiful," try something more specific, like, "You have an incredible smile." Call attention to details that make your other half special. Try saying, "You always have such an interesting view of things. I love talking to you" or "Nobody makes me laugh like you."
Step 6. Do something for it
With the exception of two or three less boring chores, all that remains of the management of a house are only tasks that, like it or not, we have to do. Sometimes it can happen that, when you are stressed - perhaps at the thought that you could receive a good promotion or be discarded - you have no desire to tidy up the house. By helping your partner with a few chores, you will make his day easier and show him that you care.
For example, you could just wash the dishes or help him paint the apartment
Part 2 of 3: Show Affection to Friends and Family
Step 1. Behave affectionately
Each family is different and shows affection in their own way. Some parents want to embrace their children, while others prefer to shake hands. Friendship is also expressed in a variety of ways. However, regardless of the gestures, you need to show a family member or friend that you are close to them.
- Children often seek more contact and sometimes explicitly request it. Holding a child's hand as they cross the street or picking them up when they are too tired to walk will make it clear that you are ready to help.
- If it is an adult, it is more appropriate to put a hand on his shoulder or stroke his hand to let him know that you are close to him and you love him.
Step 2. Tell your loved ones how you feel
Often people, as they grow up, forget how important it is to open up. Many times family members stop telling each other how much they love each other, creating a certain distance between them. Be open and honest with your family and friends, especially when they are in trouble.
- For example, you could give your best friend a long, heartfelt hug before they move to another city for work.
- If you are dealing with children, keep in mind that they need confirmation. Reassure them by telling them that you love and care for them unconditionally. Don't fall into the mistake of being affectionate only when they do something good or get hurt. This way, they will begin to think that you only care about them under these circumstances.
Step 3. Give gifts for no specific reason
This does not mean that you have to spend all your money or spend your time giving gifts to friends and family. You just need to know that when you make a thought, it is pleasing to the recipient. You could simply pay the lunch bill or buy your child their first toy car.
Don't underestimate the gift of time. When the days are busy, it can be difficult to dedicate their time to the people you love, but they will appreciate the effort if you visit them when they need to
Step 4. Help friends and family in times of need
Whether it's helping to clean the house or helping your best friend get ready for a move, your help will be appreciated. It can happen that chores, big or small, pile up to the point of overwhelming people. Therefore, remember that you have the opportunity to show your affection by helping loved ones manage the tasks they cannot avoid. Even a simple gesture can be important, like helping a friend prepare dinner after she has a baby.
Part 3 of 3: Delving into the other Implications of Affection
Step 1. Learn about the five languages of love
The language of love is a concept that is often used to discuss the different ways people give and receive affection. Affectionate gestures are grouped into five categories, or languages, as follows: making physical contact, hearing encouraging speeches, receiving gifts, getting support, and living important moments. You should use these "languages" to understand how people you care about give and receive affection.
Some people are surprised when they learn that their partner speaks a different language of love than theirs. If you want to actually understand what kind of affection your partner needs, you need to talk to them and listen carefully. There are also tests and quizzes that can tell you which language of love works best for both of you
Step 2. Keep in mind what kind of relationship you have with the person you love
When it comes to the partner and their family members, we usually have a clearer idea of the relationships they have with them. Sometimes, friendships are more complicated. We often show immeasurable affection to old friends, as if they were part of our family, while it is natural that we have many more reservations with those who are less close.
With friends and colleagues you should also follow these five principles, but you should adjust your behaviors to make them appropriate. For example, if a co-worker and friend inspires you with a nice compliment, you might say, "I like your new haircut," instead of something that might be considered inappropriate, like, "Your legs look better with that. dress"
Step 3. Don't force people to accept your affection
If someone seems uncomfortable when you show your affection, don't continue. She may explain to you why your manifestations of joy towards her put her in trouble, but she doesn't have to. It is up to each individual person to decide who to receive or reject a gesture of affection from.
Advice
- Don't expect your expressions of affection to be reciprocated immediately, especially if the person you love is nervous and agitated.
- By surprising someone with one of the tips in the article, you can really show that you love them.
- Don't take it personally if the other person doesn't like your gift or you can't meet them. People are often busy, so if you try to be affectionate, they are likely to notice and appreciate it.
