Have you ever wondered if others like you? Or what if the people you talk to usually feel relieved after you leave? If you've never wondered, think about it: it might still be a possibility. Follow these simple instructions to become a less irritating person!
Steps
Step 1. When conversing with someone, pay attention to the flow of communication
Has your interlocutor said something in the last 2 minutes? Did he respond with words or gestures to something you said?
Step 2. Pay attention to her body language
Are his arms crossed? Is it tense? Don't his eyes stare at you while you speak? Are his feet moving slowly, but steadily, in the opposite direction to you?
Step 3. Do his answers seem short to you?
Did he ever use a sentence of more than 1-3 words while talking to you?
Step 4. Listen carefully to your interlocutor and try to understand if, while you were talking, he mumbled something like "Patience", "Come on", and the most obvious phrase:
"But why doesn't he shut up?".
Step 5. If at times it seems to you that he is wheezing or breathing heavily, unless appropriate in the conversation, this will be another good indication
Step 6. If you print this sheet and leave it somewhere so you can find it
.. it could mean something!
Step 7. If someone says "You are irritating" or something like that, they should let you know what kind of personality you have
Step 8. Finally, even if it is no less important, if your interlocutor goes somewhere else while you are talking to him, it means that you are an irritating person
Step 9. Consider the nature of your interlocutor
Some people are more irritable than others. While some can easily be nice, others find it more difficult and worry about being rude or hurting your feelings. These people may have been pissed off by you for a long time, without letting you know. They are the same people who would be wonderful to have around, because of their fantastic temperament - so try to change and repay their patience!
Step 10. Do people ignore you?
Pretend you don't hear what you say? Does the person you were talking to suddenly walk away, while you were saying something, to talk to someone else who is probably less annoying than you?
Step 11. If your interlocutor keeps saying that he has already heard your lines, news or topics without letting you finish, it means that he does not want to listen to you and that you are irritating him
Advice
- Be gentle. Insulting others if you have recently known them will make them pull away from you, or worse yet, make them angry.
- Don't pretend. Pretending to be someone you're not, or to be friends with someone just for personal gain, is irritating.
- Don't monopolize conversations with your friends - it will just show them how self-centered you are.
- Try to have good manners (eat with your mouth closed and don't interrupt conversations), so as not to annoy others.
- Another thing to do to figure out if you are irritating someone or not is to ask them for their Facebook contact or their phone number. If he comes up with an excuse or responds with a fake number or contact, then you are very likely to think that you are an annoying person. This can happen if for example this person gives you his number, you try to call him and it doesn't work - not even the answering machine - or if he tells you that he doesn't have a Facebook contact, but you realize that it is not true, because in reality he has a account for quite some time.
- A good way to avoid being irritating to others is to listen to them as they speak and make sure your responses to their words indicate that you were paying attention. In this way, mutual respect will arise and your interlocutor will probably also be more interested in what you have to say, because they will be aware that it could be directly connected to what they are thinking.
- If a person doesn't respond to what you just said and starts talking about something else, it's a very obvious sign that they find you at least a little irritating.
- Show interest in what your friends tell you, and even if you disagree with their point of view, show them that you have respect for them. Try to support your points of view as kindly as possible.
