Having small conversations plays a very important role when socializing and meeting new people. But it's not always easy to be charming and relaxed during a conversation with a potential new friend or someone you want to impress.
Steps
Step 1. Check your tone of voice
All your feelings come out through your voice. The fact that your voice gets cracked or you mumble your words can make some people run away. So instead of risking your nervousness being noticed with your voice, practice in the mirror, or try to calm down right away before engaging in small talk.
Step 2. Keep yourself "light"
The small conversation should be about matters of little importance. Don't ask busy questions that intimidate your interlocutor and are too "deep" for conversation. Talk about topics like time and school or work.
Step 3. Smile
Being a happy person is an integral part of being attractive and pleasant. Practice smiling in front of the mirror. By smiling, you can make other people smile too.
Step 4. Keep your mind open
Accept what the other person says and their views on the issues being discussed. The last thing you want is to argue while you're just trying to have a nice, friendly, light conversation.
Step 5. Give compliments
Make your interlocutors feel good about themselves. Start by saying that they look nice, or that they are funny. This will put them in a good mood, which will make your conversation more enjoyable and easier.
Step 6. Learn to listen
When trying to break the ice in a difficult situation, keep those three words in mind. All it takes is a simple step towards the person, and the larger question that comes to mind, for example: "So how are you doing?". Other times, when people are short on words, you may need to have some spare questions.
Focus on really listening to what the person is saying while they are speaking. People may subconsciously sense that you are not listening, and are immediately disappointed. In fact, hearing what they have to say not only shows that you are sincere, it also makes them feel important (your number one goal in any social situation)
Step 7. Establish a relationship
Now they are completing what they have to say, and it is almost your turn to speak. Since you've been listening all the time, this next part should be easy. Establish a relationship. Find ways to refer to the things they were talking about. Maybe you are from the same area, work in the same field, and share the same point of view. No matter the reason, connecting with other people is what forms the basis for a stronger relationship with them. You are showing that you have things in common.
Step 8. Repeat
Usually, people will respond by establishing a relationship as well. This shows that they have realized that they have met someone with whom they can be friends (this is an example of how the three pillars of a strong friendship are structured). If you feel that the topic you just established a relationship in is about to wear off, then it's time to move on to the next step.
Repeat what the person told you, but in your own words. This not only shows how well you have listened, it also makes the person feel more important. Also, by repeating what they said, you give them a chance to dig deeper into the point, giving you even deeper reasons and emotions to relate to
Advice
- Be open to meeting new people.
- You smile.
- Laugh.
- Be yourself.
- Jokes.
- Be happy and speak in a calm voice. Be aware of what you are going to say. Gesture and try to make your interlocutor laugh if you can. However, the most important thing is to think about what you are going to say first - you may be saying something that is not funny or that is offensive. Make the topic interesting and make sure your interlocutor has a chance to speak.
Warnings
- Don't try to look like someone else.
- Don't try to force a relationship.
- Do not overdo it.
