Mediocrity is an unsatisfactory form of existence. Why settle for little when you can be so incredibly good that you leave the world dazed at your abilities? Exactly, don't. While being the best will take time, determination and practice, becoming the best feels incomparable. Here are some tips on how to get there starting now.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Part 1: Entering the Zone
Step 1. Get to know yourself
The truth is that you will always be you. All time. When you are someone you are not, eventually this person will walk away and you will be yourself again. This is the person you will be working with, so get to know yourself! You will feel much more comfortable in your own skin: you will be a better person, a better friend, a better boyfriend, a better employee, a better "whole". You will be less stressed and you will be more confident. You will know what you are working with and how to act. Have we already convinced you?
Try to understand that you are not your brand or what people think of you. This has nothing to do with anything. You won't be happy if you create an image that meets the needs of everyone around you, except you. If you became the best opera soprano in Vienna, would it really matter if you really wanted to be the next John Lennon with all your might? No. So don't meet the needs of others. Find yourself and work with it
Step 2. Be original
There is no one else out there who is you. So, you are the best version of yourself that exists. But, if you're trying to be someone or something else, that logic is going to take its blessing. You become a second-rate copy of whatever you're trying to emulate. It doesn't matter who you are (or who you think you are), strive to be. These are the cards that have been given to you. You can't win if you don't play.
In order to be the best, you can't reinvent the wheel. You cannot copy others. You have to do new, innovative things. You have to study biology even if you want to become a computer scientist. You have to be yourself to avoid being someone else. Is that clear enough to you?
Step 3. Start thinking positively
For the rest of your life, you will be your biggest obstacle. You'll be the reason you don't get close to that hot girl, you'll be the reason you don't ask for that raise, you'll be the reason you're successful or not. Thinking optimistically opens the door to so many opportunities. When you think you are capable of something, give it a try. When you consider life as easy as stealing candy from a child, you approach the child and grab the candy. When you get negative, you walk away from the baby and go to bed covering yourself from head to toe, not cheering up on candy. No one has ever become the best this way.
If positive thinking doesn't come naturally to you, make the situation change. Get up in the morning, look in the mirror and say out loud “I'm really amazing. Today will go great and I will get closer and closer to my goals”. And, when the negative thoughts start to creep in, crush them. You choose your thoughts, you know
Step 4. Get excited
You will get close to being the best at whatever you choose to be. BUT, IF YOU CAN'T BE ENTHUSIASTERED ABOUT IT, THEN WHEN CAN YOU NOT BE IN YOUR SKIN? Exactly. So, get excited! Start thinking using exclamation marks! How excited you are, things happen. You let yourself be filled with inspiration, creativity and impulse. You will practically be overflowing with possibilities.
A large part of being successful in real life relates to actually wanting it. Remember all the times you turned in a bad project to your English teacher and got 10 because the rest of the class's jobs were even worse than yours? You took pleasure in it and stopped caring about it. You have lost your enthusiasm. A last minute news: life is not like that. You will need to be eager to deliver essays that are truly worth 10. The real world is also full of top class and ambitious people who are delivering essays worthy of a 10. It will be much easier to keep up if you hit the brake
Step 5. Be open and flexible
There is no single path to grandeur. You can't say "I'll go to school, get a job, fall madly in love, buy a house, bake some kids, and live happily ever after." For most of us, that's not exactly how things are going to go. If you want to be the best at something, you need to understand that there is a whole web of possibilities ahead of you. In case you close your mind, you may not see the most direct way to your goals.
So the next time you sit down with your team and you've conceived a project about, for example, how to hire Lindsay Lohan to star in your next film school documentary, don't laugh at Yoon's comment on the film. create a tunnel through his pool through his old babysitter's uncle's yard. Remember that people thought Galileo was crazy too
Step 6. Get competitive
If you don't have the urge to be the best, that's never going to happen. And part of being the best means having a thirst for competition. How else will you know you are the best if not by comparing yourself to your fellow men? Compare yourself to people on the same level as you and win, that's it.
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If competitions, contests and contests don't put you at ease, bad news for you: that will have to change. And the only way to do that is to fully immerse yourself in them. Once you win a handful of contests proving to be the best, it will get easier and easier. And, after a dozen competitions, participating will be as simple as breathing.
Do not overdo it. If you are the friend who turns everything into a race, you will soon find yourself friendless. Reserve competitions for the skills you are actually trying to master, not life in general
Method 2 of 3: Part 2: Channel Your Potential
Step 1. Choose something that you are in love with
In case you aren't aware of it, you can't be better than anyone else in anything. While being the best human being on the face of the earth, you cannot, by definition, be the best at, for example, winning and losing. So instead of overloading yourself, choose something that speaks to you deeply. What's the first thing you absolutely want to excel at? It probably occurred to you after about three seconds.
Remember to be realistic. Don't aim to climb Mount Everest if you don't have legs. Your mom was quite right when she said "You can be anything you put in your head," but she was also sweetening the pill a little for you. If you are capable of it, it can happen. Do not forget
Step 2. Find a mentor
Even the best need guidance. No child learns to walk, talk and play without being taught. People are around you to help you grow. So whatever you want to be the best at, find someone who does it. Having one person show you the tricks is a lot easier, and faster, than doing it all yourself.
When Bobby Fischer was three, he didn't pick up an advanced chess book and began taking notes. He was given a chessboard and taught to play. He worked with competitors to improve his game. He worked with friends to come up with the strategies. He studied thanks to the greats of chess. Two heads are better than one, remember?
Step 3. Feel uncomfortable
Do you know what scares? Try new things. Do you know what scares the most? Try new things that you may not be successful at. And this will be the rest of your existence. To rise to the top, you will find yourself faced with many scary things. They will make you feel uncomfortable. But, when you feel this way, you know that you are exposing yourself to the world, you are taking risks, you are taking on challenges and you are improving. If it's easy, you're not going anywhere.
Henry Ford had two companies that failed before they succeeded. Steve Jobs faced a billion vicissitudes before truly reaching the pinnacle. There will be technical trials and tribulations, there will be failures, there will be times when you are not sure of anything. You still have to deal with all of this
Step 4. Decide
You want to be the best, so far so good, but it's not enough. You have to decide. Making decisions will be a constant. There is no middle ground for success. If you had a plan B, you could use it. But what could plan B consist of? Be slightly above average? No thanks.
This wanting to be the best represents yourself. It is not an idea, it is not a goal, it is what it is. It is yourself. You are doing it. That's right. Accept it. There is no lingering and no prudence here. Live with this. Did you decide. You can't think again. It is only a matter of time before you cross your finish line
Step 5. Come up with ideas
Do you know that thing you love? Well, how are you going to do it? Since you are well aware of the fact that there are dozens of methods to accomplish it, which one is right for you? Start brainstorming. Push your brains out to think of six things that will fuel you on the path to be amazing. Six things that get you started on the right track.
Once you can think of six, choose one. Do it today. Let's pretend you want to be a famous actress. Your six things include taking an acting class, connecting with an old friend who's been through before you, contacting the local theater / acting agency, setting a budget to save for the purpose of relocating, planning a new drama routine. workout and scroll through Craigslist and other classifieds in your area. How easy is it to do any of these things? Once you have completed one, replace it with another. Try to always have six things on your list
Step 6. Balance yourself
If you spend 14 hours a day in your basement doing genetic engineering because you are creating a man-eating plant, your diet is made up of ramen and Coca-Cola only, you never shower or comb your hair, you are not the best version of yourself. Make sure other aspects of your life get attention too. Theoretically, you want to be the best at everything, right? So this means looking like it, acting a certain way, being the best and getting into the part. In other words, take care of yourself!
It's hard to be the best when you don't feel like one. So take a shower, comb your hair, wear clothes that say "Here I am, world!" and it starts to look fantastic. Exercise, eat well, and sleep adequately
Method 3 of 3: Part 3: Making It Happen
Step 1. Practice
In the book “Fuoriclasse. Natural History of Success,”author Malcolm Gladwell talks about the 10,000-hour principle. That is, you don't get really and absolutely good at something until you've practiced it for 10,000 hours. He tells how the Beatles were mediocre until they hit the 10,000 hour mark playing in small German pubs. It tells of how Bill Gates spent his nights in the computer lab for years and nonstop before anyone else took any notice of him. To be really good at something, you will have to dedicate some time to it.
This is also a long-winded way of saying "Be patient". You won't be the next Paul McCartney or Bill Gates overnight. It hasn't happened to them either! You'll spend 1,000 hours being pretty awful, the next 3,000 hours getting decent, the next 4,000 hours getting good enough, and the last 1,999 hours getting super, until, finally, you get so incredibly awesome that you can barely understand your own superiority.. You'll know when the time comes, so you don't need to keep track of time
Step 2. Learn by doing
You have probably studied a foreign language. You've probably read textbooks, did exercises, watched videos, etc. and so on ad infinitum. This gets you started and puts the ball in the center of the pitch, but the ball loses its momentum as time goes by. If you want to be fluent in this language, you should move to another country. And you should really do it. This step applies to any large idea. You cannot watch a video. You can't just observe. You can't study for years until you have a piece of paper. You have to go out and take action.
- The next time someone offers you an opportunity and you're not sure whether to take it or not, don't listen to yourself and just do it. It doesn't matter if you are unprepared, unsure or doubtful about your abilities. Do it anyway. Turn off that voice; it's doing you more harm than good.
- Get your hands on anything you can do. Do you want to become an astronaut? You can't just read a book. Go to the nearest planetarium and stay until they ask you to leave and then do it every day until they know your name and offer to show you off-limits areas. Flatter your professor until he arranges a lecture with a special telescope just for you. Just get to work. Go!
Step 3. Make sacrifices
So here's a real fact for you: in a day there isn't enough time to make a cake and even eat it all. If you want to be successful in organic chemistry tests, you can't go to the bar with your friends every night. You will have to prioritize. You will have to give up on the things you want to do to make time for the ones you have to do. You will have to spend hours upon hours perfecting your skills, which cannot be done while getting distracted by something else.
There may come a time when, instead of playing a sport, you will choose a part-time job. There will be weekends that you will have to spend in the library. There will be times when you won't be able to go out with a sexy girl, despite being her only night on the town. These things must happen in order for you to become as good as possible. You have to consider it a favor that you are essentially doing yourself. To the future yourself, of course, but still yourself
Step 4. Make mistakes
Make horrible, terrible, ugly mistakes. Make people hate you. Do things so differently that it makes others think you are crazy. You fail so miserably that you get to the end of the tunnel knowing exactly what not to do. Get proud for it. You are doing something important.
The only way to avoid criticism and failure is to do nothing. Making sure you are your own target means doing something. You are living. Ergo, failure is good. It is natural and it is right. If nothing else, it helps you strategize and narrow your paths. When you have 10 possibilities and you know nine of them won't work, you will know where to go
Step 5. Practice self-analysis
At the end of the day, it is essential that you sit down and think about the day's events. What worked? What went wrong? What could you have done better? What are you happy with and what are you not happy with looking back on what you have accomplished? If you don't back down to consider these things, to think about where you are, you will never know where to go and how to get there.
While it is important to analyze your successes (how can you recreate them?), It is doubly important to analyze your failures. This can be extremely frustrating and take away your motivation, but it needs to be done. Don't let it make you fall behind! Remember: even failure is progress. Being the best is all about honing your skills
Step 6. Use other people to your advantage
You don't live in an empty space. You have dozens of people around you who want to help out. This can be helpful. Everyone you know knows something you don't know. For this, they can all help you, albeit in the smallest way. Use their knowledge to get on the fast track to become the best. Unity is strength after all.
No one has ever reached their goal without the help of other people. Not only will they allow you to avoid doing things you've already done, these people will also be able to tell you about methods they have tried but haven't worked well with. When different brains think together, the work automatically breaks down into parts. Being the best does not mean being the best alone, it is based on being the best with what (and who) you work with
Step 7. Keep on the good path and always move forward
Even if you are on the right track, you will be run over if you sit down without moving forward. This quote is attributed to Will Rogers. And it's very, very insightful and true. In order to become the best, there must be constant progress. A constant practice. A constant self-analysis. A constant teamwork. A constant determination.
- If you do what you love, you will be happy. You will know that you are on the correct path. If you keep learning and challenging yourself, you will know that you will be making progress. With time and effort, you will get better and better. Obstacles may get in your way, failures may wreak havoc, but ultimately you'll still be great.
- Once you hit 10,000 hours, that doesn't mean you can stop. Did Steve Jobs stop after creating the iPod nano? NO, HE DID NOT. If nothing else, your best work will come after the 10,000 hour mark. Don't you want to see what you'll be capable of next?
Step 8. Be modest
When you're the best, it's all too easy to look down on the plebs. You can become untouchable and, frankly speaking, a superbly hateful person. Do not do it! Think of all the people who have helped you to overcome your goal. How would you like to be treated if you were them?
