Whether you're a novice or a seasoned veteran, kissing your girlfriend for the first time can be scary and in some cases even embarrassing. Don't worry: wikiHow is at your disposal to turn your first kiss into an unforgettable moment. Start from step 1.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Kissing like a Pro
Step 1. Prepare for success
You'll need to make sure your girlfriend is ready to kiss, so follow these preparatory tips. Establish a good relationship with her and get to know her. This will make the kiss much more satisfying. You should also choose the perfect time to kiss: don't do it in the presence of other people or in non-romantic situations.
Step 2. Make your lips smooth and beautiful
You won't be able to use the same strawberry lip gloss that she does, but you should still try to have moist and smooth lips; it will make the kiss more pleasant. Stay hydrated and use lip balm for a couple of days before kissing. If the kiss could come at any moment, use a buttercream with a pleasant aroma.
Step 3. Freshen your breath
Fresh breath is very important. Brush your teeth regularly (don't neglect your tongue!) And top it off with a mint, bubble gum, or spray just before the kiss. Choose a flavor like mint, as fruit or cinnamon fragrances can take on a bad taste in no time.
Step 4. Come closer
Get close to her and cuddle her, put your arm around her shoulders, pull her towards you to hug her and enter the "kiss zone".
Step 5. Take her face in your hands
Putting your hands around her face, touching her between her jaw and ears, can help you align with her mouth and have more control over the kiss. It will also be easy not to miss if you close your eyes too soon.
Step 6. Come closer and wait
Get close to her lips, but hesitate a moment and look at her mouth before moving on to the actual kiss. This may not seem like a good idea, but you should give her a chance to stop before the kiss. He'll have to know what's going to happen. This will save you a possible slap.
Step 7. Tilt your head
Before making contact with your lips, tilt your head slightly to one side or the other. This will avoid embarrassing nose fights.
Step 8. Kiss her
When kissing, don't keep your lips aligned like you would kiss your grandmother. Instead, try to hold her lower lip in the space between your lips. Push your lip lightly into your mouth, in the same motion you do when you finish taking a bite of a banana.
Practice on the hand first. It is best for everyone
Step 9. Breathe
You will be surprised how easy it is to forget to do this. Remove your lips from hers for a moment as you tilt your head to the other side and take a deep breath, as if you were swimming.
Step 10. Keep your lips soft
Avoid keeping them tight or curled.
Step 11. Go slowly until you feel comfortable
Don't be in a hurry to switch to a passionate kiss. Even the most experienced kisser must learn to adapt to the rhythm of the new person. Go slow and sensual - you can move on to passionate kissing another day.
Step 12. Stroke her cheeks
Do you remember when you took her face in your hands? Now you can continue with the same technique to make her heart melt. With your hands still around her face, use your thumbs to gently stroke her cheekbones, following the curved line of the bone. "Delicacy" is the key word in this case.
Step 13. Stop
.. just to start over!
Yes, you will have to stop kissing at some point… if only to get some air! Don't worry, you can always resume the kiss later, but be careful not to make things awkward.
Part 2 of 3: Learning New Skills
Step 1. Learn the ancient art of passionate kissing
It's harder than it seems to be really good at this art, but you can learn how to improve.
Step 2. Learn French kissing
This kiss isn't as complicated as it sounds, so if you're prepared and know the dos and don'ts, you shouldn't have any problems.
Step 3. Learn to kiss passionately
Avoid being one of those terrible kissers who eat the girl's head, so learn the right techniques before making her horrified.
Part 3 of 3: Knowing the Label
Step 1. Make your consent very important
Don't press a girl for a kiss and don't push her to do anything that makes her uncomfortable. This way you will show respect, and you shouldn't kiss a girl you don't respect: you deserve to be with someone you see as an equal and who you feel is worthy of the utmost respect and affection! Pay attention to her reaction and the things she says, and don't think it's unfair to ask her if she's willing to kiss. Your goal must be her happiness!
Step 2. Avoid kissing her in public
A real kiss in public is pretty annoying for all the people who don't participate in it to see, and in some cases it might even get you into trouble! Save the kisses for the private moments, however hard it may be for you to keep your lips off hers.
You can make exceptions for a single, quick peck. Don't overdo it, though
Step 3. Leave no traces
If you don't know what pacifiers are, you should do some research. Avoid leaving evidence of your kiss like this, because while a hickey can be a badge of honor for guys, it can get girls into trouble. There is a double standard in society between men and women, and girls could be harassed or even fired because of a hickey.
Advice
- Brush your teeth or chew peppermint gum - a girl doesn't want to kiss someone who tastes like cabbage!
- Do not forget or neglect hygiene (for example the use of deodorant, perfume, etc.) when you think about kissing your girlfriend. Otherwise he may feel repulsion and refuse to approach.
- When you're done kissing her, smile so that she doesn't feel like you've done something wrong.
- Make sure you're in a good place to kiss - if she's shy, she might not be comfortable trying to kiss her in a room full of people.
- Make sure you are attracted to each other; if not, either side may feel hurt or used.
- It is not automatic that from kissing to bed; try to understand how she is kissing you: passionately or softly?
- If a girl isn't comfortable with a French kiss, don't insist. You may not like the idea.
- If you have long hair, keep it away from your mouth! Nobody likes the taste of hair in their mouth.
- Don't use your hands too much, and keep them in appropriate places. If you touch her inappropriately, she will pull back or push you away. During a first kiss, she won't have too much desire to be felt.
- Don't make the kiss sexual - girls often don't like it.
Warnings
- Don't do this if you don't see her completely comfortable; remember that knowing how to wait is the key to a truly satisfying kiss.
- Do not engage in the "express kiss". Kissing is something that takes time.
- Don't be too daring, especially during the first kiss.
- If neither of you have ever kissed before, it should NOT be a French kiss. Start with a sweet, gentle kiss.
- Never force your girlfriend to kiss you. If she does feel obligated, it is very likely that that kiss is not pleasant at all.
- Don't French kiss the first time. Most girls don't feel comfortable doing it on a first date.
