A woman's mood can be strongly influenced by hormonal changes related to the menstrual cycle, especially before it arrives. One moment he might feel over the moon and in a few minutes burst into tears. It can be frustrating for those around her as there is a risk that she will get angry even when no one has done anything wrong to her. With the right approach, however, you have the option to make your relationship with your partner more peaceful. Handle the situation in the premenstrual period by avoiding arguing, relieving her stress, and being understanding and loving.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Lighten the Weight
Step 1. Don't push her with a busy social life
Usually, the feeling of swelling and pain does not encourage the urge to go out. Consult her before confirming any appointments that involve her or inviting friends over. Be aware of events that force her to fully dress and prepare or involve physical activity.
For example, don't promise your friends that you will go overboard with them if you know your period is coming. First, talk to her and decide together
Step 2. Offer your contribution in housework
If you normally do the dishes or make dinner, take on this job both when she is premenstrual and when she is not. She will appreciate your help around the house and feel less stressed.
You can ask her if she needs a hand or offer yourself spontaneously. See what needs cleaning or tidying up and get to work without even asking
Step 3. Accept their dietary changes
Although she is a health feast, she could swallow a whole pizza during the premenstrual period. Avoid making comments about any changes in appetite. If she complains that her clothes are tight, suggest that they go for a walk together or tell her how beautiful she is.
If you're looking to help her with feeding when she's premenstrually, she recommends healthier options. For example, if she wants a pizza, suggest making it at home rather than ordering it
Step 4. Invite her to relax
During this time, she may feel more sensitive or agitated than usual. Help her unwind by giving her a nice warm bath, massaging her shoulders, or even meditating with her. This way, you will put her at ease.
Step 5. Help her sleep
Sleep can be a cure-all for a woman suffering from PMS. While she sleeps, avoid disturbing her with a loud TV or by keeping her awake until late at night. Instead, do something that allows her to calm down and rest, like light a lavender candle or make her tea.
Part 2 of 3: Avoid Arguing
Step 1. Keep track of your premenstrual periods
Get a calendar and mark each cycle by calculating the recurrence of the premenstrual phases. However, be careful to hide it. This way, you will learn to be more patient with your partner. There are several smartphone applications that help you keep track of your period. However, remember that many women have irregular periods.
Step 2. Don't blame the bad mood on your period
Even if you know it's coming or notice the same symptoms every month, keep it to yourself. Many women, especially when they are in a bad mood, feel offended that someone accuses them of "cyclical" nervousness. If you attribute her susceptibility to PMS, she may believe you are discrediting or belittling what she thinks.
Instead of saying, "Great! Your period is sure to come," try, "Your mood is not the best today. Do you want me to bring you something to eat or get you a hot bath?"
Step 3. Avoid nasty surprises
If you already know that she might react badly, forget about anything that troubles her, especially if she is waiting for some news. Find a time when he is able to devote all his attention with a better frame of mind.
- For example, if your ex has contacted you, you might wait a few days to tell her.
- However, do not omit the most important communications, such as a possible dismissal or some insincere attitude on your part.
Step 4. Make complicated or problematic questions fade
For example, a question like "Does this dress make me look fat?" it is already delicate in a quiet moment, but it could even become prickly in the premenstrual phase. Therefore, if you run the risk of getting involved in this kind of discussion, avoid them or try to feed his self-esteem in some way. This positivity can lift your spirits.
- For example, if she asks if she looks fatter, you can say, "No, I think you are in good shape today."
- If he grabs a little excuse to argue (for example, you didn't wash the dishes well), you can say, "I'm sorry, honey. I'll fix it now and let's watch a movie."
Step 5. Give her the choice
When you're not feeling well, avoid power struggles over what to do or watch on TV. During these days, don't argue about movies and TV shows to watch, dishes to eat, or whatever you do. Spend your time in her company indulging her wishes.
However, if there is a special event or circumstance, then she must show understanding. For example, if your favorite team has to play the final, don't miss the game. Promise her that you will watch what she wants sooner or later
Part 3 of 3: Support her
Step 1. Have patience
Dealing with someone on the verge of a nervous breakdown can put a strain on those around them. If he responds badly or makes you lose your temper, don't lose your temper and don't fight. This will only make the situation worse. Instead, take a few deep breaths, step away for a moment, and return when you have calmed down.
Be tolerant of her during this time, but keep your limits. Even if he doesn't feel well, he shouldn't yell at you or insult you
Step 2. Don't take it personally
His emotionality may take over during the premenstrual phase, so your best defense is to remain calm and calm. Instead of challenging her, even when you think she is acting irrationally, just say, "Okay, I get it. Let's talk about it later."
Step 3. Be understanding
Ask yourself if any physical discomfort has ever made you irritable. Was there a time when you weren't getting enough sleep and were quite nervous as a result? Put yourself in his shoes. Be aware that she may experience bothersome physical symptoms, but don't forget that hormones also cause her constant ups and downs, affecting her emotionally.
Reflect on these aspects to be more understanding of him
Step 4. Ask her if she needs anything
If she has PMS, ask her explicitly if she needs anything. While it's nice to take the initiative and intervene spontaneously, it probably has some needs you've never considered. Maybe she wants me to run some errands for her or maybe she just wants to be hugged. Whatever his needs, do your best to meet them.
Advice
- Avoid sleazy menstrual cycle jokes.
- Sometimes a simple "I love you" said at the right time can ease the moodiness caused by PMS. Even a simple kiss or hug works great.
- Many women take pain relievers to keep premenstrual symptoms at bay. You may be able to help by familiarizing yourself with these medications. So, keep them handy or offer to go and buy them.
- While some women prefer to avoid sexual intercourse during their period, others do not disdain it, especially if it helps them feel better psychophysically. If you are uncomfortable having sex when you are menstruating, check out How To Have Sex During Your Period for helpful alternatives.
Warnings
- Don't act like what you're feeling emotionally isn't real. It is absolutely so. The point is that she feels it more intensely because of the hormonal fluctuations.
- Don't provoke it. People may be affected by certain emotional states, but they retain the ability to make decisions. Don't confuse bipolar disorder or borderline personality with PMS. If your partner misbehaves, it's up to you to decide to leave and find someone who will treat you with dignity.
- Don't blame her for your relationship problems when she's on your period. Dig deeper to understand the real reason for your difficulties.
