Are you a young guy who enjoys dressing up as a woman, and would you like to find a girl who is not only willing to accept this passion of yours, but who even appreciates it? This guide is largely aimed at city kids, but some passages will also be useful for those who live in the countryside.
Steps
Step 1. Dress as best you can and stand in front of the mirror
Be completely honest with yourself; do you think you are attractive? A guy who looks good dressed as a woman will have a better chance of finding a girl who appreciates his disguise. Slim-bodied guys usually look better, but if you're fit, don't lose hope. A shirtless muscular guy wearing a skirt can drive the right woman crazy.
Step 2. Work on your aesthetic appearance
In order to find a girl who likes guys who dress like a woman, you may need to make some adjustments to your disguise. Most of the girls who like this kind of thing, do not like that the shape of the male body is altered, for example with a fake breast; therefore, it would be a good idea to avoid this if you are trying to get involved with a woman. In addition, it is important to avoid being too hairy, because this type of girls, as a rule, do not like excess hair. Shave your arms, legs and chest as a minimum. Growing your hair out might also be a good idea, as this type of girl usually loves guys with long hair. Also try to practice your makeup and get yourself a trendy wardrobe that isn't too old-fashioned or snooty (avoid girlish dresses, unless you're trying to create a Lolita look, and prom dresses). Concentrate on accessories such as décolleté shoes, black dresses, perhaps a corset, low-waisted women's jeans, a top that leaves the navel uncovered, perhaps combined with a feather boa or a miniskirt. Try to thin out your eyebrows, if you can't get the desired effect by arching them; just remove the messy hairs to put them in order. Consider including elements of gothic or rock fashion in your look, as women who favor these genres are more likely to be interested in effeminate guys.
Step 3. Take an example from the masters
Having (more or less) gotten the look fit for purpose, it's time to do some fine-tuning and take a look at some effeminate guys that girls adore. You don't have to pretend to be someone else, but try to understand what's behind their sex appeal. Brian Molko of Placebo, young David Bowie, Michael Monroe of the Band Hanoi Rocks, Sean Brennan of London After Midnight, Mana of Malice Mizer, Jeffree Star and Johnny Depp are quite effeminate and all dressed up as women … and women find them incredibly sexy. Watch the Rocky Horror Picture Show. Tim Curry is perfect in the part, although perhaps a little too feminine than most women would like.
Step 4. Work on your behavior
First, it would be of enormous help to you if you didn't behave in an overly effeminate way when you dress up. Posing a bit like a girl can be fine, as long as you don't overdo it. Don't scream when you see a spider, offer a drink to the girl you're dating, don't sway and walk normally. Otherwise you would seem like a drag queen, or more simply ridiculous, not to mention that this kind of attitude is very misogynistic. Instead, try to be yourself and not just talk about nail polish and handbags. A girl who likes guys who dress like a woman is likely to be attracted to intelligent and sensitive men who share her interests (male and female). There is no need for you to go to fight with other guys for no reason or to talk about sports all the time, unless you are a great fan too. Since girls who are attracted to effeminate males often love rock too, learning to play an instrument could be of great help to you.
Step 5. Don't be a sissy
The word "sissy" is very misogynistic because it suggests that "femininity" is synonymous with "weakness". Many girls who are attracted to guys who like to dress up are feminists, and it would be good for you to remember that. If you have a fetish for women's clothing and you like to play the role usually played by a woman, prepare to be disillusioned. Girls attracted to effeminate guys are not looking for men who submit to them. It is important that you try to be independent and willing to take on both an active and a passive role even in bed.
Step 6. Find a girlfriend for yourself
Finally, after honing your conqueror look and attitude, head to a nightclub, concert, or some other type of gathering associated with gothic or glam culture. If you feel confident in yourself, the best thing would be to do it while dressed as a woman, of course if you don't take any risks doing so. Observe the girls to see which of them are scrutinizing you. Flirt with them for a while to try to understand if you have any common interests. If you have any, ask them for their number; otherwise, you will have tried anyway.
Advice
- Don't collect your hair too often. Chignons are formal and don't do much rock'n'roll, according to some. If you plan to wear a formal dress, combine it with loose hair without making you special hairstyles and an original but sober make-up.
- Be a gentleman or a lady, whichever you prefer. Think about the complaints women make about men and take them into account. Don't stare at their breasts, be polite and show interest.
- Transvestite nights in gay bars, while they can be fun, are not the place to find a young girl interested in guys who dress up as a woman.
- Make sure your clothing is trendy and interesting. There is nothing that can make a girl disinterest in a man more than bad clothing.
- Pale pink suits some men as long as you don't overdo it. Wear it especially to accentuate the colors of accessories such as jewelry, scarves and handbags.
- Some women love boys dressed as a woman with a prominent Adam's apple. Experiment to figure out which look suits you best.
Warnings
- Don't be creepy.
- Some men may want to flirt with you. If you don't like it, be polite and politely reject their advances like a real lady like you are!
- Some people may make fun of you for dressing up as a woman. If you feel like it, answer them in rhymes. Otherwise, or if you think your safety is concerned, keep calm and raise your heels.
- Having a friend by your side is a good idea. Two are safer.
