Let's say you meet a pretty girl somewhere (it also applies to guys: in this case, girls can slightly modify the guide to help the female gender as well), and you want to ask her out. In any such circumstance, follow these simple steps to ask her out, or to be invited back.
Steps
Step 1. Read her body language
If she seems unapproachable, don't approach her - it's just common sense. Also, if she is accompanied by a boy or if - in the case of teenagers - she is in the company of one or both parents, then forget it. However, if she leans towards you or stares at you when she thinks you can't see her, or if she plays with her hair (i.e. twists or braids it, etc.), that's a good sign: she's noticed and she's interested; go ahead and say hello, or go to her. In the simplest cases, she seems approachable and her body language is crystal clear: go to her, ask her name, and hope for the best! As for the guys, they will usually keep their hands in their pockets or stammer while talking to you, as you are a stranger. For more information, see a specific body language guide.
Step 2. Determine the status of your relationship
Once approached, find something - anything - that could help you determine if she already has a boyfriend (this could be a necklace, bracelet, earrings, rings, etc.). Now compliment her about it, and ask her if it's a gift from her boyfriend. A great example: you can say something like "Hey, that's a really nice [kind of jewelry]. Did your boyfriend give it to you?" At this point, you can answer in two ways. "Yes, he gave it to me"; in this case you can let it go, give her your number and become her friend. OR you can answer "No, I don't have a boyfriend"; at this point you understand that she is really interested.
Step 3. Give her your number
Make sure you have a pen and paper with you, or a mobile phone, otherwise without these essential items you can forget everything. In any case, do not prepare the number written on a sheet of paper first and then take it out of your pocket and give it to her. That way you would just look arrogant. Tear the paper in half before writing your number on it and place the other half on the table. Don't ask her for her number, you might appear desperate for girls. If she likes you, she will write her number spontaneously; just make sure you put the pen on the table as soon as you're done. If you don't have her number, she probably won't call you, but don't lose hope, she may just have forgotten about it.
Step 4. Get straight to the point
Ask her what she will do next Saturday night (obviously don't ask her on a Saturday: in this case, choose another day). If she says she's busy and doesn't specify when she's free, just ignore it, it means she's not interested. If she says she has plans but you might go out sometime, don't take it personally - it just means she already has plans for that day, so ask her if she wants to go with you to the cinema or somewhere else (make sure it's a place romantic and not a cheap diner … no matter what they say: all girls love to be treated like princesses from time to time). Of course, if she says she's available on Saturday, then ask her out for that day.
Step 5. Work on the details
It simply means establishing the time, the destination, the way to get there, whether to pick it up or not and, if you are a teenager, whether to sneak out or notify your parents, etc.
Step 6. Take it all with ease
Advice
- Be confident - girls love it.
- Be calm.
- If she calls you back, don't play the hard-to-reach type. Girls hate him.
- Smile when you talk to her.
- Always look her in the eye.
- Flirt with her!
- Try saying pick-me-up phrases that usually lead nowhere, but joking about it - it might work.
- Be "cool".
Warnings
- Don't get too close.
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Remember that she may already have a boyfriend.
- If a girl has a boyfriend, she might bring your approach back to him, which could lead to a physical confrontation.
- The same is true in reverse: if it's a guy who already has a girlfriend, you might end up in a fight with her.
