When you really like a guy, texting is a great way to ask him out, because they both load up with little pressure. If you decide to give it a try, there are things to do and others to avoid. Start by writing to him for some time before inviting him out. The content you send is also important, so think a bit, so you can write effective messages.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Start the Conversation
Step 1. Send a greeting
Try breaking the ice before asking a guy out with you. Send him a simple greeting to start a conversation. If you've never talked to him before, remind him who you are and how you met. Tell him you couldn't wait to talk to him again. If you've met before, say hello as you usually do.
- People can't always respond to messages right away, so if you start by asking them out, you'll start to worry if you don't get an immediate response. By talking to him for a while before asking the question you will be sure that he is paying attention on the phone.
- If you already speak, he is more likely to accept your invitation. If you invite him out without warning, he may be taken by surprise and say no.
- For example, write him: "Hi Marco, I'm Laura. Last Saturday's party was fantastic, I'm happy we met." This is a much more effective message than "Hi, how are you?".
Step 2. Consider whether he is interested in the conversation
Write to him for a while, noting if the dialogue is smooth. If he always replies to you in monosyllables or after a long time, he may not be interested in you. Don't immediately try asking him out without knowing if he'll say yes.
- Find the right balance between asking him out right away and waiting so long that the conversation comes to a standstill. If he responds well to 4-5 messages, consider it a good sign and make your proposal.
- Even if he doesn't seem very interested, there's nothing wrong with showing courage and asking him out with you anyway. However, you need to be prepared for possible rejection.
Step 3. Flirt and notice how she responds to you
As you write to each other, start texting more provocative than in a normal conversation. If he replies by flirting himself, chances are he's interested in dating you. If he seems to ignore your advances or reacts negatively, don't ask him out.
For example, you can write to him: "It's bad to be here at home alone, I would love to be hugged to you much more." If he says "We can fix it," he probably likes you
Step 4. Ask him out if he seems interested in you
If the conversation goes well and he responds to your flirting attempts, it's time to move on with the mission. Don't worry too much about what he will say. Write the message, check it and send it without hesitation.
You write: "Paolo, I like you. Would you like to go out with me this weekend?"
Part 2 of 3: Compose the Message
Step 1. Write simply
When we like someone, we often think too much about things to say. If you write a long message and invite a guy out in the middle, he may not understand the question. Send a short and direct text, which includes only your proposal.
- Don't digress like this: "I was thinking about what to do this weekend because I'm bored with being indoors all the time. Would you like to go out? I know there's not much to do, but together we can have fun. Even if I don't even know. I…".
- If you want to ask a guy from your school out on a date, a teenager is more likely to respond to a simple message than one in which you talk too much. Write him something like, "Do you want to go out this weekend?".
- If, on the other hand, you want to ask a colleague to go out, you can say: "We don't often talk to ourselves at work. Would you like to have an aperitif together when we cut off tomorrow?".
Step 2. Ask him to go out directly
You may be tempted to circle the issue, or to put forward your proposal in a vague way that you may not notice. When you write to him, tell him you want to go out with him and ask him if he is interested in doing so. It is important that he understands that you are offering him a date.
- For example, don't say, "I haven't dated anyone recently and I feel like I can say the same about you. Maybe we could do something together. It wouldn't hurt." Rather write: "Would you like to go out with me?".
- This advice is especially important when asking your friend out on a date. You need to make sure he understands that your proposal has a romantic purpose. You can say, "I know we see each other often, but would you like a real date with me?".
Step 3. Ask him to do something specific
When you ask someone out, say "Do you want to go out sometime?" it is not effective, because you do not specify a time or activity. Think of something fun you can do together and propose it to him. Also consider when you are available.
- For example, tell him about a party you attend on Saturday night and ask him if he wants to accompany you. If you prefer, ask him to try the new Mexican restaurant that opened near your house on Wednesday night.
- The possibilities are endless and he may say no. Proposing him to do something specific is still better than inviting him to go out in general.
- This advice is important when asking out a guy you just met. Proposing a specific schedule allows you to understand what they like to do on appointments. You can say: "I really like football and I have two tickets for Sunday's game. Would you like to go with me?".
Step 4. Use correct grammar and write complete sentences
Even with smartphones, people often shorten words and use terms that are difficult to understand. When asking a guy out, make sure you write complete sentences that make sense. Nobody likes to read confusing and rambling messages.
- For example, do not write "Ei, pnsv ke we could see dmn. What do you do?". Rather write, "I thought we could go out together tomorrow. Are you free?"
- Please review the message before sending it, so that you can be sure that you have not made any mistakes. Autocorrect can make text very confusing if you don't check that everything is okay.
Part 3 of 3: Wait for the Answer
Step 1. Give him time to respond
Messages don't have tight deadlines, and this can be both positive and negative. Once you've invited him out, wait for his response. If you feel like texting him again to apologize or ask him if he's thinking, don't. Be patient and give him time to think and formulate a reply.
If you've been talking for a while and he doesn't answer you, it might be his way of saying no, but don't assume it right away
Step 2. Keep busy while waiting for an answer
If you don't get a reply right away after your proposal, don't panic; find something to do while you wait. Staring at your phone and checking it every 2 minutes will drive you crazy. Make sure the ringtone is on and find something to keep your mind busy.
Go for a run, take a shower, open Netflix, grab a book or pursue a hobby. If you find something to distract yourself with, you will feel better
Step 3. Contact them again if you don't get any response
In some cases, people don't respond to messages, or phones make mistakes and communications don't get to their destination. If you've been waiting for a while, you can send another message to make sure you got the first one.
