Internet dating can allow you to find love and many times can lead you to marriage. You can find a friend, or a disaster and even death. This is why it is extremely important that you catch all the "Warning Signs" that come to your mind when you feel that there is something wrong with the other person. You must understand that others are not always what they say they are. "Be careful! Be suspicious! Be alert!"
Steps
Step 1. Find a dating site
There are many, and new ones often pop up. Find a site that has a certain reputation. Stay away from the infamous ones. Your best bet would be to find a site that focuses on your interests, such as a gay site, or a religious site.
Step 2. Remember that most sites will offer you a free trial period
If they ask you for your credit card details, the charge will be made after the trial period "unless" you unsubscribe before that date (see advice below).
Step 3. Enter real information in the registration
Don't lie about your weight and interests, and don't post a picture from when you were much younger. After all, the idea behind internet dating is to then meet that person live.
Step 4. Remember never to provide your personal information, such as phone number, address, surname
If things go well you can do it later.
Step 5. When contacting someone, be sure to maintain an email conversation for a certain amount of time. Create a new email address to be used only for dating sites
Don't give out your personal address.
Step 6. Try to find out as much as possible about the other person, via email, to get an idea of what they are like
With practice, you will be able to understand a lot about the other person based on how they answer questions, and what they say by email.
Step 7. Don't give out your phone number; instead, ask for his
Call him, but make sure you turn on call blocking if you use your home phone. If you have a cellphone, use that! If he refuses to give you his number, get suspicious. He may be married or have other reasons, but he may also just be suspicious himself. Instead of talking on the phone, suggest a meeting in a neutral place. (See below)
Step 8. Be careful if it asks you if you have a web cam
Many times men who have a webcam want to show themselves naked. This is a great "warning sign".
Step 9. When you talk to him on the phone, and after a while he starts making sexual references or asks what you're wearing, hang up
This is a "warning sign."
Step 10. Some people don't like chatting by email for long periods of time or giving out their phone number
Don't run away if he asks you to meet. Ask him where he would like to meet you. "Be careful" if it suggests his house or your house. This is another "warning sign"; stop the communication immediately. Always meet him in public, in a neutral place, preferably during the day.
Step 11. When you first meet him make sure you do so in a public place where there are many people, such as a restaurant or bar on a busy street
Only after you get to know him well and when you feel safe should you invite him to dinner, etc. Also tell your friends or family member that you are about to meet someone for the first time, and give him his name. Also give him his phone number if you have it.
Advice
- Many marriages result from internet dating. There are very nice and honest people who are looking for a mate. Just be careful and be careful.
- When you leave, make sure he doesn't follow you home. If you suspect this is happening, then take the longer loop and don't go home. If you have a cell phone, call 113 (even if you don't have credit, it still works).
- Remember, don't believe everything he tells you, and don't tell him everything!
- When you meet him in person, make sure you do so in a public place, such as a library or fast food restaurant, away from where you live. If you want to be really safe, invite him to an event where your friends are, e.g. a group performance, an event in a park or cultural center etc. That way, if she looks suspicious or isn't your type, you don't have to go alone.
- Another smart thing to do is to check him, to make sure he is who he says he is, and if you know where he works call his company and see if he works there, if not meet him there. DANGER SIGN!
- Never tell him that you are very lonely, or that you live alone, and do not give any personal information. This is how girls are induced to meet and are sometimes killed.
- When you start communicating with him, save a copy of his profile on your computer. If he turns out to be a person to block, and he enters using another identity, you will have his profile information to compare in case you suspect he is contacting you with a different name. If it continues to bother you, contact the site provider and explain the situation. They will be the ones to take action with respect to that person.
- Be very careful if a person (especially a man) wants to speed up the marriage too much. IF she is truly single, and may not be, it is likely that after marriage she will turn out to be a different person. Take your time and get to know him! The consequences could be devastating.
- Be smart, be careful and be cautious. You may meet the perfect guy. Love is out there if you are lucky enough to meet it.
- Warning signs tell you to be careful… If you feel that something is wrong, it is very likely that it is.
Remember that all you have to do to get rid of him is to turn off your computer, but delete it first. You can report it to the site provider. They will banner it even though most of the time it will reenter using another name.
- Read his emails very carefully. If he makes a lot of spelling mistakes (and has a spelling check) or uses the wrong grammar, he may not have gone to school like he told you.
- Don't forget to unsubscribe after the trial period. Register and then unsubscribe at the same time. This will allow you to use only the trial period.
Warnings
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The conclusion is be careful!
Use your judgment and trust your instincts.
- Remember that you would not allow a stranger you met on the street to enter your home. So you shouldn't do this with strangers on the internet either.
- Some men pretend to be women so be careful what you say to women as well.
- Some men say they are single or divorced when they are married. Try to find out as much information as possible using a search engine, and end the communication immediately if you don't like what you find.
- Many men have different identities on dating sites. They use different names, ages, and locations.
- If he insists on seeing you, and you are a minor, tell your parents. Don't hide emails, be open to them. Show them everything you receive that is sexual in nature.
