When you study a subject that truly interests you, you go to class happy and motivated, as well as being ready and eager to learn. The same is true when you take lessons from a professor you are truly interested in. After all, is there anything better than sitting and observing the person of your desires the entire time of the lesson? If you are ready to make your infatuation come true and seduce the teacher, you need a little strategy and a lot of courage. It may seem difficult, but don't worry, you can do it!
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Assessing the Situation
Step 1. Try to understand the marital status of the teacher
See if she wears a ring on her left hand. Is it a faith? If so, you need to decide if this factor is an obstacle that might dissuade you from courtship. If there is no ring, find out if the professor is in a romantic relationship. Some teachers may casually mention their boyfriend, girlfriend, or betrothed; pay attention to any such clues. You can also ask other students or those who have attended her classes in the past if they have any news about her emotional situation. If you can find his Facebook profile, you have a great chance to figure out if he's busy or free.
- If you can't come to a certain conclusion, be brave. At the end of the lessons, get up and go to the teacher to talk to him. Say this sentence: "Good morning Professor. I think I saw you with your girlfriend at the restaurant last weekend. Was that her?" Hopefully this little bluff will allow you to get some information; if you are lucky, the professor could give you some clues with his answer.
- Don't make any assumptions about her sexual orientation. If you've found out that he's single, inquire to make sure he's interested in your gender! However, even if most people believe that a teacher is heterosexual, remember that he may be bisexual or his orientation may not be known within the university.
Step 2. Do some research on the university regulations regarding student-teacher relationships
Some universities strictly prohibit them, while others strongly discourage them. Perhaps this information might not make any difference to you, but it helps you understand how many difficulties you can face in seducing the teacher. Technically, the relationship may be admissible and as a result you may not encounter much resistance to persuading the professor. If this kind of relationship between teaching staff and students is prohibited, the challenge (and the possibility of a scandal) could make it much more exciting.
Step 3. Assess the risks and benefits
If you've signed up for any class just in hopes of seducing the professor, you may not have much to lose. However, if the teacher is also the chair of your faculty department, you should weigh the consequences before embarking on the undertaking. It is true, however, that when the heart is involved, sometimes logic has to be put aside.
- If the professor rejects you, will there be serious consequences? If you know you need to take three more courses with the same teacher to graduate, think about it very carefully. Classes may prove to be even more strenuous if you are in a strained relationship with the teacher.
- If you can seduce him, could your relationship interfere with your academic future?
Part 2 of 4: Get his attention
Step 1. Be a good student
Pay attention in class or show interest in the subject. Participate in classroom discussions, answer questions and take good notes. Do not use your cell phone and avoid distracting yourself by daydreaming; you must appear genuinely interested in every word of the teacher. While it's not enough to be a good student to impress a professor, it's certainly a point to your advantage. Remember that he is doing his job and that your interest in the subject pleases him.
Even if you are unable to seduce him, studying hard and concentrating in class allows you to have a good grade on the exam
Step 2. Look after your class
Although you may think the teacher is too intellectual to mind appearances, he is still a human being; if you look sloppy, you can hardly get her attention. Maintain a style suitable for the university environment, but choose clothing that suits you. A neat and tidy look shows the teacher that you respect his lessons. Try to look more mature and elegant than your classmates: a blouse instead of a hoodie or a nice knee-length skirt makes you look more professional and more "like" the teacher.
Dedicating yourself a little more to the look also improves your self-esteem; if you are calm and confident, you are more likely to be considered "au pair" by the teacher
Step 3. Make use of body language
Smile at the teacher during the lesson and try to maintain eye contact whenever you can. Give him a slight nod whenever you think he is explaining an important passage, just to show him that you are attentive and agree. Be a little cheeky; if you know you have an exceptional physical gift, find a way to show it off with discretion. Bend over for a pen, adjust the dress for a peek, or take your time to walk to your seat before class begins; your goal is to get noticed by the teacher.
Do not stare during eye contact. If you catch him watching you, keep your gaze for a few more seconds than is socially acceptable and smile; if he answers with a smile, that's a good sign
Part 3 of 4: Finding Time to Be Alone
Step 1. Go to his office during office hours
Many teachers have to stay in their office at the disposal of the students at fixed times, but many students do not take advantage of this possibility. Check when the professor is available, times are usually communicated at the beginning of the semester. Visit these appointments regularly for help with homework, to talk about exam preparation, or for support with an academic article. The professor will not only be impressed by your study ethic, but at the same time he will notice you; you will no longer be just any face in the crowd of students and you will be able to establish a bond.
- If you have nothing to discuss, don't show up at his office every week. However, once you have established the habit of seeing him during office hours, you can go to him only to chat about other topics not necessarily related to the university; in the meantime, he is likely to realize that you are interested in him.
- Familiarity can turn into affection. Simply spending time face to face can spark some feelings on her part.
Step 2. Find an opportunity to talk to him before and after class
Try to get to class a few minutes early and try to always greet him with a smile. Greet him, ask him how his day is going and discuss one aspect of the lesson, whatever it is! Make sure you talk to him alone, he'll appreciate your friendly and outgoing character.
Step 3. Write an email
Ask him a question about the lesson or homework. Share your views with him about an interesting discussion that arose in class; send him the link of an article you think he might be interested in. Do whatever it takes to stand out from the crowd and find reasons to strike up a conversation.
- Try to keep your emails professional, if a little playful, tone. If you send an email in the evening or on a day off, find a witty reason to justify yourself. If the professor uses emoticons in his correspondence, do so too by adding a smiley face that winks. Each professor sets different boundaries in their correspondence and you have to find the best way to write to them. You don't have to look like just another student sending boring messages every day.
- Even if you want to talk to him every day, limit your correspondence, unless it is absolutely clear that the teacher likes to argue with you so much; if you overdo it, you look like a nuisance.
Part 4 of 4: Establishing a Personal Relationship
Step 1. Start a conversation that is not related to the lessons
This technique is particularly effective during meetings in his office. If you feel he is friendly and in no rush, try talking about topics other than the subject he teaches. Ask him a few questions about his hobbies and interests, ask him for advice on an out-of-school matter, or talk about something you're passionate about. Find out about his previous experiences and how he became a professor.
- By talking about topics other than the subject she teaches, you can demonstrate that you are much more than just a student; you are a real person, just like him, you can build a friendship and hopefully something more!
- Although you can try this strategy before or after class, the teacher doesn't have much time to chat in such situations. The reception hours also offer you the "luxury" of privacy.
Step 2. Drop some clues
Unless you find the courage to declare yourself, you are probably unable to prepare the ground for seducing him; leave a small gift and note on his desk. It doesn't have to be anything important - a new pen or cake is fine. In the note write something that goes beyond a simple communication between student and professor; for example: "I was thinking about her and I imagined that this little gift might please her". It doesn't have to be a declaration of love or a vulgar offer, but just something to show that you don't just see him as a mere professor.
- Think about something small that the teacher really needs. Are you constantly borrowing a pen from students? Buy him one. Do you look tired during class? Offer him a coffee. Do you complain about not having enough time to eat? Give him a homemade muffin. This way, you can accompany the gift with a playful and light card.
- If she asks you about the gift and even tries to return it to you, don't be shy; tell him that you really like him and that you want him to have the gift.
Step 3. Pay attention to its signals
Observe how he interacts with you in relation to other students. Do you often look for your eye contact? Are they friendly and receptive to your attempts to strike up a conversation? Does he treat you differently than other students? If you feel like he's not interested, don't insist.
Step 4. Bump into him outside of the classroom
It may not always be possible, but it's a very useful situation if you can handle it. Find out where your time is spent on weekends or after class. If he mentioned that he regularly visits a coffee shop near the university, try to study nearby. If he said his favorite singer does a show on the weekend, be sure to get tickets. If you really want to seduce him, do something extra to meet him outside the university walls.
- This way, you not only have the opportunity to spend more time with him and the opportunity to show that you are more than a student, but also to let him know that you have similar interests and hobbies.
- Don't become a persecutor! If you "accidentally" meet him at a concert, ask him if he plans to attend the next show from a similar band. If he has lunch in the same place every day, ask him if you can sit with him.
Step 5. Make a move at the end of the semester
Make an appointment to talk to him after the final grades have been posted. Ask him for some advice about lessons for the next semester or admission to a specialist course; try to direct the conversation to other topics. If you feel like he's well disposed and you're feeling brave, casually ask him to have coffee together.
