At work, you have a very good chance of meeting the man of your dreams. You see each other every day, so it's easy to get to know each other. Also, by working together, you already have something in common to talk about. However, turning attraction to a coworker into a romantic relationship isn't always easy. If your boss or other coworkers don't approve, the road to a successful relationship will be fraught with obstacles. If, however, your co-worker reciprocates your feelings, he or she is likely willing to do what it takes to make your romance work.
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Flirting at Work
Step 1. Look your colleague in the eye
Eye contact is very important for seduction and attraction. The eyes are truly the mirror of the soul, so use them to show them your disposition. If you don't catch his eye, he might assume you're not interested in getting to know him.
- While eye contact is important, don't stare too long. There is a fine line between looking and staring.
- In general, women show their attraction to men by raising their eyebrows, looking into their eyes, tilting their heads down and to the side, before turning around. This body language is almost universal.
Step 2. Smile
This is the easiest way to get a man to know you like him. When you smile at a guy, you show openness and a friendly demeanor. This makes him realize that you are available and that he can be himself with you.
- The best smile is the genuine one. People can tell when a smile is fake, so always be natural!
- If you have nice teeth or adorable dimples, smiling will showcase those features.
Step 3. Tap your colleague
In a professional setting, this is not always appropriate advice, so be careful. Some types of contact are common in all environments, but others will be awkward at work. There are three levels of seductive contact.
- Friendly contacts are handshakes or taps on the shoulder to get attention. Similar episodes occur in almost all professional environments.
- Other contacts are more intimate and can leave doubts about the person's intentions, such as putting your arm around someone's shoulder or hugging them. These are not typical behaviors in the kitchen of a crowded restaurant. In the office, however, they can be comforting gestures after a difficult meeting.
- Touching a person's face is considered the most intimate contact. In few business situations you will have the opportunity to do this. However, if you notice an eyelash on your colleague's cheek, you would have the perfect opportunity to gently and seductively remove it.
Step 4. Compliment him
Everyone loves to be flattered. Highlight a feature that you like or appreciate. Better not to focus on looks. Think about something he did that impressed you, or an accomplishment he feels proud of.
- Let him know that you are happy to see him. His personality makes long days at work a lot more fun.
- Compliment him on his professional achievements. Maybe he just finished a great presentation, or he finished a job with great attention to detail. By talking to him, you will gratify him.
Step 5. Be explicit
Studies have shown that direct women are more successful when they flirt. If you don't notice any reaction from the man you like, maybe he didn't get your message and you need to be clearer.
- Being direct has its limits. If you feel like you are giving him all the clues he needs and you don't notice any reaction, maybe he is trying to make you understand that he is not interested.
- If you are afraid that this is the case, keep being yourself and wait for him to make the next move.
- You can be explicit without being demanding. Try saying "I'd like us to go out together sometime" rather than "Shall we go get a drink?".
Step 6. Flirt digitally
Flirting over the phone or on social media can allow you to be more discreet or more exposed to the public, depending on the medium you choose. If you send any seductive messages from time to time, no one is likely to find out. However, your gossip colleagues will notice that you "like" all of her photos on Facebook.
- Always be very careful when flirting digitally. For example, did you click on "Reply" or "Reply all"?
- Avoid anything inappropriate at work. There's nothing wrong with emailing a suggestion that you go get a drink after a long day in your ward. Sending spicy images is harder to justify.
Part 2 of 4: Looking Your Best
Step 1. Look after your appearance
There is no one way to be beautiful. Each woman has their own unique style and all men have different tastes. To look your best you don't have to care what he thinks, but you have to wear something that makes you feel confident. When you feel good about yourself, you will be more attractive to other people.
- If you have to wear formal clothes to work, choose clothing that fits you well. Wear that skirt that showcases your best features.
- If you need to wear a uniform for your profession, make sure it's the right size and clean. Pay particular attention to the details that you can customize: the hair, nails, makeup and jewelry.
- If your work clothes get dirty out of necessity (for example, because you work in a workshop or construction company), you can still choose clothes and hairstyles that make you feel good and that make you feel confident.
Step 2. Make sure you are tidy and hygienic
People who take care of themselves are more attractive because they show that they are proud of their appearance. When you've finally managed to get your co-worker to get a drink with you, avoid the embarrassment of not feeling ready to step forward with him because you didn't shower that day.
Step 3. Get enough sleep
Rest helps us feel good and be more beautiful. If you don't get enough sleep, you'll be groggy and won't be able to flirt in the best way possible.
Step 4. Try to smell good
Smell is the sense most linked to memories and attraction. If the man you like associates you with a pleasant smell, you will also use this biological mechanism in your favor.
Step 5. Be independent and confident
To do this, you can "play hard": it means that you should make him understand that you have many commitments and that you do not depend on a man to feel fulfilled.
- Naturally let him know that you have interesting plans for the weekend. He will understand that you know how to have fun and that you lead a full life. You might say, "Have you ever been in a kayak? This weekend I'm going to try and wonder what I should bring."
- Don't worry about having lunch alone, or with one or two friends. You will show that you value time alone and with loved ones, but that you don't care about surrounding yourself with just any people.
Step 6. Show your fun side
If he only sees you at work, he may not know the other sides of your personality. Make it clear that you don't just think about work, whether in the office or in your free time.
- Do something fun and silly at work. You could organize secret gift exchanges for Christmas, or hang a funny calendar next to the coffee machine.
- Invite your coworkers (not just what you like) to do something fun after work. You could sign up for a charity run, or have a weekend picnic. This way you will let him know your interests as well as work.
Part 3 of 4: Interacting Outside of Work
Step 1. Invite him to do something different
You will show him that you know how to have fun and make him have an exciting time. It's easy to invite someone over for dinner or a drink, but the people we remember most are the ones who inspire us to have new experiences.
- If he declines your invitation, don't be discouraged. You can say, "Well, let me know if you change your mind. I'd love to." This way, you don't preclude the possibility of a meeting in the future and let him take the initiative.
- Choose an activity that you really enjoy. If you have a terrible fear of heights, don't invite him to an Adventure Park, just because it feels like an exciting experience to you. Maybe there is an excursion you can do together.
Step 2. Wear something you couldn't get to work
If you have to meet for lunch or right after work, you won't be able to completely change your outfit. However, you can make some seductive little tweaks. If you meet on a public holiday, be sure to show off your personal style, as you don't have to wear your work clothes.
- If you see each other right after work, you might loosen your hair if you always keep it tied up.
- If you have lunch together, you can leave your coat or jacket at the office to introduce him to the less formal side of you.
- You can change your clothes between work and happy hour. If your clothes are dirty after the day, it's no wonder you want to change them before you go out.
Step 3. Contact him after work
If you have spoken during the day, you can remind him of your conversation with a short message or email. Try not to talk about work, but about the topics you have discussed.
- If he talked about a band or movie he likes, you could write him a similar message: "Hey! I downloaded the album you recommended. Thanks, it was great!".
- Don't go too far. Even if he likes you, he may not want to think about work after a long day. Don't expect to be able to have long conversations over text or email.
Step 4. Get approval from his friends
If he is friends with some of your colleagues, it won't be difficult. Be friendly to the people you hang out with. Of course, you don't have to disclose your intentions. However, if his friends like you, they will support your romantic relationship. In addition, people often value advice from friends when deciding how to move in love.
Part 4 of 4: Maintaining Proper Distances
Step 1. Be respectful
Nobody likes being a victim of sexual harassment. You can send all the necessary signals to let him know that you like him without exceeding the limits of the lawful.
Give it space. Let him decide if he wants to have lunch sitting next to you and avoid always occupying the chair next to him. If he works in another department, don't spend too much time with him, or he'll think you're pushy
Step 2. Learn about your company's policies
In some circles, romantic relationships between colleagues are prohibited. Others impose strict rules on what communications are allowed during business hours. Don't do anything that could jeopardize both of your careers. If you are forced to wait until you have stamped the card before approaching him, do not be in a hurry.
Step 3. Prepare for gossip
This can be the hardest part, but it is very likely to happen. Regardless of how discreet you are, people will notice what happens. Gossip at work helps ease the boredom of routine, so expect naughty questions and uncontrolled rumors.
- In some cases, gossip can help you. If the colleague you like is unsure of your intentions, listening to the rumors about you might get a better idea.
- Decide if you want to silence the rumors or if you want to be honest about your feelings. Remember that, sooner or later, everyone in the office will even know the things you say in confidence.
Step 4. Be aware that your intentions may be questioned
Many people find flirting at work to be a strategy for making progress in their career. First, you need to be honest with yourself and ask yourself if that's not really what's happening to you. Then, tell everyone that you would never try to seduce a coworker just to get a promotion.
Step 5. Just court one man at a time
Thanks to online dating apps, it is very easy to flirt with many guys at the same time (and even date them), while keeping total secrecy. At work, things won't be that simple. Even if the co-worker you like won't notice you're giving the guy who delivers the mail sweet eyes, someone else will. Rest assured that the word will get out.
Advice
- Do not rush. Some people are very cautious about romantic relationships at work. They are worried about a possible failure, which can result in a very embarrassing situation in the office. If your colleague doesn't ask you out right away, don't be discouraged.
- Make sure she's single. Before wasting time and energy, gather information about him. Ask one of his friends naturally if he is dating someone. Your co-worker would likely understand your intentions if they learned of your curiosity, so ask someone you trust.
Warnings
- Love affairs at work that end badly can really lead to unpleasant situations. If you manage to hang out with the colleague you like a couple of times, speak up about this issue honestly. Agree that if things don't go well, you'll still be committed to treating each other with respect in order to work together. If you do not have the same opinion on this subject, it is not advisable to continue seeing each other.
- If things go well, make sure you decide by mutual agreement whether or not to talk about your relationship. Depending on the type of professional environment, it may be more appropriate to keep your relationship secret, or to be totally honest. However, if you don't come to an agreement, painful misunderstandings could arise.
