Make positive choices and changes in your life. These simple steps can improve your self-esteem. Relax, and be yourself.
Steps
Step 1. Start taking risks, because every risk you take makes you stronger and more confident
But remember that there are positive and negative risks. Take those actions that help you achieve your goals.
Step 2. Define your goals by writing them down
Set realistic, achievable goals so you don't get discouraged if you can't accomplish them all at once. Take one step at a time and think positive!
Step 3. Always maintain correct posture (when standing, sitting or walking), especially when walking alone
Step 4. Take care of yourself
Wash your hair often (depending on your hair type) and body. Don't be obsessed with your appearance all the time. One of the important things to be sure of yourself is to feel comfortable with yourself and your body. Be careful not to wear clothes that are too low-cut or too small for your body type, as they may not fit you. If you feel the need, take some simple things with you, like a small brush, lip gloss, and a bottle of body spray.
Step 5. Make your style unique
Buy what you like to wear and it makes you feel happy. Don't wear a garment just because a certain group does. If you feel like a jeans and t-shirt girl, then that's your style. As long as you feel comfortable, you can be confident. Follow your standards.
Step 6. Don't give a damn about what people think, as long as you know what you are doing is right and that you are not hurting anyone
Never be afraid of doing the right thing.
Step 7. Customize your look
If you like wearing jewelry, wear it! If you don't like wearing jewelry, then that's your taste choice and no one can tell you to do the opposite. Customize your haircut, color, shoes, handbag and any other accessories that can help you create your unique look. As with jewels, they don't necessarily go well with everyone and therefore you don't have to wear them if they don't make you feel comfortable.
Step 8. Make sure your room is always clean
A clean room is about always finding what you are looking for when you need it, so you don't get stressed out if you miss something. You will also feel at your fingertips when your friends come home and you can show them a clean and tidy room. Nobody wants to see your underwear on the floor!
Step 9. Make sure you always have tampons / pads in your purse and change them frequently to avoid minor accidents
Step 10. Study, do your homework, and always give your best
Study for homework, do homework, and read everything assigned to you. Answer the questions that are asked in class and ask the teacher yourself about the topic. Don't worry if you still can't understand what you are learning, talk to your classmates or your teacher. You can't get through the year if you don't ask questions. Being smart doesn't mean being weird. People who think this are not smart.
Step 11. Speak correctly, clearly and audibly, and don't swear too much
If you swear too much, use your own chosen words instead. Instead of saying the "C word", replace it with "cabbage" or "wow". A simple word substitution is always better than a dirty word. If you can, try to eliminate these surrogates as well.
Step 12. Nurture your talents
If you are good at dancing, take a class and perfect your skills. If you are good at sports, take lessons and join a team.
Step 13. Join a club if you are outgoing or want to overcome shyness
It can increase your confidence level, and help you develop social skills, as well as get you some friends.
Step 14. Share your passions
If you love music, don't be afraid to bring out your MP3 player (if it's appropriate). Read a book or write a poem if that's what you love to do. Paint, draw, swim or watch an anime if that's your thing. Everyone has their passions and there is nothing wrong with expressing them. Remember, it's all about doing things because they make you feel good, not because someone else is dictating it to you. Find the things you are passionate about and don't be afraid to try something new.
Step 15. Leave friends who don't respect you or who don't like you for who you are
If you feel that your friends have no respect for you, talk to them. Let him know how you feel, tell him how you expect to be treated, and offer solutions. If someone makes you feel bad or "not good enough", it means that they are not your friend and therefore must be dumped immediately.
Step 16. And always remember to surround yourself with people you like, not people you think should be your friends
Step 17. Understand that it is unhealthy to allow your friends or classmates to step on you, this is a big deal if you are shy, or if you are the kind of person who tries to please others
Don't be afraid to say "no" if the situation calls for it. One situation that can be taken as an example is when a friend asks you to help him cheat or copy your homework.
Step 18. Be friendly to everyone you meet, and smile at people when you approach them
Accept the differences of others and appreciate diversity.
Step 19. Socialize and befriend your parents, have adult conversations, but remember to be polite
Step 20. Understand that it is terrible to feel pressured into being in a relationship or going on a date without being ready
As a teenager you are growing up, but you have to respect your limits and boundaries. When the time comes you will know, and you will be much happier that you have waited to be ready.
Step 21. Remember not to accept pressure from anyone to get you drunk, use drugs, or have sex
This is the worst problem for teenagers. Drugs and alcohol are not things that are good for you and it is better not to take them completely. They could do you very serious damage and ruin your good reputation. Don't go out at night if you need to get drunk. First of all, since you are a teenager, it is not legal. Then, remember that getting drunk can be dangerous, you may do things you may regret.
Step 22. Be yourself
Don't indulge in high school stereotypes, like emo, goths or truzze. What makes you unique is your personal style. If someone gives you poser, get rid of it. Think positive! Don't feel obligated to dress exactly like your life model or favorite star. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if you think you are beautiful, then you are beautiful!
Step 23. Forget any disrespect and don't tie insults to your finger
If someone gives you a pet name, ignore it, but if someone gives you a compliment, appreciate it. Think about it.
Step 24. Learn that if someone comes to you and says “you have a beautiful body”, or “your lips are kind of perfect
”, You have to thank him and smile. Not only will it make you feel happier, but it will also make the other feel good for doing something nice. He might even become your friend!
Step 25. Practice looking in the mirror and saying, “I love you
"Or" look … how beautiful I am today ". You can take a chair, stand in front of the mirror and start listing all your positives, the things that make you a beautiful girl for the way you are.
Step 26. Ask someone for help if you feel down or can't get along with your family, ask your parents, a teacher you trust, a spiritual or school counselor
If you don't take care of yourself and your emotional health, you may be making bad decisions that you may regret. Tell someone that you are afraid or that you feel sad and that you want me to help you feel better.
Step 27. If someone misbehaves with you, just say "don't be pathetic" and walk away
Advice
- Make sure you get enough sleep. Most girls need at least 8 hours of sleep per night. Take a weekend nap if you're exhausted.
- Surround yourself with friends who make you feel good about yourself, instead of being around people who make you feel more alone than you are.
- Try to improve your communication skills so that people understand each other. Being moody or temperamental will get you nowhere.
- Don't overdo your makeup. Keep your hair, makeup and nails natural. It makes you look more classy and helpful.
- You don't need to be rich to be sure of yourself. You can buy clothes from Oviesse, Terranova or H&M, they have clothes with beautiful brands at reduced prices (and nobody will know!)
- Take care of yourself in all senses. Healthy people are self-confident people. Constant physical exercise increases one's inner security. You will feel better, you will look more beautiful and you will also move differently. Join the gym, go jogging, play football or basketball, and try to eat light protein meals at least 5 times a day. Energy bars are great for keeping in your backpack at school.
- Take some time for yourself. Stay alone and enjoy that time! Think about how you view the people around you, school and your life in general.
- If someone tries to pressure you, it's okay to say no, as long as you keep your attitude calm and polite. "Hey, do you want to smoke with us tomorrow night?" A reasonable answer could be this, if you don't agree, "I don't like it much, but I'm going to the cinema on Saturday, do you want to come?"
- Keep busy. Test yourself continuously. Do not think that you will be perfect in everything and that you will not make mistakes. Make your own school decisions.
- If you care about your intelligence, start working hard to improve it. Smart people are very confident. Read, take afternoon classes, keep an excellent average. Organize your priorities and stick to them!
- Set yourself realistic goals. Do you want to be known for your personality, your intelligence or your sporting skills? Or for all three? Get organized and write down what you want to do. Make detailed lists, explaining step by step how you plan to accomplish these goals. For example, if you want to be known as the girl with a "big" personality, then try to be more relaxed, playful, flexible, friendly and open. Compliment people, but only if they're sincere. Try to be as honest as possible and don't lie to people who take a damn about you. Allow yourself to grow and change.
- Stay healthy! Make sure you are getting enough vitamins and minerals, and that you are getting nutrients from each food group. Exercise at least three times a week. Try to jog at least 5km if possible. Become part of the school sports teams.
Warnings
- Avoid being arrogant to hide your insecurities. Many people don't like this and can understand the trick.
- If you have a very serious problem with a close friend, don't argue. Calm down and argue in your own words. Express what you feel and respect their feelings. Treat him with dignity. Tell him you expect him to always be honest with you.
- If something seems wrong and dangerous to you, say no. Stay away from self-destructive people who are in drugs, pornography, vandalism or gangs.
- Don't try to overdo it if someone doesn't like you. Try to be self-deprecating.
- You have the right to end any repulsive conversation. Get away.
- If someone insults you, ignore them. Don't worry about it. You are not responsible for the behavior, actions, feelings or problems of other people.
