Celebrating the people we care about most comes down to one thing: paying attention to them. There is no secret decoder on the Internet to know what exactly a girl wants… let alone what your girlfriend wants. Searching for the perfect gift or throwing the perfect party can be stressful, so when it comes time to plan an unforgettable birthday for your girlfriend, we hope the tips in this article will give you the boost you need.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Collect Information
Step 1. Mark the date on the calendar
You can't give your girlfriend an unforgettable birthday if you forget the date. If you don't know her, ask her.
If you don't ask, you won't be able to plan a birthday right the night before nor will you know if it's the night before. Therefore, you will need to inform yourself well in advance to prepare
Step 2. Listen to it carefully
It should be taken for granted to maintain a healthy relationship and be a valid interlocutor for your partner, but it is advisable to pay twice as much attention as his birthday approaches. Without some effort, there is a risk of missing the most obvious insights.
- While shopping together, talk about what she likes. Start writing a list using the notes feature on your smartphone or keep a small notebook in your backpack (do it discreetly, though).
- Some hints may come as you laze on the couch surfing the Internet. If he keeps his iPad or phone open, be on the lookout for any casual comments about a possible gift.
- This goes beyond the gift. Only by listening carefully will you know, for example, that your girlfriend hates surprise parties because in middle school she was terribly ridiculed at 1am by her best friends for her pajama fantasy and that, therefore, she would be a bad idea to organize such a thing today. Don't assume you like something because you like it.
Step 3. Pay attention when she goes out with her friends
It is likely that even in a small group gathered for lunch, you speak freely of interests that, in his opinion, you are not interested in. Don't let these free gift ideas (or advice that can warn you about wrong gifts) go to waste!
Step 4. Ask what they would like
Of course, she doesn't have to tell you what she wants directly, but asking is a simple solution that can make you both happier.
- If he says he wants nothing, it literally means "doing nothing". A small gesture, such as preparing dinner or manually creating a thought that recalls a moment you spent together, can be pleasant even if you don't want a gift in a big way. If she doesn't want her birthday to be a big event, how about having a quiet evening, just the two of you?
- It is not advisable to ignore any expressed wishes, to limit spending, especially after asking her for a suggestion. The equation "spend more = better gift" is a common mistake when giving a gift, especially in the early stages of the relationship.
- While making a wish may cause you to be disappointed if you don't receive the long-awaited gift, don't be discouraged if you don't have the opportunity to satisfy your partner's first choice. If, however, you want something you can't afford at the moment, go a completely different route rather than settle for the version that shyly approaches those limited edition trainers or Tom Ford's perfume.
Step 5. Look around her Pinterest profile
This social network allows users to post pictures of what they love. In a nutshell, if your girlfriend is registered and you are having trouble choosing the gift, take a look at her Pinterest profile.
While a little online verification can give you great ideas, don't use it as an excuse to invade your girlfriend's privacy. Respect for spaces is always very important
Step 6. Take into account the strength of your bond
What is appropriate for a girl who has known each other for two days is not appropriate for the girl who has been dating and cohabiting for four years, and vice versa. Take into account the length of the relationship and the level of intimacy when planning your partner's birthday.
Looking too "aggressive" is another common mistake in a recently started relationship. Organizing an entire evening of celebration may not be the best solution for someone new to each other, but be cool and let her know you're thinking about her on her birthday. Send her a few messages or write her a couple of old-fashioned cards to make your presence felt
Part 2 of 3: Organize the Party
Step 1. Work out your plan and prepare it as planned
If you wait until the last minute to buy her the gift, book at the restaurant or ask your boss for permission to take her to the cinema, you will end up stressed and create situations in which you will be forced to settle for the second (or third) best way to celebrate.. No girl thinks a birthday when her boyfriend puts off things to do is unforgettable.
- If you are planning a surprise party, make sure all the people you would like to invite have time to change their plans and make any necessary preparations.
- Visiting a museum is a great way to celebrate a birthday, but be sure to find all the information regarding the museum's policies, ticket prices and hours. If you expect anything to be open because it "seems so", you run the risk of ruining a nice party plan at the last minute.
Step 2. Get a card, flowers, or both
While not all girls like it, the idea is a welcome one. A small symbol that shows that you love her and think about her even when she is not with you can mean a lot. Preparing a card with your own hands is even better than buying it. Pay no attention to your skill level with paint, glitter and glue.
Flowers arouse emotions when it comes to receiving and giving them. By giving them away, you will do more for yourself than you can imagine! The simple fact of picking a beautiful flower you see in a meadow and giving it to her without too much ostentation and ceremony will make her blush
Step 3. Don't just take into account the gift, but also where you get it from
Online stores take time to arrange shipping, while small businesses (such as those found on Etsy) often have different hours than you might imagine. Therefore, order fulfillment can take longer.
Step 4. Search the city
By searching through the Internet about the events that are organized in the city, you can get interesting and unexpected ideas for the birthday. Therefore, it is wise to keep abreast of this, even if you have already begun the preparations. If you're not expecting them, festivals, concerts, and construction works could ruin your day, so plan an alternative route if you want to take your girlfriend to the restaurant.
Likewise, keep up to date with the weather conditions. A severe thunderstorm could turn your excursion into a disaster, while a meteor shower could offer you the right atmosphere to end (or start in the most romantic way) the birthday
Step 5. Set the wallet aside and take out the picnic basket
An unforgettable birthday doesn't necessarily have to be expensive. The tried and tested picnic is something everyone can afford. It would be fun to spend the afternoon together, by either a stream or in the woods, or simply in the garden, in the company of a playlist of carefully chosen songs and with a little privacy.
Even if you're not into cooking, a couple of sodas and some chicken nuggets may be just what you need. Do not hesitate to ask friends and family for help to prepare bruschetta or other simple appetizers, or even just to arrange cold cuts, butter, cheese and a baguette in French style
Step 6. Dig into the past to make a great gift
If your relationship has been going on for a long time, you will have plenty of ideas for making the right gift. Try to use all the ideas and places you have visited together to find the right gift for her!
- A treasure hunt is a genius gimmick, as commitment and application can expand a smaller budget and turn a birthday into a fun experience. Rhyme clues that refer to particular events that occurred during your story, then hide them in the house and in the classroom (hoping that nothing will embarrass her in this case), or in places that have a certain meaning for your girlfriend. You can ask her family for help so that as soon as she wakes up on her birthday, she finds the first clue hanging from the ceiling fan!
- Albums are tender and inexpensive thoughts. Try to reflect on all your best memories, pasting photos and old banknotes inside. You can even include some ideas for upcoming adventures to enjoy together. And in case you find yourself having a hard time getting one, know that there is nothing embarrassing about giving your girlfriend a nice thought.
Part 3 of 3: Celebrate Your Girlfriend
Step 1. Throw a pebble at his window at midnight
It is not trivial, it is a classic. Throwing a couple of pebbles (make sure they are small!) At her window at the stroke of midnight, if only to wave her goodbye if she can't get out, is a meaningful gesture that anyone can do.
You will earn more points by bringing her the gift, because you will imply that you just can't wait to give it to her or show her the "Happy Birthday" sign
Step 2. Don't look at your cell phone
We take our mobile phones with us everywhere: in the classroom, in meetings, in the bathroom, in bed. Don't take it to your girlfriend's birthday. This is a distraction that will spoil your attention and hinder communication. Total attention is the greatest gift you can give.
- Note: Don't mistake "your undivided attention" for a satisfying birthday present to give to your girlfriend.
- You may need the phone to arrange to meet up with friends and family according to your plans. However, don't put cell phone control ahead of your mental and emotional participation in your girlfriend's birthday.
Step 3. Give her a gift that is meant for her
It's easier than you can imagine to get confused and choose a gift that surprises you more than her. Make sure the Super Nintendo you bought that is wrapped in your closet is really because Super Metroid is the game that excites her the most and not because you wanted to have the Super Nintendo.
Step 4. Give her something that only you can give her
Even if all your attention is focused on her, making sure that the gift she receives undeniably bears your imprint, you can make it even more important.
- If you go out for dinner, it is not enough to take it to the most beautiful place. Take her to that new Chinese restaurant you talked about while you were studying abroad.
- If you give her a book (or anything else that has literary or artistic value), choose something that has a particular meaning in your eyes that she will appreciate, but that will make her think of you. Prepare a special audio cassette or playlist and she'll think of you every time she listens to it.
Step 5. Be creative
If you are a musician, compose something special for your girlfriend and perform in her honor! And if you're not, sneak up on lessons and play a piece of music for her! Even if you won't be that good, it will be something given from the heart that no one else would be able to give her (and maybe it will be fun enough to make you laugh for the rest of the evening).
Advice
- Be sure to remove the price tag from the gift.
- Don't give her money or a gift certificate. These are gifts that often convey a lack of personality.
