Everyone in life has ups and downs, and for some, the illness of depression can make life even more hectic and full of dark days. You may come to think that getting it over with would make it easier, or even the only solution. But a dark moment in life is a temporary stage, while suicide is forever, and devastating to those around you. If you seek help and can get through these difficult times, you can move on to living a happy and fulfilling life. Keep reading.
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Changing the way you think
Step 1. Remember all the choices you have made in life
Suicide is the first choice from which you can never go back. Do you really want this? If you are looking for help, or want to escape, or feel insecure, then you don't really want to kill yourself. Even if the situation seems terrible to you and all you want to do is escape, there are other solutions, such as leaving the city and starting a new life elsewhere. You can always face life on a day-to-day basis, and it is every day that leads you to make the next move, big or small, towards change. Suicide is the only move you are unable to return from, the move that could invalidate all other choices you make. It's not worth it.
Step 2. Know that you can make new choices every day to change
Be bold and change the situations that are making you miserable. What's the worst that can happen to you? Change school. Try living without friends for a while. Move, wherever you live. Stop your relationship if it is an abusive relationship. Accept your parents who disapprove of your personal choices or lifestyle. Cut out those relationships that negatively affect your life. Suicide is a drastic measure, but you can make other drastic decisions without them being irreversible.
Step 3. Analyze if it is physical pain
Yes, this can actually lead to suicidal thoughts and if it is alarming stress or an autoimmune disease like fibromyalgia, you may not even realize that the problem is physical pain, because the excitement from stress is really unbearable. You have much less critical judgment when the physical pain is extreme. Migraines are another source of pain that is so extreme that it leads to suicidal thoughts. The answer to these medical situations is to have you visit a hospital and take pain medication if needed. Go to the emergency room if you can't get any other help and the pain is severe enough to push you to a suicidal level.
Step 4. Look for reasons to endure and keep living
Who would feel hurt or abandoned if you died? Depression and other mental illnesses can make you forget how many people care for you. But the consequences of suicide would be enormous. Your family, friends, colleagues, schoolmates, neighbors, distant relatives, business associates, acquaintances, everyone would be affected if they lost you. Your death would have a devastating effect on their lives, their plans, and their emotional well-being. Above all, if they lose you, they will feel robbed of the time they spend in your good company. Observe all the connections, more or less important, to understand the impact that your death would have on others. Who would take care of your dog or cat? What would happen to the animal?
Step 5. Look at the things you could do if you stayed alive
If you kill yourself, you will never be able to go to Australia to catch the big wave with surfing or backpacking across Europe. Your unfinished book will never be published. You won't get to see next week's episode of your favorite TV series. "A man in a romantic crisis chose to live because he could not miss a show that would air a few days later. The day of the episode was better; the show was even better than expected and he shared it with the lover who has returned in the meantime. " No matter what it is, no matter what others think about it, your unfulfilled desires are important right now, so think about how to go about achieving them.
Step 6. Think about how you would make people who hate you happy
When all positive emotions aren't enough, sometimes anger, rage, and hatred can help you stay alive. Do you really want people who hate you to rewrite who you were and lie to the world by deleting you as if you never existed? Do you want their life to be easier now without you reminding them that they don't control everything as they would like? Do you want everyone to feel sorry for them and only hear their side of the story? When you are gone, no one will be able to speak for you anymore, no one who is left alive will speak for you unless you do it.
Step 7. Realize that there are no altruistic reasons that merit suicide
There are better ways to get money and help the family than your life insurance. They would be missing a lot more than the money they need. It is not necessary to die to help them. If you can't stand being a burden to them because you're sick, struggle to gain strength and do what you can and what you can. You would hurt them much more than you could help them with your death; then find another way.
Step 8. Contact a spiritual person
Not everyone has had a good experience with theologians and religious people. Fortunately, a person experiencing a real moment of peace and harmony can give you the answers you are looking for, the wisdom you need, and the magic to get you on the right path.
Part 2 of 2: Coping with the Crisis
Step 1. Call the friendly phone
Almost everywhere there are telephone lines that you can contact if you have thoughts of suicide. Sometimes the best way to step back is simply to be able to tell someone what is bothering you. Don't be afraid to call these anonymous services whenever you feel the need. You can say a lot of things in any negative situation to someone who listens and doesn't judge you. We all need it sometimes.
Step 2. Contact or go directly to a hospital
If you are calling the hotline for phone support but still want to die, tell them you want to go to the hospital. Break anonymity and say who you are and where you are. If you can't find a help line (albeit rare), call someone immediately before giving yourself time to think about anything else. Call a person who takes you seriously and tells you where the apartment is where you want to kill yourself. Ask her to help you get to a hospital, or go directly yourself.
Step 3. Wait for help
While waiting for someone to come to take care of you, or to go to the hospital, sit down and breathe slowly. Check your breath by timing it, try to take about twenty breaths per minute. A nice round number.
Step 4. Get therapy and support
Seek help from a psychiatrist or psychologist and take medications and / or attend counseling sessions. Work to get to the root of the reasons that drove you to suicide. Face the situation for what it is. Remember that depression due to a particular situation, such as the pain of being left in a relationship, the loss of a job or a sudden physical disability, can be treated and treated with drugs and therapies.
Advice
- Remember that there is always someone who loves you, even if you don't know it, so think twice.
- No matter how dire the situation may seem to you, keep hoping that things will get better. And remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
- Remember that there are people who take care of you, and even if you don't see them, they are there. People like you, you are a good person.
- Life does not stop for anyone. If today is a bad day, things will soon get better. Just let them pass and things will change for the better.
- Look at everything you have accomplished so far and how many lives you have touched.
- Confide in someone you can trust. It is there for you no matter what thoughts you have in your head.
