Many men are forced, at some point, to separate from their beloved consul by the strict order of their companions. All of this can be avoided by using the right strategy to gradually introduce gaming culture to your beloved girlfriend. Make video game play an activity that both of you enjoy! Note: There are no guarantees that she will like it. Don't get mad at her if that's the case.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Get Her to Play
Step 1. Find out if you have ever played a video game
She may not be an avid gamer, but she may have played some Super Mario games as a child. Maybe she likes to play some internet games from time to time. If you know her history as a player, you will have a better chance of finding a game she likes.
Step 2. Present it as quality time
Remind your girlfriend that if you both play video games, you will be able to spend even more quality time together. However, remember that it will only count as quality time if she really enjoys doing it, so don't use this argument if that's not the case.
Step 3. Mask it from exercise
If you have a Wii fit, you can turn video games into part of an exercise routine you do together. It's one of the best ways to find a game that she not only likes, but that she wants to play with you.
Step 4. Give her gadgets related to videogames
There are tons of video game related accessories that you could buy her that are full of flavor. Tetris-style bracelets or Super Mario mushroom earrings are two good options.
Step 5. Make a trade
In the early stages of your attempt to get her to play video games, you may want to make a compromise. Offer to take her out for dinner or watch one of her favorite romantic comedies in return.
Method 2 of 3: Playing Video Games Together
Step 1. Choose a game that you might like
Chances are she won't like a gory first person shooter, so rely on your common sense in choosing.
- Try to choose a game or game system that isn't too confusing and doesn't require low reaction times. Many people who don't play habitually are intimidated by key combinations to press.
- If you can, choose a game that can be played in multiplayer and, even better, in collaboration.
- Keep your girlfriend's personality in mind when choosing a game. Some may prefer colorful games for all age groups, such as Katamari Damacy, Bust A Move, Lego Star Wars, Sims, and pretty much all Super Mario games. In general, girls prefer games where there is good customization and a dramatic storyline. Even a pinch of these factors can make a game much more attractive to them. Graphic adventures are great in terms of good storylines.
- Don't choose games that feature strippers, hookers, and sex. Unless she has a good sense of humor about it, she probably won't like them.
Step 2. Show her the commands
Place your hands on top of hers and show her the basic game controls to get her off to a good start. Once her muscles have learned to move in unison with yours, you can let her do it on her own.
Step 3. Have fun playing with her
If you enjoy it, she will too, even if she doesn't really like games. Make a few jokes, make her laugh, and focus mostly on spending time with her, not completing the game in question.
Step 4. Be understanding and help her
When she first starts, tell her that she will learn over time, as she will likely be a little frustrated at first. Make her feel like it is something she can learn to do. Make it win. Try not to show any signs of irritation. As you play, it will improve and may begin to really enjoy the game.
Method 3 of 3: Prepare it for the Next Time
Step 1. Teach her how to relax her hands
His joints and muscles may get tired during his first few play sessions. Show her how to stretch with her hands, because if she associates video games with sore, ankylosed hands, she won't want to play them anymore.
You could also give her a hand massage to make her feel better
Step 2. Accept that you probably won't want to play eight hours straight
When she wants to do more, don't push her to keep playing and don't make her feel guilty.
Step 3. Thank her for trying
Tell her that you enjoyed it and hope you can play together sometime.
Advice
- If you're just starting out in a relationship, don't take anything for granted about their interests or experiences with video games. Some girls love video games. Some even love first person shooters.
- If you're playing an MMORPG or using Wii avatars, let them create a character on your account. Let her choose the look, the style of the clothing and everything in between.
- If and when she starts beating you consistently, don't stop playing with her. Remember, you wanted it!
- If you and your girlfriend can play online at the same time, don't ignore her and don't take advantage of it.
- Some Nintendo systems have more intuitive controls which may be useful for learning quickly and playing without much experience. They could be a good starting point for new players, unless they already have experience with other control systems.
- If you're the kind of person who swears wildly after losing a game, try to limit yourself. You could make her understand that you are not a very civilized person.
- In a first person shooter, try to teach her maps and "tactical points" to give her an edge.
- If you try to involve your girlfriend in something you like but she doesn't love, she'll feel justified in doing the same to you. If she lends herself, so should you.
- Eventually, he may want to try more advanced games. It is not said, however. She might become a Super Mario champion but never want to try a shooter. If you want her to play this kind of video game, try suggesting that she play co-op with you.
- Girls usually love music, so games like Dance Dance Revolution and Rock Band / Guitar Hero could be good places to start.
- If you're role-playing with your character, and she feels threatened by how you interact in a romantic way with other characters, be discreet about it. Don't ignore her feelings and don't scoff at them.
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- Resist the temptation to use your girlfriend as a means of advancing your character or guild. Help her create a positive, independent gaming experience in a game that both of us enjoy.
- Having a big screen TV or projector could help you get your girlfriend involved "in" the game. It's a lot easier to get caught up in the game and be careful with a big screen than to have to squint to see what's going on on a small one.
- Use a chair where she can sit comfortably on your lap. If she leans on you while she plays, she will enjoy the experience more.
- In a 2-player game, enabling her for infinite life points could help her learn the controls.
- If your girlfriend likes to read, let her try some text games. MUDs can be more mentally stimulating than many hack'n'slash MMOs.
- If she says she isn't interested in video games, respect her thinking.
- Guitar Hero could be a good game for both of you because you can collaborate on different difficulty levels.
