Sometimes the hardest thing to do at a party is to socialize. There is nothing worse than feeling alone without developing interpersonal relationships with anyone. Here are some tips to help you out.
Steps
Step 1. Always make sure you know who is hosting the party and why they are celebrating (particularly if you introduce yourself as a friend of friends)
Step 2. When you arrive at the meeting place, stop at the door for a few moments and look around
This way you will have time to orient yourself. See if there is anyone you know and proceed towards them.
Step 3. Even if you don't know anyone, walk into the room with a smile as if you know at least half of the people present
You will probably receive smiles in return.
Step 4. Find the landlord
Congratulate him on the wonderful party and the turnout of people. In fact, if you admit that you don't know most of them, chances are he'll show you around the introductions.
Step 5. When introduced, reach out to give a firm handshake (without sweaty palms)
If you decide to shake hands, make sure the grip is neither too weak nor too strong. Squeeze them once or twice by saying something like 'hello'. Nobody wants to free their hand from a grip or feel their palms wet. It is important to make a good first impression.
Step 6. If the landlord has not yet informed you about the other person's occupation, ask for it
Ask her if she usually lives in the area. If it is a student party, ask the other person what subjects he is studying. Wait for the answer before moving on to the next question. Talk a little about yourself, where you live and what you study, etc.
Step 7. Look around you
If you see groups of people chatting, make your way over to them. See if you can overhear snippets of conversation. If they are discussing a topic you know, say: "Excuse me but I couldn't help but listen. Hello, my name is ----- "and" If you don't mind, I'd like to hear your opinion on the matter, since I'm also interested in the subject ". Most of the time you will be welcome. Let the person continue speaking and finish the conversation. When you're sure he's done, express your opinion politely, not aggressively. A good way could be to say: “I'm sure you're right, but you don't believe….”. In all likelihood, you will get acquainted this way. When a conversation topic gradually fades, ask people in the group to talk about themselves. They will likely ask you to do the same.
Step 8. Grasp the common elements
If you are from the same workplace, you may have a lot more in common. Ask the other person working in his office about any changes that have been made, etc.
Step 9. If you happen to unintentionally hear something you know, politely introduce yourself to the speech by saying:
“Sorry, I couldn't help but hear that..” (and introduce yourself) “My name is…. How do you know…. (the host)? . Make sure you are contributing to the conversation in some way and not just making useless chatter.
Advice
- Don't keep talking about yourself. Nobody likes boring people.
- Learn to listen. Pay attention when others are talking and you will be drawn into the conversation.
- Most people love to talk about themselves; ask questions about their jobs, their interests, or what they like to do for fun.
- Don't stand in a corner waiting for someone to come and talk to you, it probably won't happen.
- Dress according to the occasion.
- However, if things are not going well and you see someone else sitting in the corner, it could be a good opportunity to get out of a desperate situation; approach this person, do not stay in a corner. You can join forces and seem less alone.
- Never criticize anyone and never talk to anyone you meet about anyone. You never know if they know the person you're talking about.
- When you meet someone, use their name right away, for example: "Nice to meet you, John" looking into their eyes. This helps you remember the person and makes you appear affable and confident.
- If the other person seems fit, ask them if they are exercising and compliment them on their appearance. You are likely to find a common element of interest.
- If you use his name twice: “Hi John, it's really nice to meet you John”, you are more likely to remember his name later in the evening.
Warnings
- Try to remember the name of the person you are talking to so that you can refer to them by their name next time.
- Comments made to a woman such as "you are attractive" will probably not be appreciated.
- Don't speak out loud, don't mutter, and be clear whatever you say.
