Self-harm is a serious problem that most people prefer to hide, for fear of being judged. But sometimes you want to share your secret with someone else, even though you don't know exactly how. Well, then read on!
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Expose the Problem
Step 1. Sit next to someone you trust
Ask a parent, friend, or trusted acquaintance if you can talk to them. Make sure it is someone you can trust blindly and with whom you feel comfortable dealing with the subject.
Ask him to remain calm despite the situation
Step 2. Tell him a little about what is bothering you
He should be sweet and understanding. Gradually communicate what is happening to you to gradually get to the heart of the matter.
Remember that we are all human beings and therefore we have different reactions. If you can, keep calm and ask him if he would prefer me to talk to someone else
Step 3. Open completely
Tell him why you started self-harming and what you think is the cause.
Step 4. At some point in the conversation, ask him if he would be willing to help you
If the answer is yes, you may find ways to overcome the problem together and ask for help.
Method 2 of 2: Ask for Help
Step 1. Identify the root cause of the problem
If something in particular has caused you to start hurting yourself, you just need to figure out if it is financial problems, relationship problems, bullying, etc. If you go back to the triggering cause of the problem, it will be easier to ask for appropriate help.
Step 2. Get help
Find a therapist.
Step 3. Begin the healing journey
Read How to Overcome Depression and How to Stop Getting Cuts on Your Body.
Advice
- Sometimes it's easier to confide in people you don't know at all than people you know.
- Asking him to promise not to tell others might be a good idea. However, remember that if he feels that you are sinking deeper and deeper into depression, he may tell someone else, to preserve your safety.
- Make sure you have the tissues on hand.
- Don't hesitate to ask for help. Even a quick chat with a friend is better than keeping negative thoughts to yourself.
- As you explain your problem, remember that you are doing it for your own good and therefore should not be upset.
- If he gets a hit, it's not your fault. He should have taken it differently.
- If the thought of harming yourself continues to haunt you, talk to someone you trust as soon as possible. Getting out of this tunnel is difficult, but not impossible. Let the people who are close to you help you.
Warnings
- Make sure the person is trustworthy. If it isn't, it may reveal your secret to other people without your consent.
- Don't keep your problem a secret. If several things go wrong in your life, you will completely lose control and may be beset with suicidal thoughts.
