Sometimes in life we are forced to deal with bad news. Whether it is a loss or an unwelcome diagnosis, the timing could be really tough. Read on and find out how to look forward.
Steps
Step 1. Don't hold back emotions
Getting bad news is always devastating, so pretending it doesn't matter or you aren't upset about it won't do you any good. Instead of repressing your feelings, express how you feel without fear of admitting that you are afraid or cry. Don't try to be brave, sadness will only recur during your loneliness and make you feel even worse.
Step 2. Don't feel guilty
Sometimes when we are diagnosed with a serious illness or when we get another bad news about ourselves we feel guilty. We do not want relatives and friends to suffer because of us and we believe that bad news, in addition to ruining our lives, can also damage theirs. But there's no reason why you should feel guilty. It's not your fault and you don't have to apologize. Rather than being left in the dark, people who care about you definitely prefer to know the truth and be able to be around you. Guilt could also arise if someone else is having a hard time. You may feel unable to provide valuable help and guilty for not being the one affected by the problem. Such feelings will not help you. Life is not always fair and it is sometimes unpredictable. Things happen to people seemingly for no reason whatsoever. So don't feel guilty, just support the person who needs it without blaming yourself.
Step 3. Look for the bright side
You may feel that everything in your world is falling apart, but as in any terrible situation, there will always be something positive. Think about it and talk to someone or write your thoughts down. When you feel upset, you can reread your list of positive thoughts and be able to feel a little better. While it may seem almost impossible at the moment, even the most horrible news can be partially lightened by the positive in your life.
Step 4. Distract yourself
Sometimes this may be easier said than done, but spending a few hours with friends, shopping or doing a simple activity you enjoy, without mentioning the bad news, will help you get rid of the sadness that overwhelms you. The problem may linger in the back of your mind, but by keeping busy you may achieve a sense of normalcy and realize that the world has not stopped spinning.
Step 5. Understand what is happening
When you get bad news, don't rush to conclusions and risk feeling even worse than you should. Collect all possible information relating to the problem, only in this way you will be able to understand how it is best to behave in order to overcome it. When you know exactly what is happening, you will be able to see the positives and understand how it is possible to deal with what you have been told.
Step 6. Describe the bad news to someone
We all know that talking about it is the best way to overcome it. Share your feelings with a trusted person who can provide you with the support you need, even if they are the person who is the subject of the bad news (they themselves may need to do the same). Express your fears, hopes, worries and emotions by talking to someone, you will feel much better.
Step 7. Understand that you are not alone
Life is never easy. In some moments it will seem that everything is collapsing around you and that you are the only one standing. You're not the only one. Everyone in life is forced to face terrible situations, and to have similar feelings. Perhaps talking to someone who is experiencing or has experienced a similar event will help you notice. Make a commitment to stay focused on solving the problem, be confronted and don't repress your emotions as you try to move on with your life. It might not be easy, but sometimes it's not that hard either.
Advice
- Find someone you can talk to, choose a trusted person who can provide you with the support you are looking for.
- Let your emotions flow.
- Always look for the positives.
- Smile, even when it's not easy to do. Watch something that makes you laugh, you will definitely feel better.
Warnings
- Don't repress your emotions.
- Don't rush to conclusions, it's never possible to know exactly what's going to happen.
