If you are in fifth grade, you are at a stage where some of your peers are starting to show a greater interest in girls, and it can be difficult to know how to get one. Maybe you've gotten to a point where the line between teasing and flirting is no longer clear, and you don't know exactly how to keep the interest of the kid you like alive. First of all, it is essential that you feel comfortable with your way of being and that you do not change just for him. In addition to all this, you will have to smile a lot, be sociable and make it clear that you are also nice, not just pretty. So how do you break the heart of a boy your age? Read on to find out.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Attracting His Eye
Step 1. To begin with, he must realize that you are a girl who knows how to have fun
If you want a guy to like you, then he should understand that you are a cheerful and sunny person. You shouldn't give him the impression that you are one of those girls who always depends on others for fun, or who lives with a perpetually long face, who cares about a trifle, or who often feels in a bad mood. Instead, he should notice you and think, “Hey, that girl always laughs and seems to have fun. I really should know her”. Don't pretend though: you should actually aim to have such a personality, anyway.
- Acting cheerfully doesn't mean you have to smile falsely and when you don't feel like it. However, you should try to have a positive attitude by focusing on what makes you smile while talking or doing an activity, without complaining about every single thing that goes wrong.
- Even if you are alone or busy with your math test, try to consider the bright side of the situation and smile anyway. Not every moment in your life will be good, but you can think of something you can't wait to do later in an attempt to be optimistic.
- While you are going to school alone, don't have a pissed look on your face. You should avoid looking frowning, bored while looking at your cell phone, or generally uninterested in your surroundings. By letting go of distractions and trying to have a smiling or at least neutral expression, it will allow you to get noticed by the guy you like.
Step 2. Try to have confident body language
When it comes to demonstrating your self-worth, what you convey with your body is especially important. Leave your arms at your sides instead of keeping them folded, so you will look approachable. Look straight ahead if you are alone and meet the gaze of the people you talk to, don't stare at the floor. You won't always feel confident, but showing your self-esteem through body language is important for increasing it.
- Another way to have body language that exudes confidence is to control nervousness. Don't bite your nails, don't play with the hem of your shirt or your hair, don't do anything that makes you look flustered.
- When in a group of people, try to stand up straight instead of hunching over so you will be noticed and comfortable.
Step 3. Don't be afraid to smile at him
When you see the guy you like, you may feel shy, but a slight and sweet smile can help you a lot to get noticed. All you have to do is smile at him when you look him in the eye, this will instantly make you look more friendly and down to earth. You shouldn't try to catch her eye and smile all the time, but you should make this effort when you look into each other's eyes and think it's right. In particular, it should be done when you meet in the corridor, to appear sociable.
If it intimidates you to do all this, you can quickly smile at him and then look away. You don't have to seem too impatient - your goal is to be friendly and helpful, so that he understands that you want to get noticed by him
Step 4. Try to hit him
To get a guy to notice you, you should allow him to understand what makes you different from everyone else. You don't have to brag or monopolize her attention though. If you love fashion, then let me notice the necklace you created or your unique dress. If you play football, then tell him how important the sport is to you, or invite him to a game. If you are known for your sense of humor, then make jokes with him. Your goal is to make him understand that you are special, and therefore this will encourage him to want to know you better.
- Don't brag about the things you're good at. Instead, talk about how much you love painting, writing poetry, doing gymnastics, or pursuing another hobby of yours. He will understand that you are a passionate person.
- Don't get noticed for the sake of it. Dyeing your hair pink is not a good idea at all to get her attention; however, if you really want to, then go for it! Remember, if you do something just to get noticed, she'll realize it.
Step 5. Don't use your friends as intermediaries
At school, it can be quite common to ask your friends to talk to the guy you like for you. Maybe you want them to test the ground. However, if you want to impress him and make him notice you, you shouldn't use your friends for something you should be doing. Show that you are more mature than many of your peers and that you are comfortable enough to talk to him directly.
- Whether you want to say hello or feel ready to tell him you like him, you should approach this guy by yourself. He will be impressed and maybe he will start to want to meet you.
- Letting your friends write him letters, or sending them yourself, will give him the idea that you are afraid to contact him. Instead, breathe deeply and talk to us face to face.
Step 6. Surprise him with your confidence
Guys are deeply impressed by girls who know who they are and good self-esteem. While it can take a long time to mature this aspect of yours, on the other hand you can make the effort to love yourself and your life, in order to use this energy to make others feel good about yourself too. If you want to be noticed by a guy, then he should see you smile, feel good about yourself, and convey a positive and upbeat energy. Here are some ways to impress the guy you like using your self-esteem:
- Don't belittle yourself when you are with him. Instead, focus on your positive characteristics, without bragging. Criticizing you can put this guy in an awkward position, while you want him to feel comfortable, and not like you need him to be better about yourself.
- It's okay to feel slightly nervous when talking to him. If you start stammering, forget what you meant or find yourself ranting about nothing, make sure you are able to laugh at yourself a little and get over it. Don't worry if he doesn't think you are the calmest person in the world, what matters is that he understands that you are comfortable with yourself.
- When talking about other girls, try to say what you appreciate about them. Nothing will make you seem more insecure than criticizing others.
Step 7. Be nice to everyone who deserves it
Don't think that you have to be a bad girl or that you have to make others look unintelligent just to get her attention. If he's a nice guy, then he'll be much more impressed that you're a nice person, not one who demoralizes others or treats them with contempt just to look cool. Instead, try to be friendly to anyone who behaves kindly towards you or those who are shy; Give others the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. Generally speaking, if you are a good person, the guy you like will understand that you are worth meeting and will want to.
- Everyone has a reputation to protect. If you are known to be a snob, then the guy you like will know. Instead, be genuinely kind to others so that you open up to other friendships and experiences. You don't even have to be overly sociable. Just say hello to people and ask how they're going to allow you to make new friends and look nice.
- If you are used to hanging out with circles of friends who tend to gossip a lot or who are spiteful, then ask yourself if you shouldn't expand the boundaries of your friendships. While you don't behave as badly as they do, it's not nice to be associated with these kinds of people.
Part 2 of 3: Make him feel interested
Step 1. Ask him questions
If you want a guy to like you, don't think it's enough to let him know that you are charming and awesome. You also need to show him that you are interested in him. To do this, you should ask him questions about his life, in this way you will keep his interest burning and let him know that you are sensitive. Make sure you balance your conversations: don't pester him with questions, talk about yourself too, and you'll see he'll love chatting with you. Here's what you might ask him:
- What did he do over the weekend.
- What plans do you have for the summer or future holidays.
- What pets does he have.
- What are your favorite bands, shows, movies or books.
- What are his hobbies and interests.
Step 2. Don't be stuffy
Another way to hold on to this guy is to not asphyxiate him. You can compliment him and help him understand that you like him, especially if you know he likes him back, but you shouldn't be clingy or try to spend every single minute of your day with him. Give him plenty of time to make him miss you, to wonder what you are doing, and to appreciate that you have a life of your own. If you revolve your entire existence around him, he will soon lose all interest. You don't want to let him think you're stuffy. As much as you really like her so much, you should wait for the relationship to deepen before sharing your true feelings.
One way to avoid sounding stuffy is to not text him or call him once an hour. You can do this a couple of times a day to greet him and know what he does, but don't give the idea that you only think about him when you are not together
Step 3. Make him feel special
If you want to attract him to you, then you have to make him understand that he is special to you, without exaggerating of course. Does he start treating yourself by giving yourself the impression that he views yourself the same way? He reciprocates by paying more attention to him when you are in the company of other people, asking him how he is doing or just giving him discreet compliments on his clothes or other traits that are not overly personal. To continue to pique his interest, he needs to know that you care. You don't have to tell him out of the blue, but you can let your actions show how you feel.
- If you are in the company of other people, pay more attention to him than to the other guys, but don't monopolize his attention. Sometimes you have to let him take the first step and get closer to you.
- Don't give him the same compliments you do to others. He should understand that he is special to you and different from all the other guys.
Step 4. Find a common interest
Another way to get a kid's attention is to find shared hobbies or other interests. You may not have much in common, but it doesn't take much to find conversation points, which will help you always know what to talk about with him. Don't worry if it seems to you that you are very different and that you have nothing in common; once you relax a little and nurture the dialogue so as not to remain silent, you will find that you share a lot more than you expected. Here are some passions you both might have and discuss:
- The favorite team.
- Favorite TV show or movie.
- Preferred group.
- Favorite video games.
- Pets.
- Common friends.
- Favorite hobbies.
Step 5. Be a good listener
Another strategy to get a guy's attention is to know how to listen. When he talks to you, put away the phone or any other distractions that would prevent you from hearing what he says. Let me finish talking, don't interrupt. Don't tell him you know exactly how he feels every time he shares an emotion with you. Show him that you really care about finding out who he really is and what he has to say instead of always just talking about you. Look him in the eye, point your body towards him and give him all your attention to let him know that you consider him important.
- Remember that it should work bilaterally; you don't have to be the only one listening, he should too.
- Pay attention to what it tells you so you can learn more about it later. For example, if he tells you that his team is playing a major baseball game this weekend, you can ask him how it went the following Monday. This shows that you listen to what he says and that it has meaning for you.
Step 6. Don't gossip and don't speak ill of others
If you want this guy to continue to feel interested in you, then you should avoid spreading rumors or criticizing people you both know, otherwise you will give the wrong impression. By always talking about the gossip about other girls, he will think you are mean and that you criticize others just to get better about yourself. You should avoid being that kind of girl and instead talk about what you like and what you can't wait to do.
- If you find yourself in the company of a group of people gossiping about others, you can simply apologize or offer a different opinion. You don't have to look like a sheep.
- Guys tend to hate melodramatic girls. If you gossip or make a scene when he's around, he'll think you're the kind of girl who loves to grieve for the sake of it, and he'll probably recoil.
Step 7. Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable
Although you're still in elementary school, and that means most people haven't given their first kiss yet or tried any other such experiences, some kids are ready to step up if they get the chance. You should only kiss a guy when you feel like it, and you definitely shouldn't do it because you think he'll like you more. If the guy you're interested in is this type of person, then it's not worth keeping up with. Make sure you feel completely comfortable before doing anything with a guy. Only do it if you feel like it, not because you feel pressured. The right way to pique a kid's interest is to stick to your beliefs and stick to what you think is right.
If a guy puts pressure on you but you don't feel ready, calmly explain that you're not interested. Keep your head up, don't let that convince you. You will feel much better in the long run
Part 3 of 3: Making the Relationship Last
Step 1. Try to be a pleasant person to hang out with
Fifth grade kids tend not to take life too seriously, they just want to have fun with their sweetheart. The age has not yet come when they want to spend all their time in the company of girls, and they certainly aren't ready for intense relationships. Instead, they are looking for sunny girls, full of nice friends, spontaneous and willing to try something new. If you tend to worry about everything or are calmer by nature, don't worry; you can't change, but you can strive to have more cheerful and lively conversations, putting aside all negativity and grievances as you do so.
- Laugh when you feel like it. Don't hold back if there is something hilarious, it shows that you are having a good time.
- One way to be a nice person is to know how to make people comfortable. Make eye contact with others, ask them questions just to chat, and introduce people you don't know. Make them feel familiar, so they can relax and have more opportunities to have fun.
Step 2. Be nice to his friends
If you want to really like this guy a lot and you want him to ask you out with him, you need to make an effort to be nice to his friends. While it can be difficult to do this, especially if you don't know them at all well or are a shy person by nature, you need to go all out to impress the people you care about. If his friends think you are obnoxious, manipulative, or just plain annoying, they will tell him and may even influence him. Unless they're really unbearable, you should try to hit them and prove you're a good catch.
- Are your friends hateful? You don't have to be nice to them just to impress him. On the other hand, if they are nice guys, you should reciprocate their friendliness, even if you don't have much in common.
- Don't be disheartened if this takes some effort. It's only natural that boys and girls still don't feel comfortable talking.
Step 3. Don't give up everything for him
If you don't want the relationship to become boring, then you need to keep pursuing your passions. Don't stop talking to your friends, spending time with your family, going to the pool or doing what you love just because you suddenly decide to always be with the guy you have a crush on. While you should make time for him so the relationship can grow, you shouldn't give up everything you care about a guy. He will respect you more because he will understand that you have no problem doing what you like and, at the same time, cultivating your relationship.
- Whatever happens, your friends will always be there for you, while as far as the boys are concerned, it's another story altogether. Don't be the kind of girl who ditches all her friends to go out with her boyfriend, only to come back to them with her tail between her legs when the relationship ends.
- Doing what you love, from playing the piano to drawing, allows you to be yourself. If you stop doing all this for a guy, then you will give up on a part of you.
- If you and the guy you like love spending time together, you can indulge in some of your favorite interests, like watching a show you always watch.
Step 4. Make yourself heard when you don't see each other
If you want the relationship to develop healthily, then you should call him from time to time when you are not together. You should do this when you cannot meet for several weeks due to summer holidays or when you are not going to school, such as on weekends. You shouldn't text him every five seconds or call him multiple times a day, but a couple of text messages, Facebook messages, or phone calls will let him know that you think about him. You need to be sure that he reciprocates and that he too takes the initiative to make himself heard, in order to create a balance in the relationship.
- If he told you he has a basketball game over the weekend, send him a short message the next day to find out how it went. But don't try to write to him just before the game, or he'll feel overwhelmed.
- In this case, it is better for you to play at being unattainable. You should be heard enough to let him know you care, but not so much that he thinks he's your obsession.
Step 5. Don't take yourself too seriously
Ultimately, you need to remember that you are still in elementary school, and that the odds of this kid being your soul mate and that you will be together forever, or even just for a few months, are pretty low. Consequently, you shouldn't give too much importance to the relationship. If he's not interested, just smile, breathe deeply, and set your sights on another guy. If he likes you, but things don't go as planned, then you shouldn't let yourself be overwhelmed by disappointment. The important thing is to appreciate your school experiences and your friendships, remembering that this relationship has taught you something. And then you have your whole life ahead to go out with the guys!
