Are you too obsessed with your boyfriend? Do you only think about him and in your mind there is no room for anything else? Do you love him and want him so badly that you feel bad? If the answer to all of these questions is "yes" and you would like to get your life back to normal, keep reading these tips.
Steps
Step 1. Remember that you were born to be an individual
You are born alone and not attached to your boyfriend. You had a life before you met him, and even if he is completing it with his presence, it doesn't mean you don't have to remind yourself of the value of your individuality.
Step 2. Don't let past experiences or broken relationships affect your present
Remember that every relationship is different, just because one relationship hasn't evolved doesn't mean another can't go through. Don't rely on the examples of people you know, the same rule that didn't work for them could be effective in your case. If you are too clingy and consider your boyfriend to be a god, be careful that things don't get out of hand as this is not the right approach to making a relationship last.
Step 3. Be aware that men love to have their own space
Men love to keep their space more than women. If you spin your whole life around him one day he may feel suffocated. Let him go out sometimes only with friends and give him time to take care of his interests, only in this way will he live the relationship with enthusiasm and energy.
Step 4. Be more confident
Men appreciate women who have self-confidence. By showing yourself confident you will attract male attention, if you give the impression of being a vital and positive woman, men will be led to think that you can also instill the same vitality in a relationship.
- Men love women who take care of themselves.
- Remember, you need to be confident, but not arrogant. Ask him for advice sometimes before making decisions, you need to communicate and share your feelings for the sake of your relationship.
Step 5. Spoil yourself a little
Every week (or more often if you can) try to give yourself moments all to yourself. Indulge yourself with a nice massage, manicure, pedicure, facial cleansing or relaxing bath. If you don't want to spend the money you can just light some scented candles and home and prepare a relaxing foot bath.
Remember that you don't have to stop thinking about yourself now that you have a boyfriend, don't lose your charm and your beauty, because they were probably the first things he noticed about you, and that made him fall in love
Step 6. Take some time
Take a space all to yourself, use that time to reconnect with yourself. Unplug your phone, turn off your cell phone, and do the things you enjoy doing, but on your own. Loneliness from time to time is a necessary condition to take care of yourself and feel good. Indulge yourself however you want, listen to your favorite music, watch a TV show, find a movie you like, read a book, walk in the park or wait for the sunset. This exercise will help remind you how important it is to love yourself.
Step 7. Find yourself a hobby
Everyone has a talent but it is necessary to practice to develop it to the fullest. Find a hobby and find time for that new activity. Not only will it not make you think only of your love story but it will strengthen your self-esteem, your security, and will give you a feeling of well-being. Choose the thing that best suits your personality, for example painting, music, pottery, sewing, reading, fishing, drawing, etc.
- If you don't know which hobby to choose, try to take care of different things and identify what satisfies you the most.
- Sign up for a dance class, reading or singing group to make new friends. Everything will become even more interesting.
Step 8. Don't forget the people who were in your life before you met love
You definitely have friends, relatives and a family, these people were in your life before your boyfriend started being a part of it. Don't abandon them and don't neglect them just because you're busy now. Not only because you may need them someday, but also because it's important to spend time with different people so that you don't forget about your individuality.
Step 9. Meet new people and make new friends
Don't pour all your affection on just your boyfriend, keep meeting people, make plans, be friendly to everyone. Expand your knowledge and find friends.
Step 10. Divide your time
Decide which days you will be with your boyfriend and plan to find a space for yourself as well.
Step 11. Remember all the pictures you cover
Now that you are a girlfriend / girlfriend / wife don't forget that for someone else you can be a daughter / sister / mother / cousin / friend / aunt. And most importantly, remember that you are yourself. Try to balance the many figures you cover in the right way.
Step 12. Find a balance between being a girlfriend and being yourself
Don't spend all your time just taking care of you, if you're in a relationship, your boyfriend needs your time, love and attention too. Try to find the right balance between the two and organize your time so that you don't leave the person you love aside.
Step 13. Measure your self-esteem
Most of the time, the people who are clingy and living on someone else's life are the ones who have low self-esteem. Try to recognize your problem and apply to improve yourself and look at yourself with different eyes. It is important to have self-confidence.
