We have all experienced a tragic breakup, or even more than one. We sat on the bed with a packet of tissues and something to eat, letting ourselves go to the memories. You are not the only one who has done this and it is a truly sad moment. So here are some tips to take into consideration when you are facing a romantic breakup.
Steps
Step 1. Take two days, no more, no less, and cry
Go to your room and throw it all up, rip the old photos and cry out if necessary. Then, after two days, get up and stop feeling bitter.
Step 2. DO NOT send him messages
If he does, he deletes the messages. Don't get dragged back into your relationship and don't let him know you're sick. Just don't text him, don't call him, don't chat, and don't talk to him at work or school.
Step 3. Go to the gym
Working out helps a lot. Sweat for an hour or two eliminating all bad emotions, then when you see yourself in top shape, think, "Look, you are losing!".
Step 4. Now, if it was you who broke up, don't think about the good times
You will only begin to mitigate the bad memories more than they really are and then you will never be able to get it out of your head. If it helps, make a list of the pros and cons of the things you've done.
Step 5. Think of all the stupid things he has done for you in the past, rude comments, arguments
The important thing is not to focus on the beautiful things.
Step 6. Go out with your friends
Go to a party. Who cares? Go to the cinema, go shopping, dance. Do whatever it takes to keep your mind away from "your mistake" and the thought other women call it.
Step 7. Talk to your friends
It is very helpful and liberating to talk about how much you hate him, to constantly say how ugly, stupid he is and how much better you are without him. Talk to someone who actually knows how to listen and respond to your problems, avoiding those who only say "oh, sure, yes" or those who only try to discuss their own problems. Make sure he is listening to what you have to say.
Step 8. Make a video
There is no need to show it to anyone. Just make a video where you rant about "your mistake". Keep talking until you feel better, then cancel it.
Step 9. Write poetry
They don't have to rhyme or make a lot of sense, because it's enough to write down what he did to you and how much he hurt you. Reread them so you can continually remind yourself how stupid that was!
Step 10. When you are ready, find someone else
I don't mean a week after the breakup. But when you feel like it's really over with "your mistake", then "get back in the game" by starting to flirt. It's not about establishing a full-fledged relationship, it's just about having a good time.
Advice
- Put your nail polish on, get your hair done, go shopping. In short, PAMPERED.
- Block his number and if you can, stay away from places where you might meet him.
- Stop listening to music that reminds you of it. Delete the songs he recommended or the ones he liked best. Stop listening to sad songs!
- Eliminate pictures, tickets, and anything that reminds you of it. Do what you want with the things you have of him: throw them away, throw them in the fire, cut them, etc.
- Don't text him, don't call him, don't chat with him.
- Always tell yourself that the sea is full of fish.
- ENJOY THE ROCK by Taylor Swift. Her songs will make you cry, but it will feel like the singer knows exactly what you're going through (unless he listened to it too).
- Don't haunt him on his Facebook page, airG, myspace or whatever… If you see something you don't like, it will hurt you. If you go to see his pages, it means that you are still thinking about him. Go get some fresh air and get it out of your mind!
