When you see or know someone you really like, it's important to find out their current relationship status before you expose yourself by showing your interest or suggesting a date together. Hearing you answer "no thanks" because of a pre-existing bond is not pleasant, so it is best to get the information you are looking for before asking the question.
If you've been reading this wikiHow article before asking, or even thinking about asking, someone to hang out with you, you're in luck! But even if you have already taken a misstep, these tips will improve your future experiences by perfecting your methods.
Steps
Step 1. Show your character
Without the necessary confidence, you will never be able to ask the desired question. If you really want to get an answer, take a deep breath and approach the person of your dreams.
Step 2. Be kind
Make sure you ask your question politely. This is a personal issue that needs all of your respect, especially if you barely know the person to whom you ask it (read the Warnings).
Step 3. Get to the point
People are not at your complete disposal. Just ask the question in a nice way, "Excuse me, are you single?", Without being abrupt. You may elicit a laugh (read the Warnings).
Step 4. Don't let "no" put you off
If the person is busy, or does not want to respond, remember that it is their full right to do so and attend whoever they want (read the Advice and Warnings). There are other fish in the sea. In the event of a no, simply smile provocatively, hand out your phone number and say, 'This is in case things change…' For many, your confidence may prove attractive, leaving an indelible memory of you.
Step 5. In case the answer is "yes," deepen your knowledge, you were lucky
Ask for a phone number, email address, or details of another possible form of communication. Build a relationship, it will develop into a friendship and, perhaps, into something more!
Advice
- Ask your question naturally, without giving it too much importance!
- Be yourself!
- It's just a question. You will not deceive anyone or anything by placing it. Even if it seems wrong to do it, do not worry, relax, it is the right thing, completely normal!
- It's best to show up early. Make sure the person knows at least your name, so that they know at least a little thing about you. Most friendships start this way.
- It is a relationship, don't be too serious about it! Try to elicit a smile or a laugh! Your application will be better accepted!
- If courtesy is not your best virtue, it better be. Kind people have more friends, as a matter of fact.
- If you don't feel confident enough, read other wikiHow articles related to developing self-confidence.
- If you see a possible partner at his side, ask "Is he your boyfriend?", If not, ask "Who is he then?" You will most likely be able to get clues about his relationship status.
Warnings
- Check your sense of humor. Being nice is good, but don't be cheeky and understand when to stop and possibly apologize. Try to deepen your knowledge without overdoing it.
- Don't be rude or annoying and don't make inappropriate comments to strangers!
- If you're lucky and get yes for an answer, be happy, but don't overdo it! Otherwise you will look weird and slightly irritating, breaking the first rule. Avoid making too many calls and sending hundreds of messages, even if you are sure you have found your soul mate!
- Never insist on trying to get the person to go out with you instead of their partner! Let him hang out with whoever he wants. You will find another of your many soul mates. Avoid being obsessive, flirting inappropriately, and persisting with questions related to her love life! A no is a no, whatever you can think of. This advice is especially for kids!
