Being attracted to a person is a beautiful experience and a wonderful feeling that arouses interest and desire. Deciding if you are attracted to someone is not easy, because the human mind is complex. Your way of thinking and the values you prioritize in life are often determining factors for attraction.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Examine Your Unconscious Behaviors
Step 1. Notice if you often think about the same person
When you are attracted to a girl, you probably think about her more than anyone else and can't control it. If you are not attracted, however, you will probably be indifferent. Ask yourself the following questions:
- Do I often want to see it?
- Am I disappointed when he doesn't respond to my messages or phone calls?
Step 2. Notice the changes in your physical appearance
If you worry a lot about your appearance, especially in an exaggerated way than usual, you probably feel attraction to the person in question. You show that you care about how he feels about you and probably how he feels about you. Here are some questions you should ask yourself:
- Am I more attentive to my hairstyle?
- Do I spend more time deciding which clothes to wear?
- Do I wear more perfume or deodorant?
Step 3. Check your reactions
In some cases it is very easy to understand if you are attracted to someone, because you have an immediate physical reaction that you can feel in your mind, body and heart. You may feel nervous or have butterflies in your stomach.
- Note the speed of your heartbeat and check your pulse when you think about the person or when you are with them.
- When you are attracted to a person, you behave differently when you are with them, without realizing it. The main reason is that you want to make a good impression, so you worry about how you are judged.
- It may seem strange to you, but a person's natural smell plays a big role in attraction, as do physical characteristics. Furthermore, smells can make you remember events better and make you think with pleasure about someone and the moments spent together.
Method 2 of 4: Understanding Your Emotions
Step 1. Work out your feelings
In some cases the emotions for another person can be so strong that they completely overwhelm you and make you immediately realize that something special is happening. When trying to figure out if you are attracted to a girl, you simply start wondering how happy you are to meet her. This is an indicator of attraction.
- Laughing at all of a person's jokes is an indication of attraction.
- Smiling often also indicates attraction.
Step 2. Evaluate your physical preferences
Be honest with yourself and think about whether you have any preferences. If you like tall people, you are probably not attracted to those who are short. Write down the list of features you like the most.
- Physical attraction is subjective: each of us finds different characteristics pleasant. You need to consider a person's overall appearance to see if you like him or her.
- Physical appearance can include facial features (such as eyes, nose, lips, cheekbones), hygiene, hairstyle, clothing, and anything that affects appearance.
- You will not always be able to identify your preferences in an absolute way, because it can happen that you feel attraction for a person with the opposite characteristics to those of your ideal woman. However in some cases your personal preferences will prevail.
Step 3. Identify the characteristics that exclude that person as a potential partner
For example, some do not find smokers attractive; even if it is not a physical characteristic, it can undoubtedly affect the attraction.
Method 3 of 4: Understanding What You Like About the Person
Step 1. Study the person's character
Think about her positive qualities and the characteristics you like about her, such as a sense of humor, loyalty, compassion, or creativity. Think of specific examples that can give you clues about a future relationship.
- Pay attention to whether the person is trustworthy.
- Notice if the person is happy for you when positive events happen to you.
Step 2. Think about whether the other person is selfless
It is important to evaluate how he interacts with others and whether he is kind. Almost everyone finds these characteristics attractive, because someone who is nice to others will most likely be nice to you too.
An example of altruism is volunteering to help the less fortunate and always being available for friends
Step 3. Spend quality time together
Participating in activities together gives you the opportunity to find out if you like a person and what you value about them.
Listen carefully to the person and ask them open-ended questions that lead them to talk about themselves. For example, you can ask: "Tell me about your childhood and how you became the person you are today."
Step 4. Create a bond
Completing a stressful activity with another person allows you to develop a bond with them. Consider organizing a volunteer project, or do something new and exciting together, like mountain climbing or rafting.
People who go through stressful experiences together have a tendency to form stronger relationships, but if the events are too intense the effect can be the opposite
Method 4 of 4: Finding out if Feelings are Mutual
Step 1. Learn to recognize the signs of attraction
Men and women use physical cues to indicate attraction to another person. The main signs are dilated pupils, raised shoulders, and feet oriented towards you.
- In some cases, women play with their hair, tilt their heads, or become shy when attracted to someone.
- Men sometimes smile, sway, stretch, or stare when attracted to a person.
Step 2. Share your feelings
In some cases, the best thing to do is to be honest and confess your attraction to the other person.
Be prepared for rejection and don't take it personally if your feelings aren't reciprocated. As stated earlier there are many factors that determine attraction and you will surely find someone who is attracted to you
Step 3. Develop a healthy relationship
A stable and healthy relationship requires you to appreciate and value the other person. If the attraction isn't mutual, consider moving on before becoming too emotionally involved.
Advice
- Understand that the attraction isn't just physical. You can be attracted to a person for a variety of reasons, regardless of their appearance.
- Consider whether you have often been attracted to the wrong people in the past. In that case, address and resolve the root of the problem so that you can be more successful in future relationships.
Warnings
- Don't ignore red flags, such as lies, verbal abuse, or self-harming behavior, even when you're very attracted to a person.
- Don't force yourself to be attracted to someone, as it won't last long.
