You have completed your studies and entered the world of work. Now you have begun to understand that you are interested in your colleague … how to ask him to go out with you?
Steps
Step 1. Pay attention to your work, and think
A bad relationship between co-workers could have a lot of negative consequences on your work. Don't face it lightly.
Step 2. Is the person you like your supervisor?
If the answer is yes, get it out of your head. It is a basic rule never to go out with your subordinates; even if your boss is attracted to you, if he is a responsible person he will never try to try and ask you out. If not, you may lose your job as a result, and you find yourself in a situation where you will appear to everyone in a bad light, or even get fired. Either way it will end badly for both of us. If your boss exercises authority over you, wait a bit before declaring yourself. Look for encouraging signs, such as body language, smiles, friendly words. And of course try to figure out if he's really single.
Step 3. Is your colleague interested in you?
Be honest with yourself in answering this question. Does he ever get close to you just to chat? If not, then it's best to wait to be more confident before making a proposal. If she's a girl, she might be difficult or unwilling to expose herself, so watch carefully. Don't confide your problems, your failures, your weaknesses either to the colleague in question or to anyone else in the workplace. If any problems arise, try to play down and think of a solution.
Step 4. If you understand that your interest is paid, it is time to ask your colleague out
Take his interests into account and plan a first date: think about a dinner together, a movie at the cinema, a concert or a sporting event. Make sure you are alone and handle the situation with ease, albeit with a hint of mischief. Another good idea could be to ask your colleague to have a coffee together, or a dessert, at the end of an event organized by the company. But be careful not to make your proposal in front of other colleagues.
Step 5. If the answer is "no", forget it
From that point on, try to interact with your colleague only for strictly professional matters. If you are really interested you can try your luck one more time, but if you are not, get that person out of your head.
Advice
- Learn about your company's regulations regarding relationships between colleagues.
- Even if things go well between you, it's always best not to share it with other colleagues. Do not exchange affection in the workplace, otherwise others will feel uncomfortable.
- Before taking action, consider whether it is really worth it.
- Manage the relationship gradually. Avoid having sex with your co-worker.
Warnings
- If your relationship makes others uncomfortable, someone may complain to their superiors. Even if you are not acting against company regulations, always try to maintain a strictly professional relationship with the colleague you are dating while at work. Don't assume that no one has anything against it! Better to be provident!
- Be ready to face the envy of colleagues and the falsehood or nastiness of those who may start to spread rumors about you.
- Don't use your work email to exchange information with the person you like !! It could be monitored, and if you get caught you risk being fired or allegations of harassment.
- If your co-workers are loud, nosy or gossipy (as most co-workers are) you will need to keep your relationship absolutely "top secret". It will also increase the enthusiasm and the desire to be together with each other.
- If you misinterpret the signals you could be accused of harassment by your colleague.
- Sometimes the relationships between colleagues are not well regarded, or even prohibited by the company's regulations, even if normally it is only a matter of relationships between superiors and subordinates. Make sure nothing goes against the rules, otherwise you could be fired. If your colleague does not want a relationship with you because he feels in awe of professional responsibilities, try to only hang out with him outside working hours.
- Don't interpret a business meeting as an appointment. Even if you find yourself alone, your colleague is doing his job at the moment and has something else on his mind. Make sure you keep the professional and sentimental spheres separate. You have a better chance of impressing your colleague if you approach him in an environment free from responsibilities, rules, distractions … it is better to start hanging out with him outside working hours, where, especially if he is a woman, he will feel much less uncomfortable.
