Both spring adventures and summer loves are what you need for some quiet and healthy fun. However, if the other seasons have nothing to do with your love life, it probably means that it's time to try and establish a more serious relationship. There is no magic formula for the perfect relationship, but these tips can help you choose a stable mate and express yourself with ease.
Steps
Part 1 of 5: Choosing a Mate
Step 1. Search for potential mates in your favorite place
If you're trying to settle down, the guy standing at the bar with his shirt out of his pants, or the girl yelling "Jager bomb!" they may not be good alternatives for your mother to know. If you don't have a particular person in mind, start your search for the potential mate where people who share your hobbies and passions like to hang out. For example, if you play basketball, search your team's circle. If sustainable agriculture is what you do, look at your local farmer's supermarket.
- Humans are visually-driven creatures. Try to resist the temptation to judge a fellow candidate based solely on his physical appearance.
- It is important that you are attracted to your mate, but don't let your ideals of physicality undermine your search for someone with a great personality.
Step 2. Pay attention to how they interact with others
If a potential partner often fights with his friends and family, it could be an obvious sign that he is not ready for a mature relationship, because communication and the ability to solve problems are the key.
- Be careful if he behaves differently towards you when there are other people around. If your potential mate pays special attention to you, that's the green light to start a relationship.
- If you feel ignored while in a group, he may be embarrassed to be seen as a couple or wants to look single. Be careful, it is a warning sign for someone not mature enough for a relationship.
Part 2 of 5: Don't Burn the Stages
Step 1. Develop a lot of patience
With texting and facebook at your disposal, you may be inclined to reveal your intense feelings as soon as you experience them. Use the old method and let the relationship develop before you reveal your love to your lover at two in the morning.
Step 2. Make sure you are on the same line with your love
Don't assume that yours is a monogamous or one-of-a-kind relationship without first discussing it with your partner.
Step 3. Be open to meeting your partner's family and friends
When you are in a serious relationship, your mate's friends and family become a natural extension of your family and friends. Make an effort to get to know them and earn their respect.
Part 3 of 5: Communicate
Step 1. Establish boundaries and expectations at the beginning of the relationship
This way you can communicate your expectations and avoid feelings of disappointment or disrespect if your partner doesn't behave in a certain way.
- Talk about your sexual desires and needs. The sexual aspect of a relationship is important for some and less important for others. Let your partner know what your expectations and limits are to avoid disrespect or feeling ignored.
- Talk about your emotional desires and needs. Let your partner know what affection you expect and when you expect to be considered for an issue.
Step 2. Ask questions
Show genuine interest and worry about your partner's everyday life, asking small things, like how his day went, or even big questions, like past experiences and plans for the future.
Step 3. Be honest about your emotions
A mature relationship requires total openness and honesty.
- If you feel uncomfortable or jealous of the relationship between your partner and another person, express your concerns.
- Don't hold onto your feelings as it usually leads to passive aggressive behavior that can blow you away. Deal with problems when they arise and avoid long-term outbursts.
- Many couples only discuss certain topics when the relationship has been going on for a long time. Avoid hurting your partner and talk to them calmly about a problem instead of yelling at each other.
Part 4 of 5: Supporting Each Other
Step 1. Cultivate your passions as always and let your partner do the same
Support your love in its purposes, be it academic, professional or personal.
- Don't change who you are or give up your personal purposes for your mate and don't expect him to change for you. You have to adapt and compromise sometimes, but don't let your passions run aground.
- Accept the traits you see as flaws. Although you will not be able to ignore your partner's right-wing enthusiasm if you are strongly left-wing, try to forget the small flaws such as biting your nails and the way he squeezes the toothpaste.
Step 2. Show emotional support
If your sweetheart is having a hard time with his family or friends or is simply stressed out over an exam, you need to let him know you're there to help.
- Listen to your mate. Instead of immediately offering him advice on how to solve a problem, try to listen to what he is saying.
- Let them know you care. If he tells you that something is bothering him, go deeper. Ask him what's troubling him.
- Offer your help to solve the problems and work out strategies to overcome the problem. Don't belittle your partner by telling him his problem is “not important,” even if you think so.
Part 5 of 5: Keeping the Passion Alive
Step 1. Maintain your personality
Even if you are mastering the advice given above and your relationship is thriving, many couples often enter into a comfortable day-to-day life and the passion begins to diminish as a result.
- It's nice to have the same interests and hobbies, but make sure you dedicate some time to yourself, especially if you live with your love.
- Establish a "girls only" evening or organize a "men only" evening to keep in touch with friends and avoid becoming couch potatoes.
Step 2. Be spontaneous
Even if you and your partner are fine, always pay attention to the little things.
- Giving sweets and flowers or a homemade dinner is always appreciated and keeps the passion intact.
- Get new experiences. If you both want to go skydiving or simply try a new kind of cuisine different from the usual, do it together! Sharing exciting experiences helps keep interest alive.
Step 3. Make an appointment
Between the commitments of both of them, it may become difficult to find time for romance. Set one night a week for a "date" and dedicate an evening dedicated to romance, perhaps an intimate candlelit dinner at home.
Warnings
- Love yourself first and always take care of yourself and your body.
- Break the relationship if your partner shows signs of abuse, addiction, or insane jealousy.
- Avoid being the couple who spends every single weekend on the couch. Maintain your interests and don't be obsessed with the relationship.
