A homosexual relationship is not that different from any relationship. Two people meet and know each other more and more. Some things never change, even with two same-sex partners.
Steps
Step 1. Go out together first
More than once. A common mistake of first-time LGBT people is getting too involved right away. Before you find yourself in bed one morning with someone you barely know, go out and see if you're really compatible. It is not enough that you are both gay. You need to find out if you have common interests, similar values and projects that go hand in hand.
Step 2. Keep up to date with events
Sharing and supporting each other is the key. If either of you is assaulted, or promoted to work, or received an award, if your best friend told you he is moving - share it all with your partner. Remember that he shouldn't just be your lover, but your best friend as well.
Step 3. Be honest, loving, sincere, and caring
Being honest also means being open. Don't have secrets from your partner; also avoid omissions of truth - they are almost worse than lies. When you have something to say, sit down with your partner, let him know how much you love him and then take him to the wonderful world of "Say it, say it!". Your partner loves you, and he will be delighted that you trust him enough to confess or share, whatever you need to do.
Step 4. Decide if your relationship will be exclusive or not
Good communication in this area is very important. If one of the two thinks that the relationship is "open", in other words that other partners are acceptable, and the other thinks that the relationship is monogamous and exclusive, you have a problem. When the "open" partner starts flirting with someone else, the "exclusive" partner will get angry, suffer and be confused.
Step 5. Defend each other
Don't let your partner be left to fend for themselves - especially if you haven't come out into the open, and it's a member of your family who offends homosexuals or something. You have the right to love; no one can tell you otherwise. If you're not out in the open, grab your partner and walk out, saying you're not comfortable with those kind of bigoted phrases. If you want to come out, then tell your family that, as someone who has realized their sexuality, that way of speaking is not fun. And if a joke is against your partner, let your friends, family, or anyone else know that that joke isn't acceptable to you, and ask them to keep similar comments for themselves in the future. Don't let anyone offend your partner - or negatively affect your lives.
Step 6. Know your rights
In case of problems at work, there may be organizations in your area that you can contact for advice, such as Arcigay (https://www.arcigay.it/) in Italy. They can help you find help in your area.
Step 7. Enjoy
You only have one life. Spend it to the fullest by living and loving; share your life and love whoever you want, and surround yourself with loving and affectionate friends and family who support you and positively influence you as you venture into life with your partner.
Advice
- Being honest, caring and in love is very important in a relationship.
- As with any relationship, considering your partner's needs and wants before your own, even if not always, can really let them know how much you value them.
- Do something to make your life wonderful, every single day.
- Try to come out with your homosexuality if possible. In this way you will be better accepted as a real family unit, and can facilitate things in case one of the two becomes seriously ill; it can also be inspiring and useful to other family members or friends in the same situation. Furthermore, living openly removes the burden of secrecy from your relationship - love is complicated enough without adding these burdens.
- Search an LGBT community online for more information.
Warnings
- Don't allow ignorant people to demoralize you or stop you from living the life you want - it's yours and nobody else's.
- In certain places, be prepared to face social tensions and conflicting points of view.
