Successful people know how to communicate dynamically. If you want to become a dynamic communicator, you must first become proficient in three things. You need to be a good conversationalist, learn to write clearly and succinctly and you need to be able to present effectively - in groups of 2, as well as in groups of 200. You need to be aware of the audience in front of you. Here are five steps that can help you do that.
Steps
Method 1 of 5: Ask Questions
Step 1. The questioner is said to control the conversation
Of course, you won't ask questions that only require a yes or a no answer, such as, "Is your name Sara?" Or, "Is it hot enough for you?"
Step 2. Create several possibilities
Ask questions that can be answered in a variety of ways so that the conversation flows smoothly. For example, if you ask a question like, "Wow, are you a professor? How does it feel to be on that side of the desk?", It will allow you to keep the chat alive. People like to talk about themselves. Passing the microphone, so to speak, will make them converse more spontaneously.
Step 3. How, What and Why
If you intend to present a topic, it is important to know what you are talking about or what the listener is interested in, so you need to know: How it happened, What it is, and Why you are talking about it.
Method 2 of 5: Pay Attention
Step 1. Being an inattentive interlocutor is detrimental to the conversation
The moment your eyes begin to flicker in various directions, or beyond your interlocutor, all you do is tell him that what he is saying does not interest you or is boring. Contrary to popular belief, it is evident when a listener begins to lose interest.
Step 2. Eye contact
Maintain eye contact with your listener and confirm with physical and verbal cues that you are listening to him. Give your head affirmative nods and always maintain eye contact. Show interest in his opinion.
Step 3. Stay alert when speaking
If you look around you may signal to your interlocutor that you are looking for someone else more interesting to converse with.
Method 3 of 5: Know when to Speak and when to Listen
Step 1. Some people love to hear about them
There is a place and a time for that too. If you have a friend who comes to you with a concern or problem, they will most likely just need to be heard.
Step 2. Try to listen to their problems or concerns
He will definitely need to let off steam. In these moments, listen and speak only when appropriate. Refrain from reporting a similar past story of yours, thus belittling his own. In other words, any sentence that begins with, "Oh, if you think this is bad, wait until you hear what happened to ME" must be avoided at all costs.
Method 4 of 5: Stay Informed
Step 1. It is important to keep yourself informed about what's going on in the world to make it easier for conversations to unfold
Read news papers and magazines, even just a few articles, this will help you keep an up-to-date list of interesting topics to discuss. You never know who you might have as an interlocutor and therefore you cannot know what kind of conversation might take place.
Step 2. Get organized
It would be a nightmare to lose all information on a topic you are about to speak about in public. Remember to put your speech where you can find it easily and take notes with you.
Step 3. Be ready for any questions
Expect everything. You will not look professional or even appear unprepared if you remain mute to someone's question. Remember, there will always be someone who will ask you trick questions, and you must always have the answer ready, anytime, anywhere.
Method 5 of 5: Stay on Topic
Step 1. When conversing with someone, do your best to make the conversation flow
In other words, stay on the topic you're talking about until the conversation clearly takes another path. It is not always easy to stay on the subject because some words or phrases could make us think of something else. For example, if a friend tells you that the other morning he didn't hear the alarm and stayed in "bed", it might occur to you that the cheese you bought yesterday cost only six euros "a hecto", and maybe you would start talking about that. Don't get distracted by your thoughts.
Step 2. Find ways to entertain your listeners
Some people exaggerate when they give speeches and this leads to the audience getting bored. If you want to keep the focus, make the speech fun, but also formal when needed. Maybe throw in a few witty lines every now and then, while still keeping in mind that it's important that everyone understands them.
Advice
- A conversation is not a monologue. Give yourself a limit of 4 sentences or 40 seconds, whichever comes first.
- Silence is golden. Just as pause is important in music, so it can be in conversation. Give others a chance to join the conversation as well.
- Stay on the subject discussed until the appropriate time.
- Don't preach and don't take yourself too seriously. Don't get lost in moral issues.
- Look for visual cues. If you see your eyes moving, or looking at the clock, or a foot starting to beat, you have overstepped the limits, you are probably also out of time.
- Try to be positive. Negative conversations make people negative and it's certainly not the effect you want to achieve.
- You don't have to be right.
- Always be in a good mood. In spite of everything!
- Be discreet, attentive, and understanding.
- Show interest in your interlocutor. Ask them questions. Make them talk.
- Don't give advice. Did someone ask you for them?
- Don't make jokes, unless you're particularly good at it.
Warnings
- Don't be an imposing conversationalist. It will make you selfish.
- NEVER make racist comments (especially if people of different ethnicities are present)
- Have two-way conversations - not one-way.
- Sometimes your interlocutors don't really want to hear from you, so you have to try to interest them with other topics.
- If you feel nervous during a speech, imagine the audience in their underwear (it works).
