As bizarre as it may seem, if you want to have luck, you have to act to get it. Luck often lurks around, waiting to be noticed. Learn to recognize lucky opportunities and take steps to actively invite her into your life.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Part One: Recognizing Opportunities
Step 1. Welcome the unplanned
Spontaneity can throw you off balance, but it's still an inevitable part of life. If you want to be lucky, you need to learn to adapt to unforeseen events and embrace the possible results.
For example, you may have to take unscheduled overtime at work, and have your plans for the night ruined. Sometimes overtime is just overtime, and nothing comes of it. However, consider the possibility that your boss will see you working hard and without complaining during overtime. By making a good impression, you may unintentionally encourage him to give you more opportunities within the company, which could then lead to better pay and greater job satisfaction
Step 2. Talk to the people you meet
Share your story with friendly strangers and acquaintances. You could create an unexpected connection that could lead to greater benefits than you ever imagined.
- It is not necessary to tell every stranger your whole life you meet, but when the opportunity presents itself, take the time to have a real conversation with someone you may not yet know thoroughly.
- Ask the people you meet questions about their lives, and also find out what they dream about and what efforts they make. They will often return the favor and want to know more about you.
Step 3. Maintain good relationships
In addition to meeting new people, you also need to maintain good relationships with those who are already a part of your life. Learn to trust others and allow yourself to rely on them when the situation calls for it. These relationships could also bring unexpected benefits.
- You need to maintain bonds with people in both personal and professional life.
- For better or for worse, the people around you are typically responsible for half or more of your luck. By pushing them away or neglecting your relationship, you will miss out on lucky opportunities that could lead you to.
Step 4. Keep an open mind
Going after a goal is good, but from time to time, you should reevaluate your goals and ask yourself if they are really bringing you everything they could. When you see a sign pointing in a different direction, consider following it.
Avoid getting bogged down in something just because you've spent money on it or invested your time. Maybe you dreamed of becoming a doctor only to realize that you hate that job once you enroll in that course of study. Maybe you've spent the last decade in sales, but recently gained an interest in human resources. If your past goals stop aligning with the person you are today and the life you want for yourself, it means it's time to reconsider them
Step 5. Look on the bright side
Bad things happen, but many times they may have been worse and even have a positive side. Learn to seek the good in any situation. Something that you have defined in the past as "unfortunate" may actually turn out to be "lucky" when viewed from a different angle.
For example, when returning from a horrible blind date, look for the bright side. At least the person you met was not dangerous and your life and well-being were not put at risk. Additionally, the experience can be considered over, and although you may not notice it now, you may have acquired valuable lessons to be grateful for in the future. Furthermore, knowing that that person is not the partner you are looking for helps you to narrow down your search field, making it easier to achieve the desired result
Part 2 of 3: Second Part: Invite Fortune into Your Life
Step 1. Know your strengths
Each of us has strengths and weaknesses. Be aware of what your strengths are and use them as often as possible. Also, learn about your weaknesses, and to avoid situations that force you to rely on your weak parts.
- You can broaden your skills and overcome past weaknesses, but if you don't use the talents you already have, you are missing out on a valuable resource that can help you along the path to fortune.
- By focusing on your strongest qualities, you also narrow your field of vision, which, in this case, is good. When the factors are few, you can focus your time and energy more. And when you dedicate a lot of yourself to an assignment or a dream, you're more likely to come across that "lucky break" you're chasing.
Step 2. Get out of your comfort zone
Be adventurous and take risks. The key is to make most of the risks into calculated risks. Do something that makes you nervous, but plan and prepare it in advance to improve your chances of success.
- Try something you've never tried before or visit a place you've never been. The experience can be good or bad. Either way, you'll never know without trying.
- Before you follow your intuition, make sure you can handle failure. It may seem like a contrary concept to taking risks, but it is what differentiates an insane risk from a calculated one. Failure could produce negative results (e.g. loss of an investment, end of a relationship), although they are bearable without jeopardizing your survival (e.g. without implying the loss of your home, your death or the need to flee your country).
Step 3. Give more
Be generous to other people. Whether you believe in karma or not, the generosity you show to others will come back in some form. When others perceive your kindness, they are also more likely to be kind to you.
- Help others cope with their problems, pursue their aspirations, and find luck in their lives. By helping another person solve their problems, you may see a lucky opportunity that you couldn't see even if you had it in front of your eyes.
- Always avoid keeping track of points. You may end up doing a lot more than what the other person ever did for you, or you may be experiencing the opposite situation. Be careful because it is usually easy to identify a person who is keeping the count, and who with his attitude risks ruining any relationship.
Step 4. Communicate effectively
Improve your ability to communicate with other people. Speak and write more fluently. If you currently have communication difficulties, practice whenever possible until you are able to express yourself correctly enough to avoid misunderstandings and to be able to persuade others to consider your point of view.
Consider learning a foreign language, especially if you want to have more luck in the workplace. Companies may find a bilingual person a better asset than one who speaks only one language. By knowing how to speak and / or write in more than one language, you will see more fortunate opportunities open up in your path
Step 5. Imitate your mentors
If you don't have a mentor, find at least one. Observe how he behaves and try to incorporate some of his behaviors into your life. You don't have to be an exact copy of it, but what's wrong with mimicking something that clearly works?
There is no need to reinvent the wheel. A method that has produced lucky results in the past will likely repeat them in the future. There are never any guarantees in life, but in this case the chances will certainly be in your favor
Step 6. Expect luck to come your way
Don't think of luck as something distant and unattainable. Instead, believe that luck is part of life and that it flows naturally to anyone who allows it. Once the resistances are removed, prosperity will reach you more easily.
Luck may be right under your nose, but by convincing yourself that it is far away you will never be able to spot it
Step 7. Take action
Stop waiting for luck to knock on your door. If you want to invite her into your life, you have to go out and meet her where she is.
- Stop procrastinating. Don't put off what you can do today until tomorrow. If something can be done now, do it now. You will never know what opportunities you missed while you were beating around the bush.
- If you don't go out there and do something, nothing will happen. You can't solve a problem you've never faced or achieve a goal you've never pursued.
Part 3 of 3: Part Three: Away the Bad Luck
Step 1. Stop the negative inner dialogue
Frequently, you may find that you are your own worst enemy. When you tell yourself that you can't do or be something, you push the opportunity away. Stop sabotaging yourself and realize that you are much smarter than you think.
- Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. An area of your life could be real chaos, but it doesn't necessarily mean that you are a generally flawed human being.
- When you criticize yourself, make sure you do it constructively. Identify mistakes using reason instead of emotions, and look for ways to correct them instead of giving up.
Step 2. Overcome the fear of failure
Mistakes are a part of life, and that doesn't make them unfortunate. The right mistake can put you on the path to happiness and fulfillment. Without ever making that mistake, you would never have found the road you needed.
When you make a mistake or fail, take the opportunity and learn from what happened. Ask yourself what you could have done differently and opt for an objective and constructive analysis
Step 3. Don't stop
You are a capable human being, but there is always room for improvement. Rather than settle for your current abilities and circumstances, commit to evolving continuously. Work on both your strengths and weaknesses.
- Educate yourself and become more knowledgeable about what you pursue. This will make it easier for you to see lucky opportunities as they appear in those areas of your life.
- Self development also increases your level of self-confidence. A safer mental attitude will allow you to consider circumstances with greater positivity, and to identify luck where you previously could not see it.
Step 4. Stop relying on superstition
Relying on a lucky charm occasionally can't harm anyone, and if doing so opens your mind to luck, it can lead to something good. Leaning on amulets or superstition as if they were supports, however, can do damage. When you completely rely on an outside source to seek your fortune, you stop looking for it yourself, sometimes making it more difficult to see.
